On January 27th, 2008, Crossdresser Heaven (CDH) started with a simple “Hello” (https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/hello/) from Vanessa Law. She was starting a blog about being a crossdresser. As time progressed, so did Vanessa’s story and her journey to what would eventually become her complete transition. There are 70+ articles that she wrote from January of 2008 to April of 2012 when she published “The Long Road Back” (https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/the-long-road-back/).  In essence, this was the last of her continuous series of blogs and it talked about her emotional and physical recovery from surgery. After that, there were just two more messages that she dropped on the site, the last on November 25, 2013 . . . And then Crossdresser Heaven went quiet.

Ultimately, Vanessa couldn’t leave the people that supported her and not give back her wisdom and knowledge. So, on March 22, 2015, she came back to the site she had started 7 years before.  However, this time it would not be just a blog but also a support site. She launched what we then knew as crossdresserheaven.com version 1.0 with a story called “When All Your Dreams Come True” (https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/when-all-your-dreams-come-true/).

What Vanessa didn’t realize was that she was giving the world and all the crossdressers in it a safe haven amidst a storm of hate and misunderstanding. She was about to share her dream far more than I think she ever imagined. In April of 2015, it was two strange characters, Claudia C and Codille Benton, on the site as members 52 and 63, who would become the first Ambassadors, 1A and 1B, in June of 2015.

There is a saying that if you build it they will come and all of you did, looking for friendship, support, and understanding in a safe place. The “Forums” were the first places to get information, then, more “Articles” and additional “Groups”. Next came “Places” to find additional help off-site and “Photos” posted by the growing family of members. Finally, with version 3.0, a mostly stable “Chat” room, you all still came!

From 210 countries, more than 1.6 million different people have visited the website at least once. We have had over 20,000 members, far more than Vanessa or I could ever have imagined.  But it is because of Vanessa’s dream, along with the 28 Ambassadors who work to keep this website safe, and your help that www.Crossdresserheaven.com has become the largest Crossdresser/Transgender support site in the world! It is also you, my friends, who help to keep it an amazingly loving, supportive, and inviting internet home.

As for me, I have been blessed to be here almost from the beginning of phase two, the “support site”. I feel blessed that Vanessa trusted me with her vision.  Together we grew CDH from a baby into something much greater. Back then, I, like you, came looking for only two things, friendship and support. Well, I found a lot more friends than I thought were even out there and found more members to add to my extended family. Why did we find each other? It was because in April of 2015, Vanessa, like I have done for so many of you, simply said, “Hello” to me, just as she did to this world 10 years ago today.

So I would like to raise a glass to Crossdresser Heaven and to Vanessa Law, who had the courage and generosity to tell her story and then come back and give of herself, her knowledge, and experiences to say, “When all your Dreams Come True”.  Crossdresser Heaven is like no other site on the web but anyone reading this already knows that. We are going to keep it that way and keep adding to the dream that Vanessa may have started but we all now carry forward because of her.

Codille Benton

Managing Ambassador and Friend

January, 27th 2018

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  1. Stephanie-Kimberlie 4 weeks ago

    Happy 10th. Anniversary !!!!

  2. Gisela Claudine 4 weeks ago

    Happy Anniversary‼ It’s a wonderful place, full of great girls. They are kind, supportive and friendly. My love and respect for all of you. I’m happy to belong here. Follow your heart, girls.

    Cinnamon kisses,

  3. Das Boots 4 weeks ago

    Happy Anniversary CDH! Great article my friend.

  4. kate dancer 4 weeks ago

    Thank you Vanessa I don’t think I would be here if it was not for this site. thank you with all my heart, huggs does not seem enough for you hun
    huggs kaydee xoxoxox

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  6. Mishael Lovelace 4 weeks ago

    Happy 10th anniversary CDH! I’m new to this site but glad I found it. Hugs and kisses, Mishael

  7. Deety 4 weeks ago

    Happy Anniversary to the best crossdresser support site on the web.

  8. Holly G 4 weeks ago

    I simply can’t thank Vanessa enough for starting all of this. I was there at the early phases with you CB and it was the first time in my life that I was ever able to talk to anyone about this hidden side of me. It was and continues to be such a blessing for me! Congratulations and thank you to everyone for making CDH the wonderful place that it is!

  9. Jackie Wild 4 weeks ago

    One of the many gifts we are given at birth is the ability to have a vision at any given time. So many of us pass up opportunities to share those visions time and time again. The result of that choice to do so, more so than not cheats many from learning, over coming fears, discovery, and other important aspects. I suppose in one way it is selfish not to share what could help and guide so many. Vanessa had such a vision and she acted upon it in which has helped thousands of people who were not able to escape the ever so dark chambers they were confined in. Her own discovery was one I truly believe was soon followed by none other than a spiritual awakening or experience if you will. She has definitely became such an asset to so many. Confucius one said or quoted; “be it day’s weeks or year’s, when the pupil is ready the teacher appears” Such an inspiration you really are Vanessa. It’s my hope with confidence that CDH will remain running for many year’s to come and will always be here for anyone who so chooses to be a part of and to help guide those who are temporarily lost and confused about who they were born to be. I would like to also mention that Vanessa has chose other’s who work diligently towards keeping the site running smoothly very carefully. Our manager Codille Benton for example works night and day giving so much to the community and to member’s alike. She as well as many are fine examples of Vanessa’s vision continuing to accelerate and grow in number’s. That said I wish to personally say “thank you Vanessa, you have made a difference in so many lives, and that is huge! Jackie Wild….Wild Child.

