Crossdresser Heaven – 10 years old and counting

On January 27th, 2008, Crossdresser Heaven (CDH) started with a simple “Hello” ( from Vanessa Law. She was starting a blog about being a crossdresser. As time progressed, so did Vanessa’s story and her journey to what would eventually become her complete transition. There are 70+ articles that she wrote from January of 2008 to April of 2012 when she published “The Long Road Back” (  In essence, this was the last of her continuous series of blogs and it talked about her emotional and physical recovery from surgery. After that, there were just two more messages that she dropped on the site, the last on November 25, 2013 . . . And then Crossdresser Heaven went quiet.

Ultimately, Vanessa couldn’t leave the people that supported her and not give back her wisdom and knowledge. So, on March 22, 2015, she came back to the site she had started 7 years before.  However, this time it would not be just a blog but also a support site. She launched what we then knew as version 1.0 with a story called “When All Your Dreams Come True” (

What Vanessa didn’t realize was that she was giving the world and all the crossdressers in it a safe haven amidst a storm of hate and misunderstanding. She was about to share her dream far more than I think she ever imagined. In April of 2015, it was two strange characters, Claudia C and Codille Benton, on the site as members 52 and 63, who would become the first Ambassadors, 1A and 1B, in June of 2015.

There is a saying that if you build it they will come and all of you did, looking for friendship, support, and understanding in a safe place. The “Forums” were the first places to get information, then, more “Articles” and additional “Groups”. Next came “Places” to find additional help off-site and “Photos” posted by the growing family of members. Finally, with version 3.0, a mostly stable “Chat” room, you all still came!

From 210 countries, more than 1.6 million different people have visited the website at least once. We have had over 20,000 members, far more than Vanessa or I could ever have imagined.  But it is because of Vanessa’s dream, along with the 28 Ambassadors who work to keep this website safe, and your help that has become the largest Crossdresser/Transgender support site in the world! It is also you, my friends, who help to keep it an amazingly loving, supportive, and inviting internet home.

As for me, I have been blessed to be here almost from the beginning of phase two, the “support site”. I feel blessed that Vanessa trusted me with her vision.  Together we grew CDH from a baby into something much greater. Back then, I, like you, came looking for only two things, friendship and support. Well, I found a lot more friends than I thought were even out there and found more members to add to my extended family. Why did we find each other? It was because in April of 2015, Vanessa, like I have done for so many of you, simply said, “Hello” to me, just as she did to this world 10 years ago today.

So I would like to raise a glass to Crossdresser Heaven and to Vanessa Law, who had the courage and generosity to tell her story and then come back and give of herself, her knowledge, and experiences to say, “When all your Dreams Come True”.  Crossdresser Heaven is like no other site on the web but anyone reading this already knows that. We are going to keep it that way and keep adding to the dream that Vanessa may have started but we all now carry forward because of her.

Codille Benton

Managing Ambassador and Friend

January, 27th 2018

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  1. Scarlett398 2 months ago

    Hi Codille, it’s Scarlett, one of your newest members!
    Codille, I would like to thank you Claudia, and especially Vanessa for welcoming me to your site.

    I’ve joined Crossdresser Heaven as a Duchess member because I love to mate my photography skills with my cross dressing skills both of which I try to improve and enjoy the learning process of how to move towards perfection in every passing year by listening and learning from others.

    As far as my photography skills are concerned, I’ve been taking photographs from the sidelines of college and pro football games for over 35 years. What sets my sports photography apart from the other sports photographers is 1) None of my sports photos are of action shots…2) They are all close ups of famous players, coaches, offensive and defensive coordinators, broadcasters, mascots, cheerleaders, band members, and fans in the stands in crazy outfits or donning catchy signs… and 3) I’m the only sideline sports photographer dressed up in an athletic or slim cut suits with pin point cotton permanent pressed shirts accessorized with expensive power colored ties and very nice Johnston and Murphy dress shoes. In other words, I look like part of the ESPN Gameday Crew! That’s just how I roll. I still love to dress up like my dad and mom did when they went to a college football game back in the 1950s or 60s. And I just seem to get more respect from others when I’m wearing a suit!

    My cross dressing skills seem to be well above average based on the comments I’ve received from the girls over the last few years. On the four rare occasions when I get out in public each year, I don’t think anyone has ever realized that that’s a guy in that dress or skirt and top with heels or ankle booties or whatever!

    I ended up on this site as a cast off from what I call the Dark Side of cross dressing sites –! Apparently I got banned from the site for inadvertently posting the same photo twice. But the real reason was a couple of jealous moderators who looked like big mean men in dresses and a couple of jealous girls on the site all of whom didn’t like the fact that my postings and threads received a ton of reviews and replies when compared to their postings and that just didn’t set well with that crowd.

    Codille, it also seemed as though I had to play by an entirely different set of rules and regulations than most of the other girls on the site because of my popularity. However, everything I posted was tasteful and appropriate just as the posts I’ve made on this site over the past two months here. And I haven’t had one negative comment or one discouraging word or complaint from any of the girls or moderators on this site. You can check my posts and received mail and see that all is done with class and style and will continue be done so in the near and distant future.

