Stephanie finally dressed for her wife

Oooommmmmggggggg, that's incredible, i am so pleased for you

🙂 🙂 🙂

Krisy xx

Girl that is awesome. I am still waiting for the day my wife can meet Victoria. She knows about her and has seen some of her clothing but is not ready to meet her.

Thanks for the hope and inspiration

<3 Victoria

Congrats, Stephanie! That's fantastic, and it's always wonderful to hear the stories of wives who accept our girlie sides.

I'm sure those hours chatting covered many areas but the best part is that you both felt relaxed enough to do so.

There will be lots more girlfriend chats ahead, I'm sure. Enjoy them together.

Stephanie,that is fantastic.I am very happy that your wife accepts you as Stephanie.Please be gentle and kind with your wife and answer her questions truthfully and be the lady you are.Your wife is a vast storehouse of knowledge,learn from her .Let your relationship flourish on all levels and have fun.

Thank you to the ladies who have commented on my experience with my wife.

Unfortunately there is a dark side to this story.

Yesterday I spent over 6 hours with my wife and even had dinner with her. But as the evening passed it was obvious that something was not right with my wife. Yes she accepts that I am both Stephanie and my male self, but what has been bothering her is that it took 30 years for me to tell her about Stephanie and she says all that time I was deceiving her and living a lie. She said that she cannot trust me that I will keep Stephanie inside our home and not tell anyone we know. She said that it would crush her if anyone else knew about Stephanie  Well, of course she is correct and right now I am trying to think of how to regain her trust.

It has only been 2 months since I told her about Stephanie and I think I have been moving too fast. I need to let my wife have more time and space to sort things out.

My wife did say that hopefully time will heal her pain.

I am sorry if this post is a downer but I like to think that the ladies here at CDH will allow a girl to tell her story.

Hugs to all,

Stephanie

Although I haven't dressed for my wife yet and I have no plans to, I can relate to the rest of your situation. My wife of almost 20 years just found out about Holly over this last year. We've only had two talks about it and she basically avoids ever approaching the subject because like you said, it's just too much to process. Us girls have had most of our lives to at least be aware of this other side of ourselves but our wives are just hearing about it now and it was not part of the picture for most of our lives together. I was frustrated at first that she couldn't just accept this part of me as no big deal, but when I thought about it this way, I started to back off a lot and just be thankful that she at least knows now and I'm no longer hiding this secret from her. Good luck!🍀 it sounds like you've already made more strides with yours than I have 😋

Congrats to you Stephanie. That is a big step and a stressful one at that. After so many years of marrriage I can understand why she was upset you hadn't told her about this sooner. Maybe you could just trell her it was something you dabbled with when you were younger, had pretty much forgotten about it. I was a kids passing fancy and recently for some unknown reason you got the urge to try it again.

Soon after I met my wife I dressed up for her. I had been dressing pretty seriously and often for a couple of years when we met. I was also wearing pantyhose with short shorts back then and she notice how my legs looked so nice. Tan smooth and shiny.

When she came to my place and saw all the women's I could see she was visibly upset. She thought I lived with a woman. I didn't know what to do so I came clean. I told her I didn't just wear pantyhose and short shorts. I also wear these other clothes and go to college parties dressed in them.

She asked me to dress up for her. I went into the bedroom. Made myself up, put on one of my favorite outfits, came out and introduced her to Patty. She was amazed at how sexy and pretty I looked and she liked it a lot.

The bottom line is except for that first time, I never had to deal with the secret dressing and whether or not to reveal myself. I'm always in pantyhose lingerie and heels around the house, often more.

Hello Stephanie from another Stephanie. When I read your initial post I was so happy for you. I have been dressing secretly for years and my wife does not know, and I so want her to know and to accept it. I want to be able to share this part of me with her in the worst way. I just don't know how to do it. Then your second post put a damper on my dreams. I feel that the same thing would happen with me too. I would rather dress secretly than to lose her.

So, I am wondering, if you don't mind, how's it with you now? It's been several months. Is your wife more accepting now or not? I hope, hope, hope she is.

Yesterday Stephanie spent the afternoon and evening cooking and baking with her wife. Such a wonderful feeling to share this activity with her. I was very emotional as my mother was an excellent baker and we used her recipes. It felt good to feel that I am my mother's daughter.

Stephanie it looks like you're experiencing the same sort of thing many of us do when we finally come out. As hard as it is for us to know exactly how they feel we do need to acknowledge that their feelings of betrayal and a sense that they can't trust easily are valid. That said, they will often not be able to see why we've felt a need to keep the secret. It's easy to say "I wouldn't have kept a secret if it was me" but that's only because they've not had any great secret.

I hope you get to do more baking and so on Stephanie. Small steps along the road to reconciliation is the best approach.

I want to thank all the lovely ladies here at CDH for your kind words of support. Especially I want to acknowledge JaneS who always provides such thoughtful and loving support. Stephanie could not have come this far in her journey without the continuing support she has always received from the ladies here at CDH.

Hugs to everyone

Stephanie

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To my dear sisters at CDH – yesterday Stephanie finally dressed for her wife for the first time and they spent over four hours drinking wine and chatting! I want to thank all the lovely ladies here at CDH for giving Stephanie the courage to come out to her wife two months ago and for all the fantastic articles and stories in the Forums that brought Stephanie to where she is today.