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It finally happened: I went out in public fully dressed. What an experience.
I had dreamt about going out in public for many years and read numerous accounts of many cds who had done just that. Almost every person's experience has similar strains to it from finding the courage to get out of the car, to acting 'normal' when walking about. For myself I tried many times to step out of the car but struggled to overcome the anxiety. So being the little scaredy cat I am I went about it another way: I found a big sister. Enter Trish White. For those of you who don't know Trish she is a force when it comes to going out in public having done so for 50+ years. She is also a wonderful person. I met Trish on CDH and we became online friends over the course of a few years. She encouraged me to go out and it finally happened.
I can easily state how easy it was to step out of the car with Trish walking right beside me. Gone was the anxiety (okay not gone, but greatly diminished) and with it came the realization that what every cd who had gone before me experienced was occurring for me too. Walking around in busy public settings, sitting in bars and restaurants and shopping for clothes became a wonderfully gratifying experience.
So how does one find a big sister like Trish? Take your time and see who lives around you. CDH is a good site for getting to know people safely. Be careful with the information you give out and look for people whose interests line up with your own. And it helps to get lucky too.
Megan❤️
awesome, glad to hear your going out went well!
That’s lovely Megan, so glad you enjoyed it.
There’s no going back now though, that genie is out of the bottle and it won’t want to go back in!
Oh it is so much fun to dress and go out. I love the feeling that I get, and It never fades. You go GIRL !
I too am.amazed tou have not been out before. If I looked as good as you I would be a lot more often.
Congratulatiins on getting, it is such a fun experience, and the first time is the best. The combination of nerves and the elation once done can not be describe, but can only be experienced.
What a great idea. I did go out once by myself walking around downtown San Diego. I was nervous that I would get beat up. I avoided people and did see a few and briefly said hi to one guy. I like the idea of finding a friend to go out with and plan where to go. Thanks for sharing the idea. - Traci
Megan, you found a way to overcome your fears, you made a plan, and you saw it through. Those are exactly the elements you need to take that first step and go out in public. I am just overjoyed that you were able to make a connection with Trish, and use that connection to achieve your goals.
In my opinion, there are many roadmaps that one can take for going out in public en femme. I took a different one than you did. But what you have done here is remind everyone of a very valid approach to taking that first step in public. Find a friend, or even a group of friends who have been out in public, and simply join them. There is safety and comfort in numbers, as you have demonstrated here.
I am so glad that this experience worked out so well, and was so wonderful for you. You do realize, do you not, that this is just the beginning? I expect to hear more about The Adventures of Megan Kelly.
And I want to see photos too!!
Megan, with that face and that figure plus your excellent taste in clothing, the only thing I can say, what took you so long. I think a lot of us would love to have those attributes. Congratulations and keep it up, you look amazing.
Carla😧
I just love reading the stories like this. Good for you Megan. The first of many. As Lucy said, the genie is out of the bottle.
I remember my public debut. A year and a half ago.. coming into the hotel lobby, hearing my heels click across the tile floor, and into the lounge. Now, I can't get enough.
Emily
Megan, what can I say? Trish asked me numerous times if we had gotten together, and here you are! Arrived in style! And with your big sister Trish as your wonderful guide! Congratulations!
I bet you looked gorgeous, pretty enough to make people just a little jealous, I know I would be.
Living in the same neighborhood, let me know if you would be interested in getting together to do some shopping, go for coffee or just hang. I'm a full time girl working in a BC Government building, so I'm used to being out all the time. I would be absolutely delighted to get together with both you and Trish, I really hope that can happen!
Big hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
Megan, I’m so happy for you. You are so beautiful, it’s time the public got to appreciate such a pretty woman. I know that when you are contemplating going it all seems so hard, and from what you wrote, it is the exact same experience for everyone that goes out. I’m glad you found Trish to get you out. I found some CDH girls to coax me out too, and I’m now just like you so happy that I finally did it too. I’m hoping that someday the opportunity presents itself that we can meet.
@megankelly Congratulations! It's a very big hurdle you've got in your rear view now! As many others here have stated, with your fab look I'm surprised you aren't out there with a sack of neck braces for all the heads you put on a swivel! However it shows that it's one's own perception that matters and that we can't do a thing before we're ready.
I'm thrilled you found Trish and I'm certain some day you'll find someone who needs mentoring and get to see the absolute thrill that comes from that side.
Enjoy! 🙂
Hi Melodee,
Thanks for commenting. We are most definitely our own worst critic and it helps to hear such positive feedback on this site. I look forward to the day where I can return the favour for someone that Trish did for me.
Megan❤️