  10. Rhonda Roe 4 weeks ago

    A site like no other indeed. Thanks to Vanessa and those who keep this site amazing.

  11. Liv 4 weeks ago

    Happy anniversary CDH!!!

  12. skippy1965(Cynthia) 4 weeks ago

    Thank you so much for remembering this anniversary and writing this article. I remember my first visit to the site-which was to enter a drawing for a free pair of breast forms. I didn’t win those …but I was far more fortunate because I won the greatest prize of all by finding this place which has helped me to discover who I am and accept that I am DIFFERENT than others but not less valuable and worthy of love and acceptance because of that difference. The world is ever so slowly becoming more accepting of our community and this site is one of the big contributors to that change. By showing that the TG community-both crossdressers and those who may transition to a lesser or greater degree-is NOT (like so many try to portray it) focused solely on sex or erotica but instead is asking only to be treated with basic human dignity and compassion.

    There is no one who better exemplifies that than Vanessa who could have closed down the site and slipped into mainstream society after completing her transition. No one would have begrudged her that path for she deserved to be able to leave the past part of her life behind and enjoy being the beautiful butterfly who emerged from the chrysalis. But instead, as she glanced back at the remains of the cocoon which was her previous vessel, her heart wept for the others who were still trapped in their own cocoons-too weak or frightened to emerge – worried that the world would crush them before they could realize their potential. I can almost see the tears in her eyes and heart, and then see those tears turn into a determination that she would do whatever she could to nurture those cocoons and let them see what they could become if they have the courage and vision to take a chance-to leave the comfort zone-miserable though it sometimes could be-to risk the world’s opprobrium and let the beautiful creatures that had been surrounded and cloaked in dark shadows to enter the bright sunshine of the greater world and shine as examples to others. Because of her strength and resolve that others not go through life without support as she had for so long, there are thousands upon thousands who have embarked upon journeys which continue to this day.

    As member 123 from August 2015, I am a relative newbie compared to Claudia and Codille-who are two of my dearest friends and mentors. As Vanessa said “hello” to Codille, it was Codille who said “hello” to this shy girl who was just discovering herself after almost 40 years of putting herself down for not being “normal” by the world’s standards. She and Vanessa nurtured me and helped me learn that “normal” is boring and safe-it’s far better to be unique and daring (and somewhat eccentric 🙂 LOL). They never could teach me to type (as ANYONE who has ever been in the chat room can attest), but hey taught me BY EXAMPLE to be open about who I am, to be compassionate to others, and to be a friend to those for whom we may be the ONLY place that some can share this part of their lives with.

    Well this went longer than I originally planned on ,but that just shows what a tremendous positive influence and impact this site has had -for me and so many thousands of others. Codille-thank you again for this article and for being my FF. Vanessa-thank you for making the courageous decision to follow your dream, and-having achieved that dream-to reach out to help others achieve theirs as well. And to my friends here on the site-thank you for your love, friendship and acceptance without which I’d still be hiding in my bedroom instead of enjoying the journey I am on. I on’t know the final destination, but wherever it is, I will be walking that path -not alone..but accompanied by an army of friends who pick me up when I stumble and cheer me on when I succeed. And I hope I can be a small part of helping others in the way that the founding leader shared her vision and lead me to step out of the darkness and take the first step toward the life that I was meant to lead.
    Humbly blessed to be your friend,

  13. Stephanie Bass 4 weeks ago

    Happy 10th Anniversary CDH!!!

  14. Jesse Nicole(Smokey) 4 weeks ago

    Thank you, thank you, thank you Vanessa for starting something that changed so many lives for the better, including mine! I feel so bad for not being active for sich a long time..I’m hoping that a much needed job change will help that in the near future. Also, thanks to Skippy, Codille, Samantha G, Jasmine, and so,many other ambassadors who helped me so much when I joined. Love ya Vanessa

    Jesse (Smokey)

  15. Helena Diaz 4 weeks ago

    Thank you Vanessa for creating this heaven. I don’t know what to say that hasn’t been said, but the angels on this site have been such an influence that not a day has gone by that I don’t wonder what the ladies are up to. I hope to visit more frequently, CDH is the only place I can come to and not be judged. Thank you Vanessa and Ambassadors for taking our hands in yours and being there for us as we take this oh-so wonderful journey together. Much love, respect, and gratitude. Here’s to 10 plus more!

