First Kiss While Dressed

I love to be kissed by a man. Actually, I was kissed once by another cross-dresser, really liked it but had to go home as it was late. Wish I could have stayed for more.

I have read several 'first kiss' anecdotes and most often there is the element of surprise as to how enjoyable it was and how feminine the kissee felt.

Araminta.

Have your kisses been surprises or during dates?

Have never had the experience of kissing another crossdresser. Don’t think I would really like it.

To each their own

Liz

I'm a straight male. I have no desire to be kissed by another male regardless of how he is dressed. I have been kissed many times whilst dressed but only by my wife.... Other than a peck on the cheek from a supportive friend when I told her.
I'd be interested to find out how many on here would like to be kissed by another man. We keep being told that 90% or at least the vast majority, of crossdressers are heterosexual. Sometimes, reading posts on here makes me wonder. 🙂

Cerys.

I understand what you mean, and I am not being naive, but I wouldn't have that kind of kiss, because I am married!

However, the point of my replying is that I have been kissed in a friendly and probably platonic way by many girls and one man (I still feel a bit disgusted by that - no offence intended, but to me, personally, it's my centre of repulsion).

The very first time a genetic girl kissed me, on the cheek - just a friendly peck, girl to "girl" it felt so wonderful - the pinnacle of acceptance, of being loved as a person, in that moment. The world kinda stood still. Violins weren't playing, as I was in a nightclub - the song was "Groove is in the Heart" by Deee-Lite.

I swear there were flowers growing all around, and birds flying around my head - but none came to sit on my hand and chirrup a duet with me, and there were no visions of handsome princes - or, in my case, beautiful princesses on powerful steers coming to sweep me up - I'm unsweepable. Part of the furniture. Glued to the partnership.

But I have so much love, I don't want it trapped like so much wind: Better out than in, as they say.

Being kissed by a woman while en femme is just lovely, femininity affirming, and adds an extra smile to my heart, chasing away all the little black clouds I built up in my youth, storing them in my bank of love, ready to repay my wife and family with interest.

The first time was probably the most potent, but then again, maybe not, as I cannot remember her name, nor does it seem to matter.

I never dreamed it could happen, and it did, which was what made it so special.

I don't expect it, but I do get kissed on most outings, and, if I am lucky, the lady turns her cheek to invite me to reciprocate. Those are my terms - I never, ever kiss or hug uninvited, as a gentleman.

As a lady, I require an invitation too, as I am not presumptuous. I definitely prefer an RSVP.

I live in eager anticipation of kissing my wife en femme, in the nature of the OP, but am still a lady in waiting...

I guess we all need something to look forward to in life!

Love Laura

Hiya Jade!  I'm going to assume you mean kissed in a passionate and romantic way.  To which I would say no, I have not been kissed by a man while en femme and being "me".  Masculine physique doesnt appeal to me as much as female gender does.  Haven't been kissed by a trans person or crossdresser either, tho' I'm open to it and have no phobia against it.  Now, regardless of any of that, I'm going to have to like you in the first place before I get all kissy kissy with you anyway.

Stevie

Nothing like the first kiss from a guy felt wonderful and actually made my toes curl. This one guy been dating still have the touch for 2nd and 3rd and so on.

Donna

Cerys, I still find it hard to accept 90% of crossdressers are through and through totally heterosexual - and very adamant about it too!

Or maybe as some crossdressers realize they may be transgender that percentage will go up.  I can't believe only 10% would accept themselves to be gay, or bi-sexual, or even bi-curious.  I myself find it low.

Stevie

It was a surprise, perhaps an ambush. It was in a parking lot after a CD social event as we were getting ready to go home. If I HAD known in advance I am sure that I would have acquiesced to a more planned activity and I am sure that she wanted me to go home with her but I have a nervous wife who thinks of calling emergency if I am more that 10-minutes late.

Araminta.

If ever I meet my CDH friends IRL, you’ll get a smack & squeeze from me!!

Now why do I feel hungry??

I have years ago by my best boy friend at the time, completely unexpected… and I reciprocated! And that’s all I’ll say about it…

💋🤗 Barb

It isn't so much that cross-dressers are convinced they are 'heterosexual' as it is that 'heterosexual' is based on false assumptions and is used to convey inaccurate meanings. For example, it creates the impression of 'opposite' sexes when the very concept of the sexes being opposites, poles of the same thing, or in contention with each other is socially damaging and discriminatory.

Sexual attraction is triggered by gender and not sex. If sex were the trigger then you would be attracted to all females, and you are not, therefore sex is not the activating element of the libido. On the other hand you ARE attracted (by definition) to all attractive women, regardless of their sex, including yourself. Those who are blessed in being able to transit between genders are generally also capable of varying between sexual identities.

The concept that 'heterosexual' is trying to convey (but fails to do so) is masculine-feminine-neutral intimacy. (I.e., Masculine-Feminine, Feminine-Feminine, Feminine-Androgynous, etc., etc.) A feminine cross-dresser with a masculine male is, to me, 'heterosexual'. The whole concepts and terms regarding human sexual activities need radical revisions in order to reflect the multiplicity and variability of situations. For example, all people are either sexual or asexual; that's two types. They could be male or female; that's four types. They could be gynecophilic, androphilic, androgynophilic or similar types of sexual orientation, that's at least 12-types. They could be feminine, masculine or androgynous (two types of androgynous); that's 48-types. Combine that with the gender pairings above, and that a lot of variation even amongst the gender-invariant. And it goes on and some of this typology is variable. The mosaic of sexual situations for any one person is not best described by three or four terms that are, in themselves, inaccurate.

When you except that coitus is a many-splendored thing comprised of many, often vague, aspects and can very very situational, then basing sexual attraction solely on the sex of the person to who you happen to be attracted to is conceptually limited to the point of blindness of comprehension.

When considering someone as a sexual partner it is not really their maleness (except for certain physiological requirements) or femaleness that you consider as that is moot unless you actually want to create progeny. It is how pretty they are or how many they are or how pretty you feel and one can contrive numerous, similar variations.

Sex and gender are not the same.

Sex is what you are.

Gender is what you do.

Araminta.

Donna, You may recall that you were a trifle in doubt as to whether you should transition. I believe I expressed the opinion that your reasons for doubting indicated a high probability that you should transition. This makes me feel that that probability is even higher than I thought.

On the one hand, I would like to express my wishes for a desirable outcome. On the other hand, these surgical teams seem empathetic, highly competent with a practiced methodology that has been refined for decades and are very experienced. I strongly feel that my wishes will be fulfilled with little difficulty.

Well, for them, anyway. You will just have to remember that things will get better and when they do, I look forward to hearing from you. But then I LOVE gossip!

Araminta.

"Being kissed by a ______ while en femme is just lovely, femininity affirming, and adds an extra smile to my heart, chasing away all the little black clouds I built up in my youth, storing them in my bank of love…."

Fill in the blank.

Kind of a way to understand the variations in sexual attractions amongst feminine, gender-variant males when they are feminine. They are 'dressed' because they want to be attractive and lovely. That someone else finds them to be feminine and attractive is reaffirming. And it really makes you feel good.

Araminta.

Been kissed by men, women, crossdressers and transgender people. All were lovely romantic kisses and some led to more dates. I guess I just got lucky on the romantic part lol. My makeup didn’t even get ruined lol