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Hi girls.
Just a quick question for everyone here. I'm looking for some advice as to how to go out crossdressed. I've only ever done this very briefly once before but haven't done this for a long time.
I suppose one of the biggest concerns for me is that someone may try to pull me. So my question is
How do you avoid someone trying to pull your by chatting you up? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
I was supposed to meet up with a fellow cross dresser at a local bar some years ago. At the last minute she emailed me that she could not make it due to unexpected family visiting from out of town. So, that night I went to the bar in drab after checking it out online and finding it was a gay bar run by a cross dresser.
I had the place to myself for a couple hours. The bartender that evening was a cross dresser and she looked rather nice. I felt comfortable.
The next night I went back as a blonde female. I sat up to the bar and the bartender, a male, asked 'what'll it be little lady?' The previous nights bartender was just getting off work. As she passed me, I greeted her by name. She looked at me as if to say, 'do I know you?' I smiled and let it pass. She did not recognize me from the night before.
Again I had the bar almost completely to myself but when people did show up, and before I was going to leave anyway, no one approached me. Perhaps I just wasn't there when an affable crowd was about.
Keys to avoid getting picked up: if that is your concern. Smile, be polite and above all be confident. If you look nervous you will signal 'i'm prey' If someone dues try to pick you up, just say you can't, you have to meet a friend. If you have to - pretend to call that friends, agree to meet him or her and excuse yourself. Leave casually.
Once you get past your name and his/her name, conversation is easy as long as you remember not to accept an invitation to go somewhere.
I get this dreadful thought everytime I step in the elevator of my building... More dreadful would be if it is someone we know. So, I usually take out my phone and pretend to be chatting/texting.. If someone still says hello... I just smile and in mute voice reply back a brief hello. Once the maintenance staff asked me if I was living in the building and I just softly told him... No.. Just visiting a friend.
At a shop I keep myself to low profile, just checking and buy if I like and pay at cashier using cash as it saves any conversation. At the bar, I order to the wait staff usually softly and chose simple order to avoid longer conversation. If ever someone approached me or opened a conversation, I just smile and get busy with my phone... Enuff said "Back off" is the answer.
Well I do recall similar incident when I was supposed to meet a fellow CD in a bar in Hamburg and she did not turn up. I was all alone and not sure what to do. So I went ahead and approached the Manager to check if it is ok to sit in here and have a drink. He was more than welcoming to offer me a nice table outside and the waitress served me the drinks and food without even ever suggesting anything odd. Although I was so happy to do it on my own but was constantly conscious about myself to eat slowly and sit crossed legs and to check my lipstick and makeup few times.
Left the bar later after an hour fully satisfied... It was amazing to see how we overly anticipate others behavior.
