Which bathroom?

”They say all buildings must have gender neutral or family restrooms"

But they don't, plus where I have seen family / gender neutral washrooms, they usually are quite busy.

I had been out driving and needed to use the bathroom. I was fully dressed and was coming up on a rest area. I was on my phone looking at Facebook. When I came in i was wearing a short sundress and walked in the mens room. Nobody was in there I went into a stall. As I was finishing up I heard someone come in the restroom. As I existed the stall a guy was standing there brushing his teeth. He stopped and looked at me like he saw a ghost. I strutted my ass out the restroom like nothing happened and he was still standing there. I went to the vending machine and got some snacks. Then continued my way home.

So far, the only time that this issue has cropped up is when I switched my soft shoes to 👠. I did it in a stall because I had to fiddle with boxes and bags.

Let's say that some 👠 can make obvious noise in a men's washroom and can draw attention. 😁

Now, if I was dressed en femme, then I would first want to use the lady's washroom. From what others have said on CDH about this, before, you will have less issues or risk there. Just don't doddle about and leave quickly.

On the few occasions I have used the lady's bathroom I agree they are generally cleaner and better maintained. Best, Marlene.

Gosh...............by all means use the girls room. All you have to do is sit down, yes you will empty everything. Like what was said.......practice at home, then it becomes natural instinct.  Try at nite when ya wake up and gotta pee.  Sure saves pissing all over the floor!!

When I am dressed as a female i wouldn't dare use the men's room. That would not be safe thing to do.  Just avoid the chance of being in there with children. Just to be safe.

I recently met girl friends at a friendly bar.  That was the first time I used the ladies room.  A new experience, and at the same time imagining if I, being fully dressed were in the mens room... yeah, I was completely at ease with my decision.

What was more troubling to me was a time when some mom brought her 4-year-old boy into the MENS, and 4 or 5 of us guys, line up, got it unzipped & out; what was she thinking?

If I were at the mall, etc., and its a larger restroom like that, it would be awkward for sure.  Sort of 'touch & go,' you might say...

Dani

tuff topic here a lot of good responses I feel there is no right or wrong answer here except what you feel is right or wrong and the consequences that may come probably depends on the location and who you run into one may not have any issue but one may be furies even possibly have to face Johnny Law-men as a CD I probably say if I couldn’t find a unisex or private bathroom I would hold it till I did to avoid any altercations last thing I would want to spend my day is down town explaining why a man dressed as a women was in the lady’s room and what my attentions where just my thoughts and opinions

I take the approach that if I am dressed I will use the unisex/family restroom as a first option. If that is not an option I will use the ladies but it comes with qualifiers.

If I see a mom with young children walking in before me or if I see a girl(s) under adult age I will wait until they make an exit.

I don't necessarily do that because I feel I don't belong but do so out of respect. The mom may not mind my presence but she may not want to have certain conversations with her young children. And the young ladies may not have the maturity to handle my presence or they may cause a scene.

In short, I do feel my presence in a space like a restroom is pushing the boundaries (but it is for my safety as well), and as a result I want to be as respectful and considerate as the situation allows. I think this attitude and practice lends itself for better acceptance of our community.

I keep outings short enough that I don't have the dilemma.

Hugs, Anna xx

I always use the ladies room. When in Rome and all that.

I'd rather be confronted by a woman who is irate than a homophobe on the men's room. 

Generally I look for the "Family" restrooms now to avoid issues and I keep a mental note of places that have Single Use facilities. That way I'm the only one there and that's that. But if all else fails I use the ladies room. 

It's funny but now after 20 years of going out I actually have to check myself when drab and using the restroom. I automatically head for the ladies room.