Who has a supportive significant other?

As I started this topic, it's only fair I get the ball rolling.
My partner is very supportive. In fact she introduced me to crossdressing not long after we started our relationship some 4-5 years ago. It was wonderful and we both got very excited trying to make Maxine as presentable as possible. We often go shopping for clothes, makeup etc. She really appreciates my advice when shopping for herself or even just with what to wear when we are going out. We really do have a great time together.
However, somewhere along the journey, as my enthusiasm increased, hers has waned. Nothing definite, she still talks the talk but when it comes to walking, nowadays its a bit of a different story.
I'm not exactly sure what happened or when, but I think I took her support for granted and wanted to go too far too quickly for her liking.
So I suppose I'm just giving a bit of a warning to anyone who has a supportive spouse, not to take that support for granted and realize that whilst they may be supportive, there are nevertheless issues for them to go through.
I'm hopeful and confident that we will get back to equal enthusiasm in the near future.
It really is wonderful sharing the experience and absolutely the best when that person is your soulmate.
Hugs to all,
Maxine.

Maxine I've heard similar stories to yours. It seems to hinge around the fact that the partner (spouse/wife/girlfriend) introduced the crossdressing and felt in control of the situation. It was thus to their liking. Where the problems seems to arrise is when the CDing takes on alife of its own and the partner essentially loses control of the situation.

Instead of having a hubby/boyfriend they can dress up and have fun with they suddenly find they are competing with another woman.

You are right, we should never take their support for granted. We sometimes forget that we are not the only people who might struggle with the reality of our situation.

I do and has been great.Since going fulltime 5 years ago,we love to go shopping more and get our nails done together.

I agree that your SO now has another lady in the house, and MIGHT be looked at as competition for the time you would otherwise give to SO. I found that, when I was in Linda mode, I would not offer to do the dishes, I just went and did them. Run the vacuum etc. All those domestic chores have to be done by someone, so now there is help. On special days like a birthday, get a special present from the lady side of you. Tell her just how lucky she makes you feel. These things worked for me. I am just putting them out as ideas. However, I had a long and loving marriage of almost 40 years and Linda was always there. Sad to say that she passed away. I am now a widow(er).

I have to agree with the earlier posts.  For me, it is a day to day.  We have had some interesting discussions about out relationship.  It has changed us completely and we are both are still trying to figure things out. She is supportive in having me find out who I am, but the relationship has changed from loving husband and wife to loving best friend.  That is hard for me.  She is still greatly hurt by my other self for I had not been truthful with her for 20 years. We have had a great life and beautiful kids.  All are still in the house.  We still continue to co parent and still do things as a family.  We love each other, but we miss the deep connection.  She did not marry my other self, but the fun loving guy who she could cuddle up.  We are slowly working on how this all works out.  Time is the essence and if is hard.  Ha, we both hate change, but I couldn't continue the lie.  Which is exactly what I did to her for the 20 years.  Wish I could go back, but back then it was the denial and hoping to over come my other self.  Not that any of us have ever had to do that.  Lol.

well my wife knows i cross dress, but will not see or help me with make up or let me sit in same room with her and talk about how i feel or feel as a women. i am more relaxed and feminine talking. i can see what real females go threw to look pretty, its hard. i would like to share my fem side with my wife as i am all dolled up pretty and have her now its hard to be a female, but i do enjoy my fem side as much as i can. just wish my wife would except my fem side and let me site in same room and chat like 2 women, help me with make up when i need it or give me advice, go shopping with me and we can buy each other .

Hi Everyone - My wife knows I cross dress and intellectually she is fine with it. Emotionally she still has a way to go though. She doesn't mind me going fully en femme early in the mornings when she is sleeping or when she is out of town. She has seen me in women's clothing a lot. She accepts that I wear leggings, women's t-shirts, sweat shirts, slippers, pantyhose, nightshirts. I've even showed her a dress I bought for myself because it was so similar to one that she bought for herself. I think she only has problems when I wear my wig, high heels and makeup. Tonight she said when seeing my Halloween costume that she thought I had on too much eye liner. It was kind of half-joking so slowly she is becoming more accepting. She is more worried about what the neighbors think than I am. I wish she could be more supportive but I am not complaining because I know there are lots of ladies out there whose wives are totally opposed to the extent that their marriage ended in divorce. So with that in mind, I feel I'm doing okay. All the best and I hope you are having a terrific weekend!!!!! Krista.

Great attitude Krista! enjoy the acceptance you have now and work toward more at a measured pace as she realizes the person she fell in love with is still there when you're dressed-just in prettier wrapping paper!

does your wife ever think you would leave her for another crossdresser??or that you might be gay? and leave her for a man?

very well said it made me tear up a bit, maybe cause i'm in that same spot. thanks i enjoyed hearing this

That issue has been raised and (I thought) addressed several times. It crops up again from time to time. I think that it is part of a general insecurity that occurs more often as I get closer to perfecting my style & makeup. I mean, she doesn't want me to look stupid, but the more convincing I become, the more this issue comes to the fore.
The whole crossdressing desire is as difficult an issue for SOs to come to terms with as it is for us.

Mine is very supportive. She loves it actually. She wears the same size dress as me so she loaded up on dresses and other clothes. She considers Kandy her best friend. She started out doing my makeup,but has taught me how to do my own.

I do worry about enjoying it too much to the point of upsetting her. I never would act like I'm the prettier girl or anything like that. Reading your post is a friendly reminder to not get carried away,but I am enjoying it!

My fiancee is actually incredibly supportive. I've been dressing on and off privately for several years, but only ever entirely in private.

One night a month or two back we got discussing fantasies (we are both rather into BDSM as well, so it was kind of a discussion of limits and things), and it just felt like the right time to tell her. I opened up that I had been known to try on panties, and dresses, and that I always felt like it was a part of who I am. I told her that I totally understood if she didn't get it, or didn't want to be involved.

She laughed and literally went to her wardrobe, and threw me over a dress of hers which no longer fit. She sees that it makes me happy, and thats basically the end of it as far as she's concerned. She's since actually taken me out shopping, and - today actually - bought me a really cute dress, so I could have something to feel my own (I'd previously borrowed a lot of her stuff).

It feels like its liberated me. Its a part of me thats been locked up inside for years, and just to be able to say it out loud and be so completely accepted and supported has meant the world to me. I wonder why I had ever worried.

I would never have had the courage to come on a crossdressers forum for example a few months ago. Its opened my eyes to the fact this isn't just a thing I hide away in my bedroom. This is me. Jessica is a part of me. She always has been and always will be.

My wife knows and she has shared some blouses and skirts she no longer wants.  So I get some hand me downs.  As for seeing Sami, it has only happened once when I was fully dressed.  She has seen me in lingerie on vacations.

She is ok with me under dressing every day, but I wonder how much she really accepts or wants to be involved.

Big rule is never in front of our son.

I guess I have it good, compared to others I know.  Always wanting more I guess.