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So I need some help with ideas on how to approach this with my wife. Some background: we have been together for 8 years and married for 2. A couple of years Before we got married I talked to my wife about possibly transitioning and cross dressing. For a short while she helped me navigate putting on makeup, buying clothes etc. things started to get shaky and she wasn't sure she could date a woman. At that point I decided that I would forget about cross dressing and transitioning so I could be with the woman I love. Now after 2 years of marriage and having a beautiful 10 week old daughter, it seems a switch has been flipped and things just came flooding back. For where I am now I don't want to make the transition and I feel being able to cross dress on occasion would be great so I can keep a balance between my male and female self. What I need help with is some ideas on how to approach the topic to say "hey wife I want to cross dress again, would you be okay with it." Any and all advice, would be appreciated ^_^.
Hi Jessica,
These are just my thoughts on your situation, simply as a friend on here.
It seems to me that cis women who are accepting of crossdressing often get cold feet when their partner starts making noises about wanting to take it further i.e. transitioning. There are many benefits to female partners of crossdressers, as my partner, Tanya will attest. However, When transitioning becomes the issue, I think they often feel threatened and feel as if they are potentially losing their man.
So I guess the first step is for you to resolve with yourself whether you can be comfortable with only crossdressing and not want to go further. If this is the case, you could try to explain to her that you have thought long & hard about it and that you have reached that decision. As she was originally supportive and if she believes that you will be content with only going so far, then perhaps you can reach a consensus.
Obviously I only know your situation to the extent you have described it here, but it seems that there is a possibility for a mutual way forward.
If, on the other hand, you decide that you would not be happy simply dressing and would ultimately need to take things further, then you must proceed with caution in the relationship and of course seek professional help on that journey.
I hope these thoughts help you in some small way.
Hugs,
Maxine
2015_relationship advice: Jessica original post:
So I need some help with ideas on how to approach this with my wife. Some background: we have been together for 8 years and married for 2. A couple of years Before we got married I talked to my wife about possibly transitioning and cross dressing. For a short while she helped me navigate putting on makeup, buying clothes etc. things started to get shaky and she wasn’t sure she could date a woman. At that point I decided that I would forget about cross dressing and transitioning so I could be with the woman I love. Now after 2 years of marriage and having a beautiful 10 week old daughter, it seems a switch has been flipped and things just came flooding back. For where I am now I don’t want to make the transition and I feel being able to cross dress on occasion would be great so I can keep a balance between my male and female self. What I need help with is some ideas on how to approach the topic to say “hey wife I want to cross dress again, would you be okay with it.” Any and all advice, would be appreciated ^_^.
