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Perhaps it's just me but I find myself a little bothered by the fact that on several occasions I see posts by user 'Anonymous', who joined '1 second ago' and has zero posts (even though they follow up a post with several more, it still says zero). It bothers me because I don't have a clue who they are, why they are here, why they hide behind the 'anonymous' label and what they are after. How does this happen? I think it is important to know because although it doesn't bother me if someone finds out about me, I expect there are many here for whom discovery would mean dire consequences.
Curious, Becca.
Hi Becca,
As @melanieelizabeth said, an anonymous user is a former member that deleted their account. They aren't hiding. They're gone from the site.
When a member deletes their account, it removes them from the user database. And that breaks the association with every forum post they have made. It's why you see anonymous with zero posts. Essentially, every one of their posts becomes orphaned.
There aren't any technical 'fixes' for this. It's just the nature of databases. Deleting every one of those anonymous posts is unrealistic. There are thousands of them. Also, deleting them would likely break the flow of a forum thread. And it would delete all the replies to an anonymous post.
Since the user no longer exists in our system, there's no risk that they could be exposed.
When you encounter an anonymous post, simply ignore it.
/EA
@emilyalt thank you for your reply Emily. I didn't know that and it is good to know.
XOXO
Suzanne
@emilyalt
Thanks for your explanation, Emily, I thought they were visitors that hadn't joined.
Allie
Hi, DeeAnn, I mean it's possible to view posts and more without being a member, I just checked before I logged in. Maybe observers or browsers would be more accurate.
Thanks though.
Allie
@alexina No, my point was that there is no Guest or Visitor classification. I should have been a bit more specific.
@alexina Previously I was on a couple of other sites that did very little in the way of policing new members. It ran the gamut from extreme transphobes to people looking for hookups. For the crossdressers and trans women, it became very off-putting and potentially threatening. A number of them left. Eventually I also left because it became annoying and tiresome.
We have to remember that everyone who comes here, and to TGH, is not necessarily in great shape. Many are very insecure about their dressing or gender identity. They don’t need the pressure, tension and misinformation that people outside of the community often bring. There’s a lot of BS out there and we, I’m an Ambassador on TGH, try to screen that element out.
The girls here are really caring, you'll see that in lots of forum posts, and the admin team do a great job of keeping the place safe and "clean".
Absolutely, DeeAnn, oddly I just wrote the above in my welcome to Summer earlier today.
@alexina It’s a sad commentary that some SOB’s have nothing better to do than harass crossdressers and trans people…
Rebecca the anonymous posters are folks that have left the site. Remember cds tend to come and go, many that have left return eventually. I look at it this way leaving cdh is like purging and what percentage of us have done that over the years? The answer is most and we do usually come back just like little miss anonymous.
Hi Becca,
Just as an illustration, I'm a returning member, but with a new name, new(ish) profile and new paintwork, so to speak. And already, I've spotted some of my old posts, now marked down to 'anonymous'. Somewhat strange to think 'hang on, I wrote that". It serves me right for leaving !
Thank you all for the explanation, all is clear now.
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Its been well explained and thank you for those explanations. Its something I had wondered about.
My own bugbear is when someone posts lots of stories about how they live openly as a CD or Trans. Yet don't fill in their profile, or include a pic of some kind. (And send out heaps of friend requests.)
That raises my suspicions about how truthful those stories are about how openly they are CD or trans.
There are many who fill in a decent profile. And who don't have a profile picture. And they engage really well in the forums and have more than a reasonable excuse for not including a pic. Anyways. Enough of my digression.
Good question. Good explanations. Good thread.
There are probably a myriad of reasons behind not posting any pictures of oneself, although in some cases I fail to see why, especially if declaring oneself to be transitioning and obviously appear in public dressed more often than not, but that's up to them. I am more wary of people who have been here for ten minutes and have, say, twenty posts and are friend 'collectors' with upwards of 200 'friends'. I tend to send and accept friend requests with people who I have interacted with in some way or someone of whom I would be interested to follow their cross-dressing progress.
@rebeccabaxter i agree..I'm slow to accept friend requests. And very rarely chat behind the scenes with those I do.
Yes, Becca, I am more discerning now about accepting friend requests. Because I don't do any other social media, I initially accepted friend requests from people I'd never heard from and still haven't, not even a thanks for accepting.
Like you, if I've not interacted with someone, I "take my time" about accepting. Then don't.
Allie
That raises my suspicions about how truthful those stories are about how openly they are CD or trans.
Staff is aware that this is a potential problem. Fantastical stories have no place on CDH. But it's difficult to combat. Denying the poster the attention they crave is the best way to shut them down.
/EA
@emilyalt yes. I imagine it is a difficult issue to combat. I certainly wasn't having a go at admin. I think you do a good job.
I know you weren't Peta. I was merely acknowledging your suspicions. We get them too every now and then.
/EA
