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The other purge

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Lady
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(@melania)
Trusted Member     San Jose, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

When you decide that you just can't stand wearing men's clothes anymore, what's  the first to go? Is there a catharsis,  or is it just taking out the trash? Do you keep a little something,  just in case?

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2158

@melania 

I'm not out to anyone but my wife so I need to keep male clothes but every time I add to Allie's wardrobe, one or more of my male clothes has to go.

Allie x

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Lady
(@cherylt)
Joined: 6 months ago

Prominent Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Posts: 468

@melania It wasn't like that at all for me. It was gradual and barely noticed. My closet just was slowly taken over by my clothes and as those male things became unwearable or no longer needed they simply disappeared and were never replaced. 

Jeans that wore out replaced by something nicer, tops and t-shirts just seemed to change, shirts replaced with blouses, panties seemed to self-replicate and shove boxers away. 

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1788

@melania I tend to wear some pretty unusual stuff in male mode anyway. Some of it unisex, a lot of it is tie-dyed, floral or patchwork. 

I have kept several sports jackets which are absolutely not in a conventional tweed. I've kept a couple of suits, just in case.

I don't wear male underwear at all.

Hugs,

Anna xx

 

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Lady
(@katey)
Joined: 4 years ago

Prominent Member     Massachusetts, United States of America
Posts: 772

@melania well I already got rid of the nasty men underwear a few years ago. I think the ugly socks and shoes. I would keep some shirts, If worn right I think men’s shirts can be sexy. You gave me nice thoughts of the day that I can be all girly.

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Managing Ambassador
(@lizk)
Joined: 5 years ago

Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
Posts: 3839

@melania 

I stopped buying guy clothes a couple of years before I transitioned.  Once I went full-time there was no need to keep anything.  I just packed everything up and donated it.

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Duchess Annual
(@emmat)
Joined: 9 months ago

Prominent Member     I don't do cities ;-), Powys, United Kingdom
Posts: 320

@melania 

Such a long time ago, and lots of things happening - like growing up, lol.

I obviously wasn't too keen on  male clothes. So for me the catharsis was the minute I left school to go to uni which was the minute I stopped wearing collars and ties. I left at home the one suit my folks had bought me to wear for 'best' as they used to say. Yes, it was late 60s and hippy days, but from then on I pretty much stuck to it. 

It wasn't always plain sailing. With one exception , I never bothered applying for jobs requiring a 'dress code'. In fact the phrase 'dress code' was like a red rag to a bull. I'd just dig my heels in deeper. I'd get 'looks' for turning up at funerals and weddings in my casual attire, and sometimes I'd decline attendance to events I knew mattered to organisers - I don't like to rain on other people's parade. 

Did I go full on into women's clothing? Not at all,  dressing was a chaotic, unpleasant and secret little perversion I had to deal with , I told myself for a long long time. It was separate from my life as far as I could see. But I was  comfortable as a unisex dresser. Now, in later years, I'm hopefully getting a little bit more sense about what's going on.

 

 

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Lady
(@harriette)
Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 2 years ago

I went through most of my old clothes and thinned them out. Mis-coloured, worn, size difference, not worried about style.

I cut off quite a few pairs of jeans with tears in the knees and many of them now fit my wife, so no big loss there.

Not a purge, just a thinning of the herd.

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(@coloradog1)
Honorable Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Then the very next day your friend asks for help remodeling a house and you are laying shingles in a mini skirt lol

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Lady
(@melania)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     San Jose, California, United States of America
Posts: 29

@coloradog1 

Well, I guess everyday practicality has to be kept in mind. Carhart makes women's pants . Nobody needs cedar slivers in their panties. 

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

You know when you can't stand wearing mens clothes anymore when the wardrobes have a small area where the mens clothes are and the rest is full of your favored wear.

It's the reversal of when your girls clothes were once in a small bundle in the back of the wardrobe.

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(@caroline2k)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 606

@ab123 I couldn't agree more.

I have three pairs of men's jeans, two suits and five pairs of male underpants. I have lots of colourful, patterned shirts and numerous t-shirts and big baggy sweaters which I don't object to.

On the other hand, I have four wardrobes and two chests of drawers containing my real clothes and shoes, plus a steamer trunk full of shoes, a large suitcase full of as-yet, unopened packets of tights and a smaller suitcase for my cosmetics. I think it's obvious where my true passion for fashion lies 🙂

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(@finallyfiona)
    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

All my male underwear has gone, along with all but a few pairs of my male socks (all black), just the ones with colourful accents have been carried over into femme life for winter.  I keep enough male clothes in one wardrobe to be able to do a week en homme in any season.  They're mainly intended for when I'm seeing my parents, who don't want to meet the full Fiona.  In practice, really only one male shirt ever gets worn, and that only occasionally. 

