Crossdresser Heaven – 10 years old and counting

On January 27th, 2008, Crossdresser Heaven (CDH) started with a simple “Hello” ( from Vanessa Law. She was starting a blog about being a crossdresser. As time progressed, so did Vanessa’s story and her journey to what would eventually become her complete transition. There are 70+ articles that she wrote from January of 2008 to April of 2012 when she published “The Long Road Back” (  In essence, this was the last of her continuous series of blogs and it talked about her emotional and physical recovery from surgery. After that, there were just two more messages that she dropped on the site, the last on November 25, 2013 . . . And then Crossdresser Heaven went quiet.

Ultimately, Vanessa couldn’t leave the people that supported her and not give back her wisdom and knowledge. So, on March 22, 2015, she came back to the site she had started 7 years before.  However, this time it would not be just a blog but also a support site. She launched what we then knew as version 1.0 with a story called “When All Your Dreams Come True” (

What Vanessa didn’t realize was that she was giving the world and all the crossdressers in it a safe haven amidst a storm of hate and misunderstanding. She was about to share her dream far more than I think she ever imagined. In April of 2015, it was two strange characters, Claudia C and Codille Benton, on the site as members 52 and 63, who would become the first Ambassadors, 1A and 1B, in June of 2015.

There is a saying that if you build it they will come and all of you did, looking for friendship, support, and understanding in a safe place. The “Forums” were the first places to get information, then, more “Articles” and additional “Groups”. Next came “Places” to find additional help off-site and “Photos” posted by the growing family of members. Finally, with version 3.0, a mostly stable “Chat” room, you all still came!

From 210 countries, more than 1.6 million different people have visited the website at least once. We have had over 20,000 members, far more than Vanessa or I could ever have imagined.  But it is because of Vanessa’s dream, along with the 28 Ambassadors who work to keep this website safe, and your help that has become the largest Crossdresser/Transgender support site in the world! It is also you, my friends, who help to keep it an amazingly loving, supportive, and inviting internet home.

As for me, I have been blessed to be here almost from the beginning of phase two, the “support site”. I feel blessed that Vanessa trusted me with her vision.  Together we grew CDH from a baby into something much greater. Back then, I, like you, came looking for only two things, friendship and support. Well, I found a lot more friends than I thought were even out there and found more members to add to my extended family. Why did we find each other? It was because in April of 2015, Vanessa, like I have done for so many of you, simply said, “Hello” to me, just as she did to this world 10 years ago today.

So I would like to raise a glass to Crossdresser Heaven and to Vanessa Law, who had the courage and generosity to tell her story and then come back and give of herself, her knowledge, and experiences to say, “When all your Dreams Come True”.  Crossdresser Heaven is like no other site on the web but anyone reading this already knows that. We are going to keep it that way and keep adding to the dream that Vanessa may have started but we all now carry forward because of her.

Codille Benton

Managing Ambassador and Friend

January, 27th 2018

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Hi Codille, it’s Scarlett, one of your newest members! Codille, I would like to thank you Claudia, and especially Vanessa for welcoming me to your site. I’ve joined Crossdresser Heaven as a Duchess member because I love to mate my photography skills with my cross dressing skills both of which I try to improve and enjoy the learning process of how to move towards perfection in every passing year by listening and learning from others. As far as my photography skills are concerned, I’ve been taking photographs from the sidelines of college and pro football games for over 35 years.… Read more »


Happy anniversary! Here’s to many more years of love, acceptance, and encouragement being shared by everyone who participates.

Martine Jones

Happy anniversary CDH I’m glad to be part of a great group of lovely and friendly people . A place where I can go to be my true self with lovely ladies who not only support you but love you too.
Martine xxx

Martha Lou

Happy anniversary CDH,

I love being a girl on this site, Everyone here is so supportive.

I am glad that I found this wonderful site!


Happy anniversary cdh! You have helped me to finally understand that I am a good human being.

Sara Marie Franklin (SMF)

Thank you Vanessa and Codille. It is so wonderful to have a site like this and i feel so lucky to have found it. Sites like this do not exist and to have one that has now reached a 10 year history, shows the hard work you two have put into this site. To another 10 years of growth and pulling us ladies together.
Happy Anniversary CDH.


Thank you so much for being here. Keep up the good work. Some of us don’t participate very much, but we all appreciate this site. I know I do.

Shari Newman

Happy anniversary/ birthday CDH!

Sue Rowe

Happy anniversary cdh

Sue Rowe

I’m a new member ,so far in find the group amazing friendly and professional x


Happy Anniversary, and thanks so much for building such a wonderful resource for those of us who participate in the, sometimes, very lonely life of we closeted crossdressers. My wife knows and supports me, although she chooses to not participate by allowing me to dress in her presence. She does, however allow me to underdress and even lets me include my girly things to be washed with the rest of the household laundry. We have both had counseling, as a couple and individually and that has proved invaluable to our lasting 43 year marriage. Thanks again, and best wishes for… Read more »

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Terri Anne

Vanessa, How can I thank you enough? This site is the best! I barely remember joining way back when – must have been sometime in 2008. I did not know what I wanted here. Did not understand my journey back then. Could not remember any of my login information. So I “rejoined” and was greeted by the wonderful Skippy! Asking me to be her friend. I thought, it was so soon. At first I was still wary. After purusing the site and learning how wonderful the people are here. I gladly accepted Cynthia’s and the other wonderful ambassadors requests. I… Read more »

Terrisa Washbourne

WOW!!!! That is awesome! Thank you Vanessa and all the support staff including all the Ambassadors for this incredible website. It has helped me a heck of a lot.

April (Pacific Princess)

A big Happy Anniversary to CDH. I came here almost 2 years ago, as a somewhat scared, somewhat excited newbie, who finally decided to let her CD side reemerge, after decades of hiding. Once here I found acceptance, encouragement and love. I have met wonderful people, like Codille, Cyn, Sue, Sam, and …… well, naming them all would take too long. I am just thankful that I am a part of this wonderful site.

Thank you Vanessa!


Bianca Everdene

Happy 10th Anniversary CDH, and thank you for the company of like minded friends. Xxx


Vanessa, Happy 10th Anniversary to your baby who has really started to grow up and become a force to be reckoned with. I was so thankful when I was surfing the net and came across CDH. I had been a member of another CD website but I really disliked it. I was constantly getting “hit on” by trolls and I was so glad when I quit that website and joined CDH about a year & a half ago. There is great support, a positive attitude, friendliness, and security against those who try to get on for the wrong reasons. And… Read more »