    This site is so much more friendly than the other site I was a member of and quite frankly, I’m glad I’m no longer there. And I’m not the only one who’s complained or left that site. There are a whole string of former members and current members who are fed up with the over bearing moderators and some extremely inconsiderate girls over there. The inconsiderate girls are in an extremely small minority, however, it only takes a couple to make the thrill of cross dressing not too thrilling if you know what I mean!

    Anyway, Codille, I’m so happy to be a Duchess member here and so glad I don’t have to shrink my photos to an unreasonable pixel size of 500 to post a photo like you had to do on The Dark Side! Not only is that process extremely time consuming, it also takes away from the clarity and the beauty of the photos. Here it’s not a requirement and that’s a real relief!

    I hope you, Vanessa, and Claudia have had a chance to view some of my posted photos in the private and public photo forums. All the girls seem to really like them and have been so encouraging, complimentary, and just so sweet so far! I’m really enjoying sharing my photos I take of Scarlett with my Nikon D3100 sitting on a Vivitar tripod with the 10 second timer on. All of my photos are taken by me in the privacy of our new dream home and are shared with others which is what I love to do best with this thrilling cross dressing part of my personality.

    Thanks for reading and please copy and share with your other administrators if you can because I would love for Vanessa, Claudia, and the rest of the crew to see this note regarding your girls on this site and this wonderful Crossdresser Heaven site that is so much more user friendly and moderator friendly than

    Take care, Codille, and have a wonderful rest of the week!

    Sincerely, Scarlett, one of your newest and happiest members!
    XOXO Scarlett

  2. Ashleigh 9 months ago

    Happy anniversary! Here’s to many more years of love, acceptance, and encouragement being shared by everyone who participates.

  3. Martine Jones 9 months ago

    Happy anniversary CDH I’m glad to be part of a great group of lovely and friendly people . A place where I can go to be my true self with lovely ladies who not only support you but love you too.
    Martine xxx

  4. Martha Lou 9 months ago

    Happy anniversary CDH,

    I love being a girl on this site, Everyone here is so supportive.

    I am glad that I found this wonderful site!

  5. Jennifergordon 9 months ago

    Happy anniversary cdh! You have helped me to finally understand that I am a good human being.

  6. Thank you Vanessa and Codille. It is so wonderful to have a site like this and i feel so lucky to have found it. Sites like this do not exist and to have one that has now reached a 10 year history, shows the hard work you two have put into this site. To another 10 years of growth and pulling us ladies together.
    Happy Anniversary CDH.

  7. Squeak 9 months ago

    Thank you so much for being here. Keep up the good work. Some of us don’t participate very much, but we all appreciate this site. I know I do.

  8. Shari Newman 9 months ago

    Happy anniversary/ birthday CDH!

    • Sue Rowe 9 months ago

      Happy anniversary cdh

      • Sue Rowe 9 months ago

        I’m a new member ,so far in find the group amazing friendly and professional x

  9. ilandkathy 9 months ago

    Happy Anniversary, and thanks so much for building such a wonderful resource for those of us who participate in the, sometimes, very lonely life of we closeted crossdressers. My wife knows and supports me, although she chooses to not participate by allowing me to dress in her presence. She does, however allow me to underdress and even lets me include my girly things to be washed with the rest of the household laundry. We have both had counseling, as a couple and individually and that has proved invaluable to our lasting 43 year marriage. Thanks again, and best wishes for the New Year!

  10. Terri Anne 9 months ago

    Vanessa, How can I thank you enough?
    This site is the best! I barely remember joining way back when – must have been sometime in 2008. I did not know what I wanted here. Did not understand my journey back then. Could not remember any of my login information. So I “rejoined” and was greeted by the wonderful Skippy! Asking me to be her friend. I thought, it was so soon.
    At first I was still wary. After purusing the site and learning how wonderful the people are here. I gladly accepted Cynthia’s and the other wonderful ambassadors requests.
    I has been the best journey of acceptance in my entire life.
    I love CDH and that certainly means all of the beautiful ladies here.
    Thank you to all for giving me a SAFE place to learn, share, enjoy this life long adventure.
    – Terri Anne

  11. Terrisa Washbourne 9 months ago

    WOW!!!! That is awesome! Thank you Vanessa and all the support staff including all the Ambassadors for this incredible website. It has helped me a heck of a lot.

  12. A big Happy Anniversary to CDH. I came here almost 2 years ago, as a somewhat scared, somewhat excited newbie, who finally decided to let her CD side reemerge, after decades of hiding. Once here I found acceptance, encouragement and love. I have met wonderful people, like Codille, Cyn, Sue, Sam, and …… well, naming them all would take too long. I am just thankful that I am a part of this wonderful site.

    Thank you Vanessa!


  13. Bianca Everdene 9 months ago

    Happy 10th Anniversary CDH, and thank you for the company of like minded friends. Xxx

  14. Krista 9 months ago

    Vanessa, Happy 10th Anniversary to your baby who has really started to grow up and become a force to be reckoned with.
    I was so thankful when I was surfing the net and came across CDH. I had been a member of another CD website but I really disliked it. I was constantly getting “hit on” by trolls and I was so glad when I quit that website and joined CDH about a year & a half ago.
    There is great support, a positive attitude, friendliness, and security against those who try to get on for the wrong reasons.
    And thanks to Codille for writing the article. I had a glass of Pinot Grigio earlier this evening in celebration.

    Krista (Northern Gurl)

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