Accepting who you are

I kinda think the striving for self acceptance thing is over rated.

To explain in more detail. If self acceptance was that important, we would totally accept ourselves as men, in a male body. BUT - most of us don't.

I think once we bridge the gap between who we are / and who we are, we can be content in who we are. If you like, to use that blasted "Acceptance" terminology. While I dislike the tension and conflict this terminology creates, I don't have any better terminology to replace it.

I'm sitting in a dress right this moment. But am equally comfortable in my jeans. Its a stinking hot and windy day. And the dress is cooler.

To complicate matters. While I'm content being me. I'm aware others may not be. And around them I'm content to be myself as a male.

Anyways. Despite my confused ramble. Well done. And glad life went well for you

Dear Sarah,

There's a polished man campaign?

Since you already wear polish and your granddaughter knows, it's just a matter of time before Dear Wife finds out. If she doesn't suspect already.

After years of suppressing my CD desires, I have come to accept Thai am a crossdresser. Since I live alone, I can keep my clothes stored in a bedroom closet, not hidden in the attic.  My femme alter ego Kerri dresses up and goes out about once a week.  I’m not out to my family but since they don’t live close to me its not a big deal.  My ex knew about me but that wasn’t the reason we got divorced.  I hope all my CD sisters can come to accept yourselves too.

Hi Eileen,

yes the polished man campaign raise’s money each October for the awareness of abuse towards women and children 💅🏻

I have accepted my c/dressing side now , at first I had mixed feelings about it . Was I normal or was it done my hundreds of others ?.Over the years I got less bothered about the rights and wrongs and just enjoy the feelings when dressed , my wife accepted this side of me and likes it when her girl friend comes to visit .

I just about said I accepted I was a CD long time ago, but remembered many purges and hiding items from my wife I was not accepting. Now I have not only accepted my need to sometimes CD but I think I am transgender. I am soooo close to fully socially transitioning, don't know yet about HRT or surgeries. I think for me to present as a woman 24/7 may be enough.

Cassie

Hi Sarah,

I accepted myself a long long time ago. I've said it more than once here that, for me, being a CD is a gift. I get the best of both worlds. I enjoy my guy time and girl time. I get to experience what men go through and when I'm Trish I get to experience life as a women, two different worlds, two different people. I'm fortunate that I pass as a women and that makes experiencing the two different people that live in m body that much more exciting. I've never had any regrets for being who I am. Thanks for the post.

Trish  💖

Hi Trish,

Thank you for your reply unfortunately I can’t pass as a woman however I cannot stop thinking about it, at work I’m in total male mode…my boss asked me why I paint my nails and I said I’m looking to sue someone for harassment so I can retire…not another word was said from him or anyone else at the company lol,

my girl time is very private but I’m really happy when Sarah comes out

Wow Sarah what a comeback to your boss Well done... some times we can be our worse critics.. please don't be so critical  you look very passable and pretty... thanks for sharing...

Warmest regards, Leonara

Hi Sarah, I have to agree with Leonara. In looking at your profile pic you are a very pretty girl and very passable.

I think acceptance is really the goal of no longer feeling guilty for our dressing. Many never have, but many do feel guilty or wrong, or many negative feelings. Acceptance is dropping all those negatives and accepting the fact you like to dress and that there is really nothing wrong with it, it just isn't something most people do.

My acceptance was I quit trying to figure out "why", and I just accepted the fact I like to dress, just like I like to ski or rock climb. All are just part of who I am.

Sarah,

I feel your pain and you're not alone. I can't pass as a woman, and it drives me crazy. I want to be LOVE every day and everywhere I go. I've never liked being a male and have always hated dressing like one. I'm currently struggling with the same feelings and trying to find happiness in this life.

I've accepted that I'm different, but I'm currently having a hard time knowing that I have to spend the rest of my life dressing like a male when I go out. I hide my panties and bralette under clothes and hate having to hide everywhere!

I hope to find somewhere in Nc that allows CD ladies inside. I would give almost anything to experience that freedom.

Take care,

Love

I can't pass either, or at least I believe I can't. I have never really tried to. I have been out in public dressed once in a skirt & top but wish I could do more. My dressing these days, when I go out, is mostly clothes that don't get a second look but are all bought from the womens department. That way I get to go inside, but I know what you mean. My house will accept CD ladies inside......   🙂

Very well sais JJ, you provided inspiration. Accept yourself the way you are, and enjoy the experience.