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Being dressed around my wife

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Trusted Member     Oost-Vlaanderen, Belgium
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I just wanted to check in and give a quick update, as promised.
My wife and I had a talk last week, it went better then expected.
I had brought up the topic before, but her insecurities about crossdressing were just too strong.
I had written some kind of letter with openly what I thought, expressing my gratitude towards her, what I’d like to happen in the future, etc. Because I knew that I wouldn’t be able to express myself verbally, it would have been harder to find the right words.


She read it and started crying a bit. But we had a nice open dialogue. She was more interesting to discuss it and wanted to know why I like crossdressing so much, other than for the cute cloths and nice textiles. Unfortunately I couldn’t explain it myself, I honestly said that it just clicked and gave me peace of mind whenever I’m stressed for example. Sometime in my youth it just happened. She was okay with that but wanted to further understand the why.
So I suggested that she visits this website and eventually made her own account.
She was open to it and will look at this website on her own time/pace.

In the meantime, she’s still okay with me fully dressing when she’s away. She’s still scared to see me in full feminine clothing. I understood why and said that if she changes her mind we could always start with a picture or however she wants it. But she said that it would be okay with me wearing feminine cloths while she’s around, but only cloths so no wig and also no dresses or skirts. But she’s okay with feminine blouses, pants and PJ’s. Depending at how it goes she’d also be okay with teaching me how to apply make up. It’s a big development in my opininion and we’ll see how it goes from there.
Her pants don’t fit me, so it’ll have to wait 🙂
Thanks again for your encouragement, I wouldn’t have gotten this far without your support.

PS: any tips on styles with pants? I must admit that I never wore female pants before 
Or perhaps tips on looking femine without a wig? I have short hair, so it's really manly. Even wearing a dress without wig looks strange to me.

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Reputable Member     Georgia, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

Perhaps an additional conversation is needed. Something along the lines of - I really appreciate you allowing me access to your clothes, but it feels a bit of a violation despite your permission. Could we possibly shop together for a couple of outfits for me?

It would allow her a chance to be involved and have input if she chooses. Additionally, if she does help you would know that the items have her approval/acceptance so you wouldn't be offending her sensitivities by choosing items only you liked.


Good luck!

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