Hello and Happy to be here

Sometimes just removing the secrecy can be enough. If she doesn't want to be part of your en femme life then so be it. The important thing is that you no longer need keep things secret from her. She knows you dress when she's away so embrace the opportunities and respect her wishes.

Doing that can sometimes be a prelude to a softening of a wife's objections or reluctance but honest, open communication is the best thing you can share together.

Best wishes for the rest of your journey.

Hi Connie and welcome to CDH.

Rachel

Dont despair Connie I have cd friends like you that have to dress away from home . True you cant do it with regular frequency but you can still enjoy your journey and experience as I know you need too

Hi Connie, the main thing is that your wife knows, and she hasn't left you or kicked you out of the house. Give her some time and then find some information about cross dressing and see if she is interested in reading about the subject. Try to find a support group in your area and join it, mainly because you can get depressed being in the closet all the time. I wish you well girlfriend in your journey into womanhood.

Ronda

Connie,I am married 45yrs and have 5 children. I told my wife after 10yrs of marriage. As far as I know my children don't know. After i told her i struggled with my femme side on and off. My wife wants no part of my femme side. I told her that I know I am more than a CD. But i don't think I could Transition because of my family. Life is Balance.

Hi Connie and welcome!  I simply copy and paste what a few of the other gals have already said... it's a great thing to come out to the wife and remove that veil of secrecy.  It's so incredibly difficult to maintain that kind of secret around the one we care the most for, that when we finally do it's such an incredibly freeing feeling.

It's great to read that she is able to understand and support this side of you, and her requests are absolutely reasonable.  Continue to respect her requests as you are and hopefully in time her understanding and acceptance will grow.  Until then, enjoy the time you do get to be yourself!

Glad you're here with us!

<3  Lauren

Hi Connie and welcome with us
Catherine

Thank you very much. I am happy to be here

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Hi, My name is Connie. I have been dressing for a very long time. About 10 years ago I came out to my wife and unfortunately she was distraught. We talked that I still loved her and have no intentions of ever leaving her. I am dressing when she would go out for a period of time. Those times seem to grow shorter and shorter. Well, this weekend I decided to push it a little more. I have taken a number of selfies for myself. This past weekend I put one I really liked as a background on my laptop. I kept the screen on an angle enough for wife to catch a glimpse. She saw it and asked who the woman was standing in our yard? I told her it was me and the look on her face was priceless. I asked if she thought I was pretty with no answer, she just stared at picture. I asked again and she nodded yes with a verbal short yes. Then she proceeded to tell me how she will not participate in my dressing. I explained that I still dress when she is away or asleep. I feel much better that we have this out in the open now. The one thing she mentioned is she doesn’t want our kids to know. I can live with that. Thank you all for taking the time to read this. It has/is a long difficult journey.

Connie