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Hi everyone,
I am 30 and totally new to this; I mean I have occasionally tried on clothes belonging to my sister or wife for a long time - since I was little. But I have never bought women's clothes for myself, gone out in public, or even applied make-up to myself. I've always had fantasies of being or becoming a woman, but I have only recently taken seriously the idea I might be transgender or some variety thereof. It's pretty confusing, so I am really interested to hear other peoples' stories to learn more about crossdressing and gender identity.
I am interested in crossdressing, but honestly I am a bit intimidated by all the work that goes into shopping and make up... two things I've never been a big fan of. Is anyone else here not really into those things, despite wanting to cross dress and be feminine?
I'm married and have a small son. My wife knows my interest in CD and that I'm questioning my gender identity, the first she is fine with (or says she is), the second not so much. I am seeing a therapist to help out with this question, but I am still figuring out who I am and what I want.
Hello Andrea,
Let me start by saying that confusion is very common. Working out where we fit within the traditional society we're used to can be a challenge. The good news is that you've come to the right place. Hopefully here we'll be able to help you find answers to all those questions you have. As importantly, we can also help your wife find answers to questions she no doubt has.
Feel free to ask about anything that concerns or even intrigues you. Any of the Ambassadors are always willing to accept private messages to help you get the sort of information or support you need. The same goes for your good lady. You can also join in the chat or the forums. There are lots of options.
As for shopping and makeup, well they are things you have to explore for yourself. Back in my mostly male days I hated shopping for clothes, mostly because male attire was just something I had to have. These days I feel pretty much the same about 'blokey' clothes but I love looking at and for lovely feminine clothing. That's as much because I've accepted who I am so I no longer feel guilt for liking women's clothing.
Makeup is one of those 'finishing touch' things. When I feel like it I love to get fully made up and look as 'womanly' as I can but many days I simply dress in the clothing I feel most emotionally comfortable in and give the makeup a miss. As my wife says, even genetic girls love the occasional makeup-free day. It's about doing what makes you comfortable and happy. Nothing more.
Enjoy being part of the CDH community.
Hugs,
Jane
Andrea,
Wow JAneS already said much of what I would say. I am in that same place as far as not being sure if I want more than the dressing(i.e. whether pat time of full time transitioning is in my future or not.) If you ever want to chat or have questions, please feel free to PM me anytime! I look forward to getting to know you better!
Thanks
Cynthia
Andrea,
Welcome to the wonderful yet confusing world of Crossdressing. There are a lot of girls here that would love to help. Cynthia and Jane are both amazing women and they don't have the answer drop me a line. On the Fashion side I am very good as I have been dressing both myself and my wife for 23 years. Make-up I can send you come links but there is a whole forum topis on it. As for gender identity, what I will tell you is that counseling may be able to help you discern who you are and how you feel, but crossdressing is not a disease so counseling cannot "cure" you.
Best of luck and Welcome,
Codille
Welcome to this crazy journy. The women on here range from wearing lingerie to bed only to full on sex reassignment surgery it is important to talk with your wife about how far you want to travel on this journey. Once the two of you agree it will become easier for the two of you to accept.