The rest of my male attire, minus the worn-out and too-long-unworn items, went into storage crates last year after I decided I was staying as Fiona.  But much though I don't want to wear any male clothes, last time I had to, I didn't have any discomfort about being in them.  That's the only reason why those crates are still under my bed.  At least they're out of sight and mind.  One day I'm going to want more storage for overflow of my feminine wardrobe, and the male stuff will just get donated.

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

It’s hard to be fluffy when you’re wearing male underwear😉. Seriously - if there’s any article of clothing thats worse than those, I don’t know what it is. Tidy whities? Yeeeech! Growing up that’s pretty much all we had too. Just the absolute worst! I still cannot see the scene from Risky Business with the dancing in his briefs Tom Cruise and not want to start reverse eating immediately. That scene, set to another one of my “Songs I Never Need To Hear Again” the horrifying “Old Time Rock’n’Roll” is something I avoid at all costs. Male underwear: Always disgusting. All the time.

There. Now I feel much better!👩‍🦳

GP

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Lady
(@melania)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     San Jose, California, United States of America
Posts: 29

@gracepal 

I knew there was a catharsis in there somewhere. 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1012

@melania You have it correct Lydia. Move to a 55+ community and you’ll find this out in no time. They like a certain list of specific things. Over and over and over….🙃

OMG.

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Princess
(@erinb)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 1154

@gracepal what about talladega nights lol Ricky Bobby running on the tracks in his tidy whities lol 😂 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1012

@erinb Never seen it. Cannot stand Will Ferrell. Now I’m even more glad that I’ve never seen it…hearing that😊 So thx for the heads up Erin. I feel validated…LOL!

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 1154
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Lady
(@kendra2024)
Trusted Member     Chicago, Illinois, United States of America
Joined: 1 month ago

Only you can see what's on the road ahead. I'm still coming to terms with this; tentatively going with 6 months each. Not consecutive; I have family obligations at year end, and not only do I not have the body for women's summer attire, but I like my guy summer stuff (and I can "flip" almost instantly whenever I want). In any case, I'm not a "clothes horse", so neither wardrobe takes up excessive space. Bottom line? I've shared how I wrestle with this topic; but my world is not your world-you do you! 🤩 

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Lady
(@randialex)
Estimable Member     Shaftesbury, Dorset, United Kingdom
Joined: 3 months ago

when I decided to come out I threw out all my underpants - no going back from that!!

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

The only thing I purged was my boxers. I didn't really purge them, just slowly replaced them with panties.

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 Leah
Baroness
(@leah63)
Noble Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

Since I am not "out" I need to keep 2 wardrobes. I do find I buy way more for Leah by far...and it is more fun!

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 1154

@leah63 understand indeed same applies 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

I did used to keep some emergency men’s underwear. You know, for physicals, etc. Women’s boy shorts replaced them.

I tested it out again recently when I went for a skin cancer check where you strip down to your skivvies. Total women’s boy shorts as I stood in front of the two ladies. (Flat front, no fly) Top to bottom check. Ladies jeans hung on the chair, along with a ladies flannel shirt. Ladies socks, tennies. I wanted to ask - “Hey, you guys notice that I have only women’s clothes on today?” But it would’ve seemed completely stupid as they would have to look at the labels to even know. And of course they don’t care.

Underdressing has gotten a LOT easier these days.😊

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 1154

@gracepal hopefully your appointment went well tho Al that really matters 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1012

@erinb Oh yeah…well, good enough. They found a dot on my shin to remove. Of all places. How do they know THAT dot, which looks just like all the other dots near it, is the one to excise? Mohs surgery so a new scar.

This is why I wear pantyhose🥰

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 1154

@gracepal truly hope all comes back well 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1012

@erinb Thx Erin, Its all good 😊

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

As much as I enjoy my dresses and heels sure be a site in the truck garage 

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(@rebeccabaxter)
    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

I have two closets—one bright and colourful, the other, boring and drab; each have their uses.

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Lady
(@jess92)
Prominent Member     Florida, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

I purged my "male" sleepwear years ago because I wear either lingerie or satin pj's to bed every night. I do still have male day clothes for work and chilling at home. 

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