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Hello Jess,

Although your profile is empty, so we don’t know anything about you, I gather that you’ve recently discovered that your partner is a crossdresser. Previously you discovered that he is bisexual.

Let me start by saying that crossdressing and sexuality are not related. Some crossdressers are gay, some bisexual and some heterosexual, just like in every other element of society.

Something else for you to consider is that not all crossdressers seek to transition to female, most only present as female when they can or as they choose to. Just because your partner likes to crossdress doesn’t mean he wants to become a woman. Only by sitting down and discussing things openly and honestly will you both know and understand how you each feel about things.

There is no need to feel bad about being uncomfortable, you have a lot to think about and you can be certain that many women have had or still have feeling like yours.

You and he can get things going by talking frankly. Once you’ve done that we here at CDH are happy to help where we can.

Hi Jessica. Welcome to CDH. I hope over time we can help you out, as needed.

Hi Jessica and welcome to CDH.

Rachel

Hi Jessica welcome with us
Catherine

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Hi all so about 5 months ago I found messages from a a girl pretty much about them having sex!! We have been together for about 1 and a half years at this point.

i confronted him about I was devistated and so was he, he told me it was one big mistake bla bla any we I decided to try move forward with it and I still felt the erge to talk to her I found her number and rang her.

i still remember this day like it was yesterday her saying “it’s worse because I’m transgender” she was lovely to me but her saying I should just break up with him made my heart sank.

so I rang my partner and said I was leaving and said I new all about who she/he was and he was ok about.

This made me made but I still needed answers btw we were living with each other for about 1 year any way I meet up with him and he got in my car not looking at me he lost it shacking and crying and telling me he does not know what’s wrong with him.

i felt sorry for him so I kept my cool and talked to him calming about it he told me there had been about 8 others men and tragender.

weather it was right for me to do this I told him that I loved him and that we can work through this at this point he didn’t mention to me about the cross dressing, sowe are now engaged and he says he’s so happy he found me he never told any one about being bi ect

2 weeks ago I brought up the bi convocation as I like to listen from time to time about how he feels towards me and give me piece of mind but this time he told me he liked to dress up in women’s clothes I then felt me heart sink but new we had to talk about it so I did with have one break down thinking he might change into a woman or me not filling his needs

so in the last two weeks we have been going out to get just small thing he’s never had his own clothes so we just got him some underwear and a nightie and he got some high heels

I was so uncomfortable in the shop but I feel like this is what I have to do to keep him happy

I want to make this work more then anything in the world I love him to pieces but I’m scared all the time that I will wake up and he has changed on me

I know it’s been a long read but please any advice would be great

thanks jess