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I've never left my house when I've been dressed up but really getting the urge to do so.
Looking for advice on what to wear and any tips to make it successful
I’m just like you. I got a makeover in a distant city, but I knew too many people at the conference hotel so abandoned my plans. I doubt I’m recognizable, but also confident I would not pass. I’m excited to hear the advice. Thanks for posting this.
Hi Kayla,
Often it’s best to blend in when you venture out. I find most people are more absorbed in their own thoughts and don’t even look at you. So do some scouting to see what women your age are wearing running errands, catching a bite to eat or enjoying a cup of coffee. And use that as a starting point.
Alice
@marriedcrossdresser513 I think it depends on where you're going, who you'll be with, and how you want to present yourself.
My very first time out was Pride. Knowing I'd be among open minded people, I opted to make a bold statement, but for that crowd that was 'fitting in'. If you're going to the grocery store then you'd likely want to tone it down some and fit in with that crowd.
If you haven't worked on your makeup skills, then I'd start there first - or have someone do it for you. I believe it will be the first thing people look at.
Otherwise - absolutely, make a little plan and go for it! 🙂
All great advice, know the area you are going to be appropriately dressed to blend in...unless you want to stand out...lol. Depending on how passable you are, you will be nervous regardless. You will feel like everyone is looking at you. The hardest part is shedding our male walk and mannerisms. It does get easier each time and it is VERY exciting
You have already received better advice here. The environment in which you are going to present yourself is important. As many ladies here know, I was fortunate that my first time was at Keystone, in the company of people like me and in a very accepting environment. It made it easier.
Prepare well with makeup. I had never made one so complete. Use simple decorations. A knee-length suit or skirt. I wore elegant clothes because it was a dinner out. Depending on what you are going to do you could go casual. When you're ready, don't think too much and go out. Enjoy it. It will be a lasting memory.
Gisela
Wow, there are so many options and ways to go about this. The most important thing is to jist do it.
I could write a thousand words on this based on my own experiences, and the experiences and posts of others.
As I see it there are two main options, the subtle stap by step approach, or the go all out approach. Of course there are an infinite number of steps inbetween the two.
One can start small and build. Just go for a drive partially or fully en femme, usually at night. Then maybe stop for gas or a quick trip to convience store. Maybe step up by taking a walk in a safe placeat night. Just add a little more with each attempt until you are comfortable. The other end of the spectrum is to just go out fully en femme. Maybe start with a dressing service to get your outfit and make up just right. Some .even arrange a tea or drinks together for moral support. I version of this is going to a CD event so you are surrounded by like minded people.
My two biggest take aways is one, this is an extemely fun and rewarding thing to do, and two, nobody cares. I do not pass close up (but I think I am passable just at a glance), but I have never had an issue or comment except for compliments.
Dear Kayla,
I needed to figuratively hit the replay button on the DVR in my mind... The FIRST TIME, I remember being all dolled up, sitting in my auto, adjusting the rearview mirror, admiring my feminine finish, putting on a touch up coat of lipstick, hypnotized by my dangling ear rings, finally starting the car, opening the garage door, hyperventilating with excitement, and finally backing up and out of my garage ONLY TO CLIP/CHIP my driver side mirror frame. Not an expensive repair but I quickly 'picked up the pieces' and decided to venture out. I guess it was akin to Alan Shepard's suborbital flight. Barely 15 minutes in the car, heading to a nearby shopping mall, then getting out of the car, pretending I was checking on my front and rear lights. I'll never forget. Scoop neck top, Miniskirt, Nylons, Pumps, being outside, winter, the sensation, the reality. I walked to the store front only to pretend I forgot something in the car. Back in the car. Mission accomplished. I didn't want the night to end. Drove home. Opened the garage door. Laughed at the side mirror incident.
Nothing like pouring a glass of wine at the end of your 'first flight' (NO MATTER WHERE YOU GO OR HOW LONG YOU ARE OUT) and celebrating your accomplishment. THUMBS UP. Be patient with yourself. Baby steps. Everything in time. You'll be navigating the globe before you know it. YOUR MISSION to the MOON will be one we'll all want to hear about.
Stay Well, Keep Safe, God Bless, and Continue to Enjoy what you love doing.
Sincerely and With Love,
Thea
PS....OH and take plenty of pictures....for the memory and for analysis.