Has this ever worked?

hi Jamie; I can tell you only from MY experience that 90% of women want a MAN, not anything that is remotely feminine. oh they complain that their mates don't listen to them, or see them a weak little weepy things. now there is 5% of women who will tolerate their mate to dress, as long as THEY don't see them dressed. and you have 5% that are ok with their mate dressing and even help them to learn dressing styles, make-up and how to be more feminine. many of the dom women out there are into it for the MONEY ONLY. but as I stated at the start most women want a manly man. hope this helps Jamie.
XOXOXO
michele

I been crossdressing secretly for years and now that I’m single I have managed to put one foot out and keep one foot in the closet. Th foot that is out is when I go out and be Paula and the foot that stays in is when I’m around family. My ex wanted a manly man and sot someone who was in touch with their feminine side. Now that I’m dating I tell them right away(I have nothing to hide) and so far it’s been half accepted and half not.

I don’t want to be a secret anymore buddy some parts of my life I’m gonna have to as with family.

Whatever you do I wish good luck  and happiness in whatever choice you make.

Jamie Peterson wrote: Has anyone had an experience where you know your significant other would not accept you, but it turned out opposite of what you had assumed?
Yes, I have. We are a Pentecostal family; my wife believes in Deut.v 22:5, and used to believe that all CDs were gay. And yet, when we had The Talk, she was willing to tolerate Bettylou if I would accept her limitations. And over the past two years, she has learned to fully accept Bettylou; we go out to lunch, to movies, occasional shopping and recently to Ulta, where she had her hair colored while I had mine permed.

Hugs,
Bettylou

I have to disagree, in part, Michelle
Yes, my wife wants a manly man, and when he is needed, he is still available. To answer Jamies question, I was sure she would have a fit when I told her. But she also loves her new girlfriend, and wants her around more and more.
So, while she may be in the 5% you speak of, I dont think so. there are too many stories, on here and in the wide world, of spouses who accept their mates for who they are, be it a crossdresser, gay, or whatever
Regi👸💕

I've been CDing for more years than I can count.  When I met my now wife, I wanted to tell her but I was also afraid she would bail on me.  She told me one of her past boyfriends was a CDer, he kept it kind of a secret, and after they broke up she said to me she would never date another CDer (or break up if she found out).  When she told me that, I didn't dare say anything about Wendy.

I kept my CDing secret for years.  I went on forums like this to discuss CDing, and a common theme was if your spouse doesn't know about your feminine side, it is not if she will find out but when.  That point has nagged me for a long time.

I started out slow by wearing women's one piece swimsuits in front of her (she was ok with it), then one day we talked and I disclosed Wendy to her.  I thought that would be the end of our relationship, and I was thinking I would have to pack my stuff and move out.  To my surprise, she said "go get dressed and let me see what you look like".  From that day on, I can be Wendy but within the confines of our home.  I am totally ok with that constraint.

Hi Jamie I do not know what the percentage of GG accept their SO presenting a female image. It is only a image we were not born with the female body and we can only emulate what we see. I have been dressing since my early teens. There is a whole lot more to a female than we see that is for sure. I can emulate dressing, body movements to a degree. Unless you are committed to changing your body and changing your body chemistry the majority of us will never to pass as a woman dealing with the outside world full time. I believe the GG's that do accept their partner presenting a female image and even help at time are GG's that are self confidant in them selves. They have taken the time to understand it is something we did not ask for. It is just apart of who we are as a person. That is what they accept. Now being supportive that is up to the individual GG. MY wife is very self confidant in who she is a person. She loves me and she absolutely knows I love her and knows nothing will ever come between us. Certainly not clothing will never be the demise of our marriage. She finds a "cute and a little funny" those are her words not mine. She just does not want her man to look stupid or be made fun of, by anyone that is why she helps me present the best image we can put together. At the end of the day I am still the man she married and i do not studder when it come to do what a man is expected to do in the bedroom to the house repairs and every thing else in between. Communication, understanding each others needs and compromise Sounds easy but takes a lot of work If either of you are not able or are willing to do those three things. Then find some one that will. This part of you is never going away. You can deny, hide it pretend it does not exist it is simply just apart of you that you need to embrace in order to be a whole person.

Luv Stephanie

Several girls I dated and felt serious about were that way. My dad said to test the water about their feelings about guys in fem apparel, I came up with some good topics like you girls got it good wearing nice soft things and us guys get stuck with scratchy uncomfortable crap. Some of their answers were guys don't deserve nice things like us or guys are supposed to wear rugged things. I was disappointed but found someone at last that guys should wear soft silky things if they wanted to she also said men's under ware was nasty. I married her.

Hi Jamie Posted a poll question in the poll forums on this just would like to thank everyone that was part of it.

I wish I had a straightforward answer for you Jamie.  My case was different in that I was at least 50% confident that she would accept me when I came out to her.  It was wonderful...at first.  She is still supportive and I am thankful for that but within about 6 months, I started sensing her pulling back.  My point in sharing this is that for those of us talk about our supportive spouses, there are wide variations in that support, not just from one relationship to another, but within each relationship over time.

We are here for you Jamie and I hope you can find the right balance in your relationship.

💖Lola

Hi Jamie and welcome!

My wife does not accept what I do at all. I keep my body smooth, wear womans jeans/pants, underwear and shoes (flats) everyday. About 2 years ago I thought, "I've wasted enough time" and said screw it, and started buying the clothes I wanted (not all) and dressing openly in this manor.

The result, we are still together but have not been intimate with each other for more than 2 years now. She will not go there. I've accepted that to a degree, still somewhat hurtful, but it's a result of my decision. I don't know if she ignores it/me, just puts up with it, whatever. Not sure. When we are out shopping and she is looking at clothes, I've gotten to the point I'm shopping in the same section. Sometimes she seems okay with it, other times not. So I try to go out on my own to shop whenever possible.

I have more "gurly" things that are hidden (shoes and such) that she does not know about but I know would put her over the top, so I'm not out "completely". Hope to be soon however!

Good luck on your journey, but don't short change yourself!

Hi Jamie,

Sorry to hear your wife isn't accepting, I feel blessed to have a great boyfriend who is very accepting and encouraging and has been from day 1 of our relationship and I feel for anyone in a relationship with a SO who isn't accepting and supportive. I wasn't sure whether or not my bf would be okay with it at first but he's such a great guy and was immediately supportive, understanding and he encourages me to be me on a daily basis.

Hi, Jamie...!

I wish I could say yes, but sadly NO.

My ex was VERY over-bearing, and refused to allow 'me' to be, since she had teenaged children. I complied, and it hurt. A LOT.

I wish I had more for you, hon.

I REALLY hope your wife can learn to love and respect your feelings - after all, you're with her because you love HER. I wish I had some good advice! I DO feel for you, having been in a similar position!

YOUR feelings matter too, though. I HOPE you can work them out with her, and you can begin a life of love and trust!

Hugs,

Valerie

Rebekka,

I just wanted to give you a hug. You said things that are so familiar to me!

So, a hug for strength and hope!

Valerie