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Hi girls!
I'm a closet crossdresser who is slowly starting to replenish her wardrobe. I recently started living together with my partner, she accepts the crossdressing part, though she is not a big fan.
I want to read your thoughts on how to treat the whole "girly clothing" part in terms of budget, space, how often buying new clothes, all those things. I don't want to overextend my girly persona, but I'm still eager to follow new experiences as a girl.
Any help, anecdotes, tips, comments, are welcome.
Thank you so much girls!
Kisses,
Jessica
PS: Happy New Year!
@jessica1996mx play it by ear and let it evolve . You'll find that your wardrobe and it's presentation will do just that as you develop , or not , as a cd. I have gone from it all in a suitcase in the loft to a completely shared collection my wardrobe and drawers . Though I have to say there's more pink and my skirts hanging there massively outnumber th ine trousers lol. One thing I have found is that cost decreases as you shift more to everyday femme . Two wardrobes are definitely more expensive than one mixed . An example of that is that previously I had male and female leisure wear trousers , now it's just girly leggings . Efficiency all round xx
@kayt Hi Kay!
Sorry for the late reply.
That's a great piece of advice. You can combine both a manly and girly wardrobe with key pieces of clothing.
Kisses,
Jessica
Dear Jessica,
I personally keep everything in one drawer. The wigs, makeup, breast plate, bras, etc. It is alot to fit into one drawer though I feel a space limitation is necessary to draw some personal boundaries for both you and your partner.
There are only so many bras we can wear at a time, thus it would make more sense to limit our purchases and focus on quality not impulse buys.
Do message me directly if you need any advice on styling and what to purchase first. I hope you would be able to avoid all the numerous mistakes i made when I first started.
With all my support and encouragement,
The Bluest Belladonna
@bluestbelladonna Hi!
Sorry for taking that long to answer.
That's a great strategy, not only for drawing boundaries with my partner, but also to myself and my "personas" (I'm only a closet crossdresser with no further feminine aspirations).
I would love to learn all those tips and tricks from a fellow girl with more experience 🙂
Kisses,
Jessica
Jessica,
I live alone in a big mostly empty house. I have a walk in closet that I used to share with my ex. Now that she’s gone, I’ve filled her side with my femme wardrobe, mostly thrift store clothes. I don’t buy a lot of retail stuff unless it’s on sale. I get to be Kerri about once a week and I love it. I hope you get to enjoy your girly times without offending your partner.
Know your size, know your style, know what you need, keep to the space you have and buy wisely. Keep your wife onboard is very important too. Another tip is that your space is limited if allowed to use a wardrobe and purging to make way for the new is inevitable. How about fining a space where the clothes you may have to remove can be 'rested' such as a box in the garage or attic. That way you have comfort in knowing you still have it and time to decide its eventual fate. My attic has a few boxes!
Knowing my size and style is a given for me but alas the rest is an irrelevance. I know what I need and know how much space is available but once in the shop and a nice dress is on offer need becomes want, a want becomes a purchase and the space will have to be found, hence attic boxes.
@ab123 Hi Angela,
Sorry for answering until now.
The boxes sound great! I think this whole crossdressing thing involves lot of resistance to shopping sprees and urges, so I will take that into account.
Would love to learn more on how to know my sizes if I find it difficult to actually try on the clothes in the store (though I would love to!).
Thanks for your advice 🙂
Kisses,
Jessica
@jessica1996mx Hi Jessica,
I have mentioned this in an article a while back and here's an abridged version
To know your size - Measure around your Bust with your forms in. Measure your waist. Halve each measurement. Chest and waist are dress size, waist is skirt size. If you are able to shop in store take a piece of measure and if you see a size that you think is okay then you can measure it up .
If you can only buy online look at sizing charts provided, if they don't,avoid. They will have Bust and Waist measurements, length and so on so you can look at that to know what you need.
Obviously you need to know your style but this is a rule of the thumb as sizes do differ and has worked for me.
George Carlin's "stuff" routine comes to mind, here.
So does one of my favourite expressions: You can't have everything. Where would you put it?
Space and how efficiently you store it will govern how much "stuff" you keep. If you need more stuff, you may have to cull stuff that you don't need or use.
There are drawer and closet dividers that can help you organise and store things. I use small ones in drawers for bras, breast forms, and undies. Swap out one season's clothes and store them in boxes and swap in the next ones.
@harriette Hi Harriette,
That's a great piece of advice. I'll definitely look for closet dividers.
Thanks for answering!
Kisses,
Jessica
One tip Jessica - Make sure you don't "outshine" your partner when you dress. Some SO's can get turned off real quick when their partner looks or dresses much nicer than they do.
@d44 Hi Fiona!
Wow, that'a a wonderful advice. I haven't thought about it that way.
My partner stills struggles to understand this crossdressing thing, so I will definitely avoid to make her feel uncomfortable with this. It makes total sense.
Guess I'll have to shop for twice the amount of pretty clothes - both for her and for me lol
Kisses,
Jessica
Everybody is different and we all have different situations. Some have one outfit stashed in a bag somewhere in their basement, others have full walk-in closets while a few have offsite storage units full of clothes.
I share a lingerie chest with my wife, we each have three drawers. About an eight of my side of the closet is for my dresses and blouses, and two drawers in my dresser are for fem items. My storage needs have grown over forty years as I slowly went from just a lingerie wearer to fully en femme.
