How long do I wait?

That's a tough one Joni!  Sounds like she's processing it all.  One thing I learned in the immediate days that followed telling my girlfriend (now my wife) is that each of us have had our entire lifetimes to come to the terms with the fact that crossdressing is a part of what makes us who we are.  We understand it, we have read about it, we have thought about it, we have (potentially) talked to others about it, and have come to the realization that this is who we are.

For the special people in our lives, this is very new information that can be quite overwhelming.  By the time we share this with someone in our lives we already have many years head start on them in understanding it all.  While it would be great, we cannot expect everyone we tell to understand and support this newfound information as quickly as we'd like them to.  Each person is different, some will understand and support it very quickly, and for some people they may feel as though they might need to take a step back and process it for a bit longer.  In that situation it might be wise to slow play it a bit, give her some space and time.

One thing I can say for sure... it's definitely not under the rug.  I can assure you she has given it some thought and is probably just waiting on the right time to talk to you about it.  Just my two cents!  Give us an update when you have a chance.  I hope she came around and all is marvelous!  Hugs!

<3  Lauren

Great reply LAuren! Very accurate and very thoughtfully written.

2016_relationship advice: Amber Lee original post: 

So I told my fiance the 2 days ago that I’m a crossdresser. She was understandably upset and we talked thru the night and a couple times in between. But today we haven’t said much of anything to each other. I don’t want to be pushy but I don’t want to slide it under the rug either. I’m just curious what your thoughts where about a time frame we for talking?