Tomorrow may be the first time

Wishing you a great day out Freya.  It is something that I am building up to, so very interested in how wonderful it was.  But take it easy and be careful.  Also if you do eventually decide not to go, you must not see that in any way as a failure,  it will just be another opportunity to feel the excitement of your first trip!

I hope you have, Nd am indeed you will have, a wonderful time!

go girl

hugs

Christine

All the best, Freya!

No chickens here. You're timeline is all your own. Safety is paramount. However, if you do go out then in, then out then in your front door, then that may provoke some unwanted attention! LOL!!

:Barb

Hi Freya,

Get out there and enjoy! How exciting! Anywhere near the Bay Area is going to be more open to you, regardless of your presentation. Pretty diverse through there.

A few ideas, since it's your first time, and just getting your feet wet (of course depends on comfort level).

1) Order from a drive-thru if you want to interact but don't want to get out of the car yet. Nobody is going to bat an eye, let alone say anything discouraging.

2) For safety, don't pull in to a park with seemingly nobody around, and walk around. If you do, be very aware of your surroundings and always have an exit plan.

3) Go to a gas station, and whatever you have in your car next to you that can be thrown away, pull up, get out of car, use the trash, and jump back in your car. You'll feel the excitement of being dressed in public, but also just look like a person jumping out to do something regular... vs. standing in some corner of a parking lot just to present outside in public.

4) If you're feeling more risky (or confident lol), order a starbucks on your app, then run in and grab it off the counter, and walk out. Quick, short and sweet, not much interaction. I say Starbucks specifically because half the workers are lgbt or lgbt friendly. GREAT place to interact and test it all out for yourself, without being an LGBT specific entity.

Anyhow, just some ideas to get out there without the risk, but isn't anything to really fear.

Have fun Freda stepping out as your true self.

Alice

Go for it Freya. I am sure you will have the best time. Then after you will be planning the next time you can go out!!

. Cassie

Good luck and best wishes on your first time out. I know it can be scary, but it's such a rush and so thrilling and exciting. To me, it's the ultimate crossdresser experience.

Hi Freya,

If your profile avatar is any indication, you will not have any problems! You are beautiful, and "blendable" - that is a huge compliment, btw (giggle). Get out there with confidence but know once you do get out, you will want to more and more so be prepared.

Please do let us know how you go.

Hugs,

Brie

Hope your time out was a good day.  I understand how it feels.

So I did it.

I decided to go for a walk in Sacramento in the early morning when people will be busy with thier own lives.

I took the advice below and decided to wear some comfortable shoes, didn't want to risk heels first time so i went with my trusty Adidas lol

I brushed my wig, so it was as nice as possible (although i think it definitely needs a real grooming and styling) I put on my favorite Victoria's Secret bra and panties and decided to also wear stockings and a garter. Go for a youthful 20's look in a hope i can relive mine that has been lost hahaha.

A black pencil skirt and wine-colored long sleeve top rounded it out and as i was walking out the door i took my girlfriends black wool jacket because it was cold. The mask definetly helped my nerves and keep my face warm.

I opened the front door, hesitated then walked on out. Walked down the street and got into my car.

My heart was pounding.

I then drove to Sac and for about 10 mins drove around in circles until i found a parking lot.

Once I got out of the car i suddenly realized as i was walking i dont walk like a girl. so i spent a little while focusing on walking one foot Infront of the other in the assumption that wold make my hips move more and look more feminine.

Anyway, i walked around for a good two hours enjoying the feeling of letting Freya breath. it was an amazing experience. Some old guy wished me a good morning and i nearly fell off the curb replying to him in my best feminine voice (again not practiced) and i even got a wolf whistle from two workmen on the side of the road.

all in all, it was a wonderful experience that i want to do again and again.

Funny thing I forgot to put my glasses on before leaving i was so excited. must remember those next time.

Congratulations, you pulled off a totally believable look...you look fantastic, and really cute.

I hope you had as much fun as I suspect you had based on my own experiences. I hope you get to do it again soon and post more pictures.

As for the future, pick up some comfortable, low heels for you next foray. Don't over do it with too high a heel. Not only will the become uncomfortable, but they may draw too much attention unless you are out in the evening with others reasonably dressed up. A good option is a short boot with a moderate heel...1-2". I have a pair and they are my go to shoes these days.

Thanks for the great post Freya!  So happy for you.  You've got the office gal look nailed.  Honesty, I think you could stroll around any store or office building with that look.  You're an inspiration for any girl that's on the fence about venturing out in public.  As you discovered, it's easier than you might think.

Edit: forgot to mention River City Gems - a social/support group for cd's and transgirls in SAC.

/EA

I am definitely in the market for some footwear. The Adidas will be my leggings pairing from now on. I want some nice ankle boots I think and a pair of heeled mary janes.

Thank you so much Emily, I was very conscious about people seeing me as a male even with the wig. The fact you think I pulled off a a girly look means so much.

I will look into the River City Gems. Thanks

Thank you, JJ. It was really fun. I wish I have planned more to do. There were not too many people around first thing in the morning so I will be looking to walk among the crowd's next time.

Thank you for your kind words it means so much.