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I had already thought about and decided on this and was elated to see it mentioned in a few other posts recently.
During this wonderful holiday season we get to spend time with family, do some visiting and recieving of company. One of the gifts we can give to our loved ones is that of ourselves, aka the male they knew, and at least partially still expect us to be. Think of the many things they have given us
Our SO's and family members wether supportive or restrictive can be become anxious at the possibility of us presenting as female. As many of you may know my gf is super supportive, but she to gets nervous about how this would be accepted by others. It's not only a matter of how we will be recieved but what is thought of them for being with us. Making the decision on your own to put aside the urge to dress during this time can give them a wonderful and thoughtful gift, Peace of mind. It could be seen by them as a compromise on your part, you may even decide to let them know ahead of time. This gift you give may actually return rewards to you later.
Happy holidays to all you wonderful ladies here at CDH and your SO's. Peace be with you, always. Olivia💋
Excellent post, my intentions exactly as I have avoided family for dressing purposes.
Lisa
As a SO i must say you seem to have a very balanced way of dealing with things. Congratulations.
It can be very nerve racking for SO's especially at holiday times if guests turn up unexpected.
Hugs
Thank you Eleanor, its about sharing in a relationship. Respecting boundaries, give and take from both sides.
hi olivia. very well put! I think some of us (including myself) can come across as selfish, by making it look like we dont think of our partners feelings. I suppose when you have a deep desire to dress femme, feelings can become overwhelming, and lose track of your partners feelings. just a thought! very good advice olivia!
fiona xxx
Lovely Fiona, thank you for accepting it as the simple reminder it was meant to be. You're right in that dressing can be overwhelming and can consume our thoughts, sometimes it seems even a need more than a desire. Add to our normal urges the stores and their advertisers bombarding us with all the fancy holiday outfits that we know we would look absolutely fabulous in and ohhhhh the lingerie they offer! Its hard to resist. But I urge you to try, for eveyones sake, and a happier future for all.
Olivia, this is such an important point - especially, but not limited to Christmas.
One of the main issues we as "cross dressers" have is society's acceptance - and that acceptance generally seems hardest to acquire from those closest to us - our beloved families.
If only they would just accept... but that way of thinking separates us into "us and them". This division is unhealthy, and leads us into spending time with family dreaming of time without family when we can be ourselves - which is incredibly selfish.
I know. I do it.
This Christmas I have been given the chance of a new year party in London, with my wife, fully dressed - at her request.
That is my reward for giving myself this Christmas.
Like many, I tend to be a bit "jam today", so even with that wonderful evening ahead, you bet I'll catch myself counting down the minutes, imagining what it will be like in my new outfit in the thronging streets of London - what a thrill!!!
So I want all my sisters to be equally strong this Christmas - prep yourself with a reward to come, and give your family that gift this Christmas - your male self.
You don't need it, lol!
Love
Laura
Thats the spirit Laura! Have an absolute blast at New Years. 💋
