Krisy says Hi, at last.....

Hi Krisy and welcome to CDH.

Rachel

Thank you Rachel, beautiful name by the way

Krisy

Hello Krisy and welcome. Now that you've found us neither of you ever need to feel alone again. Your wife is as welcome here as you are if she is interested. We even have a special group and exclusive forum for wives and SOs.

We're here to help in any way that we can.

Have fun.

Thank you Jane, this place has such a great vibe.

Krisy

Hi Krisy and welcome!  No need to be shy here, this is a great place that is absolutely filled with a sorority of gals who are all caring, supportive, and wonderfully friendly.

From the sound of it, your wife is at least mostly understanding and supportive... that's a great thing!!  Consider yourself sooo lucky, I have read so many heartbreaking stories of other gals who have come out to their wives only to have it end very badly.  Best advice I have for you, continue to be completely open and honest with her when you two do have time together to discuss it all.  Take it all at her pace and allow her the time and space to understand just how much all of this is a part of who you are.

So glad you've joined up with us and made that first intro post!  Dive into the site and have fun with it.  There are so many resources and individuals on here who are always willing to lend a helpful ear (or eye) anytime you may need it.  Glad you're here!

<3  Lauren

Hi Lauren,

You are so right,  great advice, I'm so looking forward to getting away but really nervous about how it will go. She is an amazing woman who has been by my side through so much. I have read so many heartbreaking stories it does make me worry, the least she deserves is for me to respect her wishes hopefully without compromising mine too much.

Thank you for your lovely words

Krisy

Hi Krisy and welcome with us
Catherine

2016_introductions new members: Krisy original post: 

I’ve started writing this several times, each time I chicken out so here we go again.

At 55 I have finally succumb to that niggle that every now and again led me to experiment with my wife’s clothes. The main trouble with that is that she is 2 sizes smaller than me and with 3 boys at home, safe time was always very scarce.

When I did have the opportunity, our good friends guilt and shame made sure my feelings were jammed back to the dark recesses of my mind.

Over the past 10 years we have now and again played in the bedroom with me wearing some of SOs underwear, it was amazing and she played along for a laugh, (in that kind way a parent might let a young one beat them at football now and then, (the one with the round ball!).

Also for around 20 years I have been suffering with depression, this is relevant as I have been seeing a psychologist for about a year. She has helped me enormously, including helping me decide to be more open with my wife. So around a month ago I told her. As most have found, it was quite a shock if not a complete surprise.

So that’s where we are. We have talked a few times but it’s still a struggle for her, and to be honest for me too. We have some vacation coming up in a couple of weeks and she has already mentioned it may be easier to talk when we are more on our own. On the plus side she is not objecting to me dressing when she is at work, and sometimes underdressing when we are home alone.

I don’t know where this is going,  (sound familiar?) but I do know this amazing site has helped me understand that I’m not alone in this. To anybody reading this far, thank you so much,keep up the great work xxxx

Krisy

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