  16. ANDREA RAVEN 4 weeks ago

    As a new mumble I would like to say a big THANK YOU for this site, it has to be the best crossdresser support site on the internet.


  17. Sarah Daniels 3 weeks ago

    Happy Anniversary and thank you all.

  18. Dorothy Boots 3 weeks ago

    Happy 10th anniversary ad thank you..

  19. Samantha G..... 3 weeks ago

    Happy 10th CDH !!! Thank you so much Vanessa. My world would
    be so much smaller if not for this site and all the amazing friends
    I’ve made here. Thank you Codille, Claudia and all the other smart, funny & fantastic Ambassadors for keeping the site running day to day.
    Here’s to many many more years of this great place.

    Big Hugs…….

  20. Alison Browning 3 weeks ago

    Happy birthday CDH and thank you.

  21. Krista 3 weeks ago

    Vanessa, Happy 10th Anniversary to your baby who has really started to grow up and become a force to be reckoned with.
    I was so thankful when I was surfing the net and came across CDH. I had been a member of another CD website but I really disliked it. I was constantly getting “hit on” by trolls and I was so glad when I quit that website and joined CDH about a year & a half ago.
    There is great support, a positive attitude, friendliness, and security against those who try to get on for the wrong reasons.
    And thanks to Codille for writing the article. I had a glass of Pinot Grigio earlier this evening in celebration.

    Krista (Northern Gurl)

  22. Bianca Everdene 3 weeks ago

    Happy 10th Anniversary CDH, and thank you for the company of like minded friends. Xxx

  23. A big Happy Anniversary to CDH. I came here almost 2 years ago, as a somewhat scared, somewhat excited newbie, who finally decided to let her CD side reemerge, after decades of hiding. Once here I found acceptance, encouragement and love. I have met wonderful people, like Codille, Cyn, Sue, Sam, and …… well, naming them all would take too long. I am just thankful that I am a part of this wonderful site.

    Thank you Vanessa!


  24. Terrisa Washbourne 3 weeks ago

    WOW!!!! That is awesome! Thank you Vanessa and all the support staff including all the Ambassadors for this incredible website. It has helped me a heck of a lot.

  25. Terri Anne 3 weeks ago

    Vanessa, How can I thank you enough?
    This site is the best! I barely remember joining way back when – must have been sometime in 2008. I did not know what I wanted here. Did not understand my journey back then. Could not remember any of my login information. So I “rejoined” and was greeted by the wonderful Skippy! Asking me to be her friend. I thought, it was so soon.
    At first I was still wary. After purusing the site and learning how wonderful the people are here. I gladly accepted Cynthia’s and the other wonderful ambassadors requests.
    I has been the best journey of acceptance in my entire life.
    I love CDH and that certainly means all of the beautiful ladies here.
    Thank you to all for giving me a SAFE place to learn, share, enjoy this life long adventure.
    – Terri Anne

  26. ilandkathy 3 weeks ago

    Happy Anniversary, and thanks so much for building such a wonderful resource for those of us who participate in the, sometimes, very lonely life of we closeted crossdressers. My wife knows and supports me, although she chooses to not participate by allowing me to dress in her presence. She does, however allow me to underdress and even lets me include my girly things to be washed with the rest of the household laundry. We have both had counseling, as a couple and individually and that has proved invaluable to our lasting 43 year marriage. Thanks again, and best wishes for the New Year!

  27. Shari Newman 3 weeks ago

    Happy anniversary/ birthday CDH!

    • Sue Rowe 3 weeks ago

      Happy anniversary cdh

      • Sue Rowe 3 weeks ago

        I’m a new member ,so far in find the group amazing friendly and professional x

  28. Squeak 3 weeks ago

    Thank you so much for being here. Keep up the good work. Some of us don’t participate very much, but we all appreciate this site. I know I do.

  29. Sara Marie Franklin 3 weeks ago

    Thank you Vanessa and Codille. It is so wonderful to have a site like this and i feel so lucky to have found it. Sites like this do not exist and to have one that has now reached a 10 year history, shows the hard work you two have put into this site. To another 10 years of growth and pulling us ladies together.
    Happy Anniversary CDH.

  30. Jennifergordon 3 weeks ago

    Happy anniversary cdh! You have helped me to finally understand that I am a good human being.

  31. Martha Lou 3 weeks ago

    Happy anniversary CDH,

    I love being a girl on this site, Everyone here is so supportive.

    I am glad that I found this wonderful site!

  32. Martine Jones 3 weeks ago

    Happy anniversary CDH I’m glad to be part of a great group of lovely and friendly people . A place where I can go to be my true self with lovely ladies who not only support you but love you too.
    Martine xxx

  33. Ashleigh 3 weeks ago

    Happy anniversary! Here’s to many more years of love, acceptance, and encouragement being shared by everyone who participates.

  34. PaulaPlaytex 1 week ago


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