How Do You Personally Describe Your Gender?

I know exactly  how you feel, but at my age could care less what people  think, l am happy and considering coming out fully

Wore men's clothing 68 years but last 34 dressed as a closet person. Feel better dressed than ever did about myself. Single to getting ready to move to less recheck area and come out completely

I also don't care much what people think and am happy being myself. I may never be able to define my gender but I hope this site can teach me how to share it with people in my life.

Hi Sam, read my profile and PM me , I look forward to hearing from you. hugs,Maddie

I try not to put labels on things Sam because that means you're all in one category or under one heading and I don't like that. Every person is an individual so what describes me doesn't fit for you. I'm Heather, you can call me a crossdresser, transvestite, bisexual but at the end of the day I'm just Heather and I try to be the best and nicest Heather I can be. Now it's up to you to figure out what Sam is. That's the biggest struggle all people have, it took me thirty years of soul searching and beating myself up to come up with and accept WHO I am not what I am.

I think Heather hit the nail on the head.  After all of the years of my life journey, Gina is now me, and I am Gina.  I can't really give myself a label.  I am a bi-sexual man, who lives like a woman, and tries to get through life the best way I can.  I take one day at a time with no expectations other than to treat others as I would like to be treated.  What gender am I?  I can't really define myself.

Good luck, Nikkei. I hope everything works out well for you. Hugs, Melissa

Well basically started out to be a cross dresser. I am man who enjoys dressing and making up as a woman.

Basically this relieves a lot of stress for me.

However as I have moved along I started to enjoy my feminine side and have been developing more as a woman becoming more feminine and woman like when dressed.

I guess transgender best describes me since I have developed more than as a crossdresser.

I make a lovely woman when dressed and have been accepted as a woman when out.

Please read my profile and if you wish you can PM me with any questions. I would be happy if you would. I enjoy talking to others that enjoy cross dressing and checking out their feminine side.

Hi Sam.

Much like Heather, I'm not a big fan of labels. That said, a label can be powerful when applied to oneself -- especially if that label explicitly places you into a "minority" group. As you alluded to, though, one of the big problems with labels, even the ones we apply to ourselves, is that oftentimes they mean different things to different people.

To most of the world, I identify and present as male. I dress as a male, I use a male name, and when given the opportunity to choose a gender I choose male - even when the choices presented have options beyond the typical binary male/female.

To a select few, though, I identify myself as gender fluid. The group is pretty small, especially outside of this forum. My wife, kids, and a small handful of friends. (And none of those friends live nearby; I'm not sure if that's a coincidence, or if I felt "safe" coming out to them because they're not able to "judge" me in person.) For me, my gender isn't a binary choice of male or female. My gender expression, and how I feel inside too, is always a "mix" of male and female; the exact percentage (or whatever you want to say) if that mix varies from time to time. My toenails, for example, are just about always painted (currently purple, but I need to re-do them). I only wear panties. I only wear women's jeans, unless I'm doing yard work or some other messy job like painting.

At home, I allow the "mix" to show a lot more. I wear nightgowns around the house, rather than the gym shorts I used to wear. I sometimes put on lipstick, even if my face has a day or two of stubble on it. I sometimes wear a dress and heels, put on a wig and do my hair, and/or put on a bra with my breast forms.

That said, I started off identifying as "just" a crossdresser - and as recently as this time last year, that's all it was. I owned panties and stockings, and was pondering ordering my first bra, a skirt, and a pair of heels. It's been a wild year for me, exploring and opening up to myself - and others, as a result. I couldn't tell you at all why I waited until my mid-40s to start exploring. I wouldn't change any of it, though, except maybe to start sooner.

I don't know if any of that helps you at all. Hopefully it at least gives you some proverbial food for thought. My inbox is always open if you'd like to chat privately about anything I've said, or anything else for that matter.

Wow. What a great contribution, Rose. Very thoughtful, indeed. Your situation, as you described it, also closely aproximates my own. If it's OK with you, I'd like to forward your post to my wife, who is struggling and can use all the help we can provide. Hugs, Melissa

Of course that would be OK, Melissa. But thank you for asking first.

Has she registered on here and joined the Wives and Significant Others forum? Perhaps having a community to support and help her work through her feelings would be beneficial, just like it's been for us.

This is a complicated question. I have spent many hours over the past year in reflection on that very idea.  At the moment, this is where I  stand

I am a man and I don't want to be a woman. I am simply seeking harmony between my masculinity and femininity. I am as comfortable wearing a suit and tie as I am wearing a dress and heals. It as about what is cofor table and feels right for me.

MacKenzie Alexandra

I've been thinking about this too.  For now its enough for me to know that within me there is the man I've always been, but also parts of me that aren't masculine and haven't been able to be expressed.

Of the labels I've encountered I'm not really transanything, I don't want to replace my masculine side, but to suppliment it.  The label I like best is "Two Spirit" which feels right to me.  Both are part of me, even if they are contradicions are valid.

I am a man who loves to feel feminine. But its a feeling thats growing and who knows where it will go. I am asking myself lots of questions at the moment. So as for where i go i dont know but i do know that i need to be Rebecca more and to take Rebecca out in public.