Help With Coming Out to a Girlfriend

It is wise that you want to tell your girlfriend that you cross dress  this early in the relationship.  I would suggest doing something you both enjoy and then bringing it up then.

Thank you for the advice Stephanie.

Shannon honesty is always the best way to go. Being early in the relationship you may need to slowly find out how she feels on the subject in general. If you both like movies bring up movies such as "The Danish Girl" or a comedy such as "Sorority Boys".. and see how she reacts.

Above all you must be willing to make hard choices being true to yourself in what is the most important to you. For me and possibly most all of the girls here embracing our inner woman is a driving force and will and has been with us m o st of our lives and is part of us and generally will not go away. I am not tring to be a wet blanket however I have been where you are now and I know Cynthia Marie has been with me for at least 50 years and I have been fortunate to find two women who had no issues with me dressing. In the beginning I just put myself out there knowing living a lie would hurt both of us.
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Cynthia Marie

Shannon how and when to tell is always a difficult thing to work out. In my case, after 26 years of marriage it became a necessity. I chose a neutral location (a public park) away from distractions and other people and told her I had a secret I'd carried since childhood that was eating me up. We went from there.

Doing it early in your relationship could be taken as a sign of trust. The main thing is that once you decide to tell your girlfriend you have to be ready to be totally honest with any answers she seeks. Modern attitudes are better then they were when my wife and I got together.

I wish you both all the best.

Shannon, I absolutely agree with the advice offered by the other three ladies on here.  Stephanie, Cynthia, and Jane have very sound advice on how and when to tell your Girlfriend.  It is very wise to tell her as soon as you are comfortable, the earlier you can get it out in the open the better.  Trust me it makes a huge difference in the relationship.

How to go about it?  Well that's a bit tougher.  Personally, after spending a good 2 weeks on the verge of telling her, one night I took the "rip the band-aid off" approach.  While it may have taken me a good 30 minutes to babble my way through it, it was the right approach for the two of us and it all worked out great.  You know your relationship and your Girlfriend, you will know when the time is right and how to go about it.  Be prepared to answer some rather tough follow up questions when you do tell her, just remain open and honest.

One thing to remember, that I learned in the days that followed, don't forget that you've had an entire lifetime to accept that this is a part of who you are - she's just learning it for the first time... give her some time to compute it all and ask questions.  Hope it all goes great!!  Hugs!!

<3  Lauren

Thank you all for your advice! I talked with my friend Lydia who knows that I am a cross dresser and fully supports me. She gave me some advice as well. I am taking all of this to heart and I hope that everything goes well when I tell my girlfriend.
Hugs and kisses!<3
Shannon

Hey! So I did it! I told my girlfriend last night and was surprised by her response. She sad that she accepted it but was slightly confused which is understandable. She doesn't see it as a bad thing and is willing to work with me through it. Also, she said that she just wants to know if I'm into guys or girls and I told her not to worry since I am strait and that I deeply care for her. I love this girl and am so happy that she accepts this side of me.

2016_relationship advice: Shannon Harper original post: 

Hey Everyone, I’m Shannon!

So me and my girlfriend have been dating for a while now and I want to tell here that I am a crossdresser but I do not know how to tell her. I am really passionate about this relationship so I want it to work out for a long time to come. She is a very open minded girl and I think that she would understand and try to work through it with me. That is one of the reasons I am dating her. I want some ideas on how to tell her and maybe see how some of you have come out to your SO.

Love you all! Hugs and Kisses,

Shannon H.