Told my wife about Stephanie

Wonderful sweety. I have not dressed for several years but have started again so I need to tell my wife again. So scary!

Hello Stephanie,
Firstly, congratulations on taking that big leap of faith. Don't be put off by that initial reaction. Remember that it has most likely come as a complete shock and she will need time to start to think about it (I suspect her initial reaction will be to avoid thinking about it at all) and to try work out what it means.

You've covered the hardest part of it all, the 'why didn't you tell me before' side. My advice is to now be totally open with your responses to any questions she has. Let her know that you are willing to answer any she may ask and to discuss her fears and concerns.

Give her time. I usually tell people to remember how long it took them to become comfortable with who they are. Don't try to rush your wife in doing the same.

Let her know that if she wants to talk to others in her situation with a degree of anonymity (some wives find they can't tell anyone close) then we have a group dedicated to wives and significant others. She can interact with other ladies in the same position as her.

Crossdresser Heaven is here for both of you.

Best wishes,

Jane

Stephanie,

Going in the right direction! Keep wife free to ask questions and answer honestly! Looking up! Best wishes for you both and a good outcome. Hugs Lana Mae

Echo what Jane said Stephanie! Time and patience are your friend!  Congrats on being able to finally share this part of your life  wit her even as it takes a while for her to adjust to the new reality.

Cyn

hello stephaniethat sounds very rough. i lucked out i am totaly new to this scene ijust came out 3 days ago and when i told my wife about  she surprised me she went for a couple of hours and gave some new panties and a new blouse i have always wanted to dress up but i was to afraid how my family wood react but once  i put them on a big change came over me fore the first i had self esteame and confidence  and she is more excited for m then i am and because of her suportof who i am i am i do realy care what any body else thinks i am now whole and i'm part a family of real beautiful people i truly lucked out

To all of the lovely ladies at CDH, I cannot thank everyone enough for your support. This group gave Stephanie the courage she needed to come out to her wife and now all of you who have provided follow-up support I cannot thank you enough.

My wife and I have talked about Stephanie since I came out a few days ago. I was surprised that her main concern was that Stephanie would transition full time and she would lose her husband. I told her that Stephanie has been around for 50  years and that if she did not transition before she will  not do it now. My wife is still asking many questions about Stephanie so we will need to take time to see how she and Stephanie will get along.

Again girls, than you all for your loving support.

Hugs to  all,

Stephanie

Stephanie,

Great news! Best wishes to both of you! Hugs Lana Mae

What a promising new understanding for both of you!!

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Well girls, Stephanie finally told her wife about her dressing two days ago. I could have handled the initial conversation  better as my wife was upset about not  being told since we have been married 29 years. Yesterday we had a very long talk and this time I was prepared to explain that Stephanie has been dressing for 50 years and was too afraid to  tell anyone, even her wife. Things went much better yesterday but my wife does not want to  be part of Stephanie at this time even though she understands that Stephanie will dress when she is not at home. An interesting question she asked was if Stephanie wants to  transition since so many  girls are coming out through the media. I told her definitely  not and that I hope time will allow her to be more interested in Stephanie.