HI everyone

Hi Kelly,
Welcome to our community.
I wonder if there is ever a perfect time.
There are many wonderful ladies here with a whole lot of experience and ideas.
Make yourself at home, wander through the forums and engage in the chat.
I sure you will find plenty of people interested in your situation.
Feel free to message me or any of the other Ambassadors should you feel the need.
Hugs,
Maxine

Hello kelly,

Welcome to Crossdresser Heaven. You've come to the right place for the help, encouragement and support you need for the challenge you've set for yourself.

As Maxine says, there may never be a right time so it's often a case of creating the best time. In my case, once I'd made the decision to come out, I told my wife that I needed to talk to her because I had something really important to talk to her about. I took her to a public park, away from the distractions of home, found a spot there that was comfortable yet gave us privacy, and sat down with her and told her. Essentially I told her that I'd harboured a secret since my childhood - I am a crossdresser.

The reactions we get from our loved ones cover the whole spectrum from total acceptance and support to rejection. With luck most wives react somewhere in the middle at first and with the right approach many can and do come around to the acceptance we seek. Not all support but many do at least accept that it happens and allow us to do so in private.

Only you will know your own personal circumstances but we're here to try answer any questions you might have and discuss how you might approach the difficult subject.

Best wishes,

Jane

Kelly Nicole,

Two of my good friends and fellow ambassadors have already said hello, I also want to add my welcome to the letter of friendship I sent to you. I came out to my wife quite a while ago ore we got married, but also have 3 kids and am in the stage of figuring out how to approach that end of things as well. I would love to talk to you as we seem to have some things in common and I could help with the conversation with your wife as well. I know it is NOT an easy talk.

Hugs,

Codille

Hi Kelly-great intro post.  I was not fortunate enough to have an accepting or even tolerant wife so I will leave the best advice to those like Codille and JaneS and others who have had success in gaining at the least tolerance and at best acceptance from their spouses and in some extremely fortunate cases active participation!  I will add my two cents(or maybe a shilling 🙂 ) that the most important thing when you DO decide to have that conversation is to be HONEST.  If you are satisfied with crossdressing itself as an activity and have no plans to explore  or go further with things, then you can tell her that   If you DO have thoughts or questions about that, you don't necessarily have to volunteer that information but do not lie about it if she asks as that i snot fair to either of you.  Finally, don;t make promises you can't keep. I, like many others, promised I'd stop and never do it again and was sincere in trying to do so. But as many if not most discover, the urges tend not to decrease but stay the same or intensify as you get older.  Make sure she knows it is nothing she did to "cause" these desires nor is it because she is somehow NOT doing something.  Finally remember that love and trust are the keys o any good relationship.  I wish you good luck as you navigate these exciting shoals.

Cynthia