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I have been considering relocating to a senior living community, one of those places where you have your own independent living unit, but you are part of a larger senior community.
Is anyone on CDH presently living in one?
In case you are not familiar, you pay a monthly fee/rent, and they provide a couple of meals a day, all utilities are paid for, no more maintenance concerns, access to all sorts of activities and facilities to keep you occupied, transportation to shopping and medical appointments, etc.
I have toured several of these facilities in my area, and they vary greatly in what they have to offer and what they cost.
I have asked all of them if there are any cross dressers living at their facilities. So far, the replies have been in the negative. I have then informed the sales representatives that I am a cross dresser, showed them several photos of me cross dressed and informed them further I would be cross dressing in public, if I became a resident at their facility. All of them have continued to solicit me for my business, so it would appear that cross dressing is not an issue.
Has anyone had any experience in this area?
At present, I have not made any final decision to move. In speaking with some people, the transition from a private home to one of these communities was a decision they later regretted. Toward that end, I have now learned that a few select communities are now offering a "trial stay" of one or two weeks to see if senior living and community life is a good fit for you.
I can respond to this topic...sort of.... My beloved and I live an independent living retirement village. Which may or may not what is being discussed here
It's virtually the same as living in our own house, cos we do everything for ourselves except maintenance on our villa and its surrounds. (Tho "the Boss" is inclined to hack at a few shrubs etc.)
We have a very comfy community centre for social gatherings and just come and go through there as we please.
Other more upmarket versions have swimming pools, gyms, restaurants etc, but we neither wanted or could afford such "niceties"
As for full time aged care, (I'm MUCH closer to 80 than 70) that just plain terrifies me. The lifestyle I lead, both with Caty and "male me", I would be like a caged animal in just "my room"
If and when my time comes, just make it quick, burn me up and go feed me into the fishing spot, where the fish use to feed me. (For "locals", a little cove just inside Cape Wollamai on Phillip Island)
Not sure how my relatives will dress me in the "box", but one of my ballgowns with my very best lingerie on underneath would be nice.. Cant see that happening....
Caty.
I am in the same position you are....sort of.I live in a retirement community{55 and over} and everybody has their own house.At my age{Marty is 76,but Michelle admits to 55},the neighbors have seen Michelle many times with no problems at all.Love being a girl,even a part time girl like Michelle.
My parents scouted for homes all over the East coast many years ago. They decided to settle in the Orlando area. I helped my father compare all of the different homes and options. My mother was getting demented so we knew we'd better move them before they would not be permitted. The one we found provided a well-staffed and competent health care center and the rent would be the same as the independent living unit, so if there were medical problems one could easily move from one unit to another without concern about cost. At first I was put off by the small rooms, but came to realize that residents of such facilities get out of their apartment more and mingle, participate in group activities, etc., so stay active and involved... a good situation. Top on my priority list was to look at how the home is rated. I got one of the top ones in Florida and it paid off with fantastic, competent staff and plenty to keep my parents busy. It was on a lake and had a great dining hall for those able to walk to it. Those who could not were in the health care center, which had its own dining hall. There was an auditorium with regular events... church, bingo, etc. The deal was that you buy your own independent unit and get 75% back when you leave, whether by death or moving. If the occupants wind up in the health care center permanently the apartment is re-sold to a new resident, by the home. When my father died my sisters wanted to move Mom to NC, but I was reluctant to do so, as she was getting such great care and had found a home. Old folks, especially with dementia, don't handle moves well. I was accused of not caring for my Mom for awhile, by not moving her (as I was scouting facilities). Eventually we all concluded it was best to let her stay put, even though 700 miles drive for us. A quality place with good staff and high rating is well worth the investment. Both of my parents died there... never went to a hospital as we got hospice care for one, and my Mom got all the treatment she needed from the home. We did not need to buy insurance to provide pricey hospital benefits, and they did not have to move to a hospital, so it worked out great! I made the mistake of building a home on a lake and have spent all my time doing it, with much stress. By the time we move in we will be unable to manage it.
I have had no direct experience, but had had a few friends make the move and have loved it. They feel it has a great sense of community, which is something become less common in general societies. As for dressing in such a community, that most likely will depend on the local community. Older people are still of a generation that this was frowned upon and many may still have such an attitude. If you live in an open minded area this will less likely be an issue. I wod not be worried making such a move here in southern California, but would be more concerned in, say Florida where the is a big push to live in the past happening.
If you find a place you like and are considering, then maybe you can visit it en femme during one of rheir social gatherings and get a feel for their acceptance.
As with any move to a smaller home, consider downsizing early.
One way or another, "your stuff" will have to go. Sell some, gift some, discard some, keep as little as you can stand. And remember, your kids don't want your stuff (they have their own stuff).
You either control doing this yourself or you don't. If you don't, then someone else will. 🤔
Peggy Sue... My mom in law moved into an "Assisted Living" facility one year ago. After some adjustment she likes the place. Her facility does allow the "trial run" option for residents considering relocating.
Good luck on your search. Staci...
And, there are no crossdressers living at her facility, but it would be nice if there were.