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hi girls
i have a problem and im not sure what to do , my brother is moving over soon to live with me and he doesnt know i like to dress , im at odds with either hiding it from him which since i just came out to my fiance will be hard or whether i should tell him and find out if he will still think of me as a brother or hate me im not sure what to do but i dont want to give up now since i just got happy
Does anyone else in your family know of your dressing?(parents/siblings/cousins)? And is your fiancee accepting?tolerant?not thrilled at all? If she is tolerant/accepting then (besides making you very lucky 🙂 ) it makes it more likely that I WOULD tell the brother. but it also depends on whether the rest of your family is aware too. If so, then I'd definitely tell him. If not, you have to take into account the real likelihood that he would tell others.
If I were in your heels 🙂 any my fiancee was OK with it(as she should be part of the decision making process since she will be affected too if thins become public) then I would tell im and let the chips fall where they may. You took the biggest two steps already-accepting yourself and telling he person you hope to pend our life with. I'd hate to take a step back into the closet in that position. SO talk to your fiancee and decide what BOTH of you are comfortable with and go forth boldly however you agree.
That;s this girl's advice anyway. Good luck and let us know how it goes!\
Cynthia
hi skippy yes my mum knows too and yes my fiance is accepting but having some little probs with it i would never tell my dad but i think he knows , i have talked about this with krystie (sorry it feels rude to keep typing fiance her name is krystie ) but conversations get awkward after a few mins so i keep it to a min . im really scared what my brother will think but your right and i know i can get through this ty for such lovely and helpful advice i really appreciate it trish38
Your welcome and do let us know how it goes! You have to be true to yourself(cause its not something that goes away-it either stays the same or gets stronger--been there,done that-got the cami 🙂 !) Krystie sounds wonderful and if she is the one then she;ll understand and if not better to find out before marriage and kids are involved. I wish I had been upfront prior to marriage (both with her and myself). C'est la vie!
Good luck,
Cynthia
🙂
Yay im so happy i did it i told my brother and he was ok with it iwas so scared but i went ahead and told him he was very accepting so glad it all worked out well
FAntastic girl! Now hopefully you can dress how you want when you want(at least in your own home)(or out if you're brave than this girl is so far. I haven't told all my siblings yet(one sister knows about my crossdressing) and my parents already passed on and my kids know(gron son and daughter 21 and 22). But none of my other sisters know(2 brothers also already passed on) and no one but my counselor and the ladies here know that I am still questioning if it is more than crossdressing that I need.
But enough about me-this is YOUR happy day and thanks for brightening up my evening(ok technically my early early morning since it's 1am here!)
Cynthia
hi skipy
ty so much i did actually sorta go out in public lol it was just out the front to do some gardening it felt good in the sun , im sorry for your losses , lost a few family members in the last year . i am so excited to be able to me , im just starting to look at make up and my hair has a natural perm im so lucky 🙂
oops so sorry
cynthia
You can call me whatever you like, Trish!
