How Do You Personally Describe Your Gender?

I'm a heterosexual closet cd-for me it's all about the clothes. I love wearing my favourite lingerie, a firm girdle, long line bra, pantyhose and slip. I own one leather dress, a PVC pencil skirt and a pair of shiny leggings.  Being a closeted cd, my opportunities to dress are  few and far between. The few times that I have ventured outside, my lingerie has been hidden under my male winter clothes. My ultimate goal is to one day dress as a complete woman, sexy lingerie, a beautiful dress, tall boots, big hair wig (love the 50s/60s up style hairdos), makeup, and nail polish. Then to walk outside and enjoy the feeling. To ease my nerves, this dream would have to happen in another city during one of the many pride parades in our country-to be invisible among the crowds and fellow gurls.

I don't like body hair i wax my body,I like men,I like silky things wearing women's clothing all the time,I don't  like pants,give me a dress or a skit anytime and make up

I think we're all included somewhere under the broad transgender umbrella. I belong to a transgender community organization in my area, and crossdressers are warmly welcomed at their events. When I dress, I am "she" or "her." When I am in male persona, I don't care what I'm called.

This is an interesting question. Recently there was a works on line questionnaire, with a question about your sexual persuasion

Heterosexual;   Homosexual ;    Bi sexual ; other

I ticked “Other”

Not sure if it had Cross dresser or Transsexual I would have ticked either of them. Transsexual is according to the world of Google “a person who emotionally and psychologically feels that they belong to the opposite sex”

Currently I feel that I like and enjoy wearing woman’s clothes, but am sexually excited by females.-(eg my wife)  So not sure if there is a word for this situation. Nearest I think is Cross dressing.

Oh Tina, there is much room for confusion with us girls...
the 'problem' is that sex (chromosomes) and gender (how we choose to act), and sexual orientation (who we choose to be intimate with) are three separate things and don't necessarily influence each other - society doesn't get this... and so, they don't know what to do with us.
Gender is a social construct, there is nothing inherently male or female, only how society assigns things - boys = trucks, girls = dolls, etc. Judith Butler talks about this a lot and though I don't get much of it, the ideas seem completely right to me.
I opt for gender fluid if I have to label, though really I just feel that the more I embrace the femme and reject the masc, the happier I am.

If I had to give myself a label I would say Translesbian, It took a long time to realize I was not just a CD but trans. I have not done anything about it but if I did (and it's way too late now) I would be a woman into other women.

For brevity, when I came out to a few friends and family I referred to myself simply as gender nonspecific. I fully embrace both sides and find myself sliding along the scale fairly fluidly. My wife and daughter know, and are very loving and accepting so I can dress somewhat freely at home, but there are times when I want more.

I have to hold back the feminine side those times I have to interact with the world. Because of this I find that it becomes more of a need. I do small things; shaving my legs, painting toenails, growing out my fingernails. Small, almost unnoticeable touches to keep a connection into each world. I would love to be able to wear heels with my best suit and a flowing blouse underneath when going out, or painted nails and flats. Perhaps a pencil skirt and polo shirt and off to work. A constantly variable mix from from fully femme to fully masculine. I am comfortable with myself at all points in between, now I just need to world to be too.

I'm bi-gender. I was born male, but feel more female. I'd love to live as a female 24/7 but can't because of my job. I don't want to use hormones to appear more female because sometimes I like letting my male side out. The only surgery I'd like to have is breast enhancement.

Hi Amanda:  Your post really pushed a button for me. I would probably describe myself the same way. As a trans lesbian, I find that I am attracted to both genetic women and trans women, including cross dressers. Thanks for inspiring me to identify my sexuality more accurately. Hugs, Melissa

I'm a heterosexual male. I'll always be Man in a dress. I have no desire to be female. Tons of body hair. Tons of facial hair. Even the world's great make up artist couldn't get me to pass as female. I do not have this desire.

I like to dress like a female. Hair and make up, but this is pretend. I'm am happy being male, but I love Donna. She keeps me calm. She relaxes me. She makes me smile, and I need something to smile about at the moment.

I would like to be able to dress more often, tell and show my friends, but this is only to tell them that I am a crisscrossed, with no intention or desire to transition. I just like too pretend I'm someone else for a while.

I can say I know exactly what you are saying but for me I really feel I’m truly a girl inside. I’m wanting to become who I’m meant to be and live as her. When it come to sexual encounters I truly love and feel free. I love being treated and being the girl I am. I don’t know anybody that cross dress like no friends ect, actually it’s been I secret I’ve kept and carried since a 5yr old boys. The only times I’ve told people is When I’ve had sexual encounters.

Will really I am bi also as I’ve been with both sexes i admit I love being sexually with a woman I was married for ten yrs no longer an though. But honestly I truly feel happier and at peace when I ive had encounters with Guys dressed in lingerie doing and being treated as the woman I’ve know I truly am inside since a young boy.

I consider myself a man. What I have found is that while it is still exciting to dress as a woman, or in my case under dress, what I have found is an inner peace and emotional comfort. Being or becoming a woman is my "go to" place for solace. As I develop my womanhood I see it as my very special place, I see it as my refuge from the world.

I also found how much I truly enjoy the things of a woman. My favorite item is a bra. It makes me feel so feminine. It makes me feel like I have transformed into a woman.

Jessica

I have just had a look and can confirm that I have all the equipment to be male, then I looked in the mirror and definately saw a woman looking back at me.

I guess my gender must be an inbetweeny?

Sally x

Personally I got tired of trying to apply a label to myself. It has taken me 40 years to break free of the cisgender male Pidgeon hole that I was born into. I am reluctant to stuff myself into some other Pidgeon hole that will again place limitations on what is acceptable for me to do, feel and think. I did spend many years trying to find a label that fits, gay? Trans? Trans lesbian? Gender fluid? Bi-gender?.. nothing seems to quite fit. I guess for the sake of describing myself to others I would have to call myself a crossdresser* or transvestite*. With the "*" being further discuss as to what that actually means.
I do not dress as a woman, I dress in a way that answers a call from some component of myself. Dressing in clothes that are traditionally considered female is, for me like getting into a freshly made bed, I feel peace, calm and right. I do not reject masculinity, but I need to also embrace this other facet of my self.
In short, I don't know what I am and as my counselor would say "that's ok".

If you find a label that fits, that's awesome, but don't try to force yourself to fit a label. Be you, be proud of who you are!

D.