Anyone with wives working on accepting?

It's great to hear stories like yours Holly. I'm really happy you and your wife are communicating. Little steps. Hopefully with time you'll have more frequent opportunities to express yourself.

Emily

Hi Holly , little steps as Emily mentioned & continued communication with each other , but don't have CD as the only topic you talk about. Things can & will become overwhelming , we're several successful yrs down the track , the rollercoaster is occasionally riden but nowhere near as often. Listen to each other and if necessary work on compromises . 🌹🌹Tiff

My wife and I have just started going through this. It has been little steps and it started with me painting my nails. My wife and I talk about it a lot as she sees how happy it makes me. I told her I wouldn’t consider anything like HRT for at least a year so we can figure out if this is just me having fun or something more serious. This helps her too as for now it is “just clothes” as she put it. There is nothing permanent so far and I am not “killing her husband to become her wife”. It is a different way to look at it for your wife. I don’t know if that helps.

My magnificant other is truly exceptional.  She has known of my crossdressing since our third date.  When I introduced her to Darlene she first thought I had another girl living with me, but after demonstrating my dressing for her she was relieved.  She enjoys having Darlene live with us. Now as we reach retirement age she is even more accepting.  During the day I wear skirts and revealing blouses that accentuate my perky teenage breasts.  At night we watch a girl flick in flowing robes.  I am blessed.  That was not the case with a previous girlfriend or my ex-wife. Both of them eventually ran away.   My current fiance is going slow towards marriage.  She has had two husbands and I one ex. We are not in a hurry, which makes our journey even more special.   Darlene is her housewife, and she is my outdoors spouse.   We share a single wardrobe except for shoes.

Hey Holly!

this is great news! Similar situation here, working it out slowly 💕

I sent u a dm

Seren xx

Tiff, that's great advice! I've actually come to realize that myself. Once that topic is at the forefront, it can be hard to discuss anything else and then you can just get completely overwhelmed.  The other side effect I've found from that is it keeps it in the forefront of my mind making the desire to dress even more!

Cassie, I haven't even thought about taking HRT or anything like that.  The big step for me is my wife is getting me laser hair removal for my chest and neck for my birthday with the understanding that it's completely for my femme side. I totally get the idea of losing her husband. My wife told me that I have to understand that she is now married not only to me, but this other woman and that's really hard for her to wrap her head around because it wasn't part of the original plan, but like I just said, she's still trying to understand and work with me.

Holly , my wife has said much the same , she now lives with my mistress also 🌹🌹

Hi Holly,

For my wife it was a big shock to her and she was very unsure about things for a while. I think it was after I came home from my first shopping trip and she saw me happier than I usually would be. (I never enjoyed buying drab lol)

I think it was a shock to both of us, whilst I don't dress fully on femme around her (we have a 5 yr old daughter) but she accepts my stealth drag, tie die or tiger print leggins, tshirt dresses and bobby stockings lol

Recently we visited Brighton and was ok with me wearing mascara and my platform trainers.

I don't think she is ready to shout it from the rooftops, but in only a few months she has been very supportive with make up tips and doing my nails when I screw them up 🤣

Hi Holly,

I think maybe for more than a few its a continuous evolution of acceptance, as we travel further on our journey they try to evolve with us. My gf is wonderful with most things but still has some added anxiety with the thought of someone being ignorant while we're out and about, I try to make it easier by allowing her to pick my outfits sometimes if we are going out together, it seems to help.

TJ that’s funny! My wife won’t touch my nails! She says if I want them then I need to do them but she has offered advice while we did them together 😂

Olivia, my wife still hasn’t reached the point where she’s ready to see me so it’d be a bit of a challenge for her to pick out my clothes! 😂

Hi Girls,

My wife discovered my Crossdreaaing just before Chritmass.  We have talked a few times.  I dresses in front of her a few times, t shirt jeans, high heels.  She has since told me she does not want to see this side of me. I have been underdressing and doing my best to be discreet.   The other day, she came to me and talked about not knowing if she can accept me dressing at all.  She even talked about moving out.  I don't want her to move out.  But I don't want to give up Paula.

She has calmed down for the moment.  I hope she will come around and let me dress in front of her.

My hope one day is to go out as Paula with her by my side.

For now I am happy she hasn't packed up and moved.

Loved all the stories it gives me hope.

Paula

Holly, Great to see your wife bend a little and help you.   I hope she sees how happy this outing made you.  Don't forget her, her feelings and thoughts will probably all over the place.  Keep the communication lines open and love her so much.  Hope for both of you that she will let you continue to explore this side of yourself.

Sandy