Crossdressers, do you sit to pee?

During our day to day life we can do many things to feel more feminine. We can paint our toenails a fabulous new shade every week, or wear demure cotton panties beneath our otherwise manly attire, or let the slight whiff of  feminine perfume leave a mystery in the air for others to ponder.

These are all a fun way to get in touch with your feminine side on a more regular basis, but don’t introduce the more awkward and time consuming aspects of being a woman. Those bland day to day rituals a woman goes through that the average crossdresser experiences weekly or monthly as a mystical and wondrous event. When done once in a while makeup application becomes a delight, not a chore. Brushing and styling those long luxurious locks is thirty minutes of heaven before a day in the clouds, not something that deprives you of an extra 10 minutes sleep every day.

This week’s poll is inspired by the divine and awkward feminine necessity of sitting to pee. The question for you is, do you sit to pee all the time, or do you reserve this particular regiment for when you’re in full feminine regalia?

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Relive Your Most Embarrassing Moment in Crossdressing

While last week’s poll revealed by a landslide that the most embarrassing crossdressing moment is being discovered by friends or family – the comments did turn up some interesting stories. If you haven’t had a chance to read the comments I encourage you to take a look at what the readers of Crossdresser Heaven shared. I promise you, Franny’s tale has a way of putting in perspective any embarrassment you’ve experienced that is much more powerful than years of reflective contemplation.

Have a wonderful week ladies!

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  1. Racquel Lynn 7 years ago

    Actually, being able to stand up and pee is one of the great things about having the male plumbing. It’s the one convenience I will take advantage of while I can. But it just depends on what I am wearing and if it is easier to sit or stand while going. Sometimes I’m tired and just want to sit, so after my accident, I am finding myself sitting to go a lot more. lol

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    Vanessa Law 7 years ago

    Hehe, indeed. I must admit that I falter in public bathrooms. Men are quite disgusting, and the thought of cleaning the seat sufficiently so I can do my business is not a pleasant thing to look forward to…

  3. Terri 7 years ago


    I have to pee sitting down all the time, for I am handicap and it does not matter if I am dressed as a male or female.

    Thank you,

    Terri Virgil

  4. Denise Carolina 7 years ago

    I do it in a regular basis, taking the advantage of my business trips and whenever in my hotel room, dressed as a girl, it is a complementary good feeling to act this way. It works great and the sensation is wonderful.

    • Carol 7 years ago

      Hi denise. Interesting, you get a “sensation peeing”. I never had that. I dislike peeing. Its disgusting, but part of life. We all often have to face things we dont like to do.

  5. MELONY 7 years ago

    HI ladies i only sit peeing at home,,, should i do it all the time,,,, to get used to it.. melony

  6. Randi Layne 7 years ago

    The poll doesn’t give me the most fitting choice. Generally I sit down – partly due to no urinal and being conscious of the noise of urination when standing – the so-called courteous flush equivalent. Where there are urinals and other men using the facility I don’t use a stall. So, for me, the issue isn’t en femme or not it is the circumstances. I prefer sitting partly due to the fact it is the female practice.

  7. Joanna Maguire 7 years ago

    It is best to sit down and pee when dresses in a skirt an wearing a slip Especially in the ladies “Powder Room” or female Loo If you do not sit down You could pee on your feminine clothing and stink like a man. Aslo if you sit down others cannot notice that your shoes are facing the loo Rather than facing forward as a woman sitting down appears, To go in The Mens while dressed enfemme is inviting more troubles than if you use “The Ladies” If there is one ? Maybe the Disabled toilet is the better one to use and safer. It takes a CD longer to use the toilet because of the problems of undoing your under wear. Ive never had any problems going to the Ladies Powder room Fixing your make up and hair in the Mens would be asking for trouble. No one takes any notice in the ladies. I have had no problems waiting in the que dressed in Evening Dress at the Magnificent ladies powder rooms at the Sydney Opera house with its huge mirrors over the wash basins and the floor to ceilings mirrors on the wall behind the wash basins So one can look at my evening dress, hair, make up etc to see how it looks If one is dressed as a woman. One must look appropriately dressed for the situation Act like a woman and Go to The ladies room or Disabled loo. Afterall we are trying to be a female and must do what women do as far and much as we are able.

  8. Elizabeth 7 years ago

    I have been sitting to pee for years – much longer than I have been cross dressing. I started it at home when I had to start getting up in the middle of the night to pee. That way I don’t have to wake up enough to aim. 🙂 And it eliminates the splash factor, so keeping the bathroom clean is easier. It has become so much of a habit tht I don’t even think about it , except when am in a public restroom, as someone else here has said, I usually have to wipe off the seat first. 🙁

  9. Leslee 7 years ago

    At home I always sit down as there is the splash factor which has been mentioned already. We have a tiled bathroom and everything is noticeable if you are not clean. But when I go into public bathrooms I find it hard to sit down due to the filth factor in many cases. Where were these people brought up besides the barn? There are some pigs out there in human clothing. At that point I opt for the urinal even tho I would rather sit..

  10. Marion 7 years ago

    I always sit down. New to experience my opportunites are limited.
    This sit down is an expeience I can always experience

  11. Marion 7 years ago

    Sit Down all the time. New to experience I can perform this any time
    and know it is a part of my new life experience.

  12. ranielle ranee 7 years ago

    Like most things my work prevents me from sitting to pee. If you have ever used a porta potty, you know they are (on average) 5 days past filthy. When ever I go out, even as a male I always ware all the fem cloths as possible. I always set to pee. that is one of the things that makes me feel the most femm.

  13. rogina garter 7 years ago

    When a toilet is questionable,most girls I know sort of squat over it..In too many cases,bathrooms are discusting messes..male,female and family included.As a society,some people are pigs and uncaring for the next person. Restaurants should be given more citations!

  14. Laura 7 years ago

    I sit 90% of the time, and it’s completely unrelated to my dressing. I figured it out years ago when I was still single, and was the sole responsible party for keeping my own bathroom clean! Sitting keeps the splash factor down, which means a cleaner bathroom at home. Sitting also keeps little drops of splash-back from not landing on my pants when at work.

  15. Vanessa Law 7 years ago

    Thanks for all your comments ladies – it’s wonderful to hear your thoughts on this somewhat private matter 🙂

  16. carol 7 years ago

    Yes of course. Its only natural. Carol

  17. Sharon 7 years ago

    I sit down to pee most of the time when i am dressed male so i can
    wipe of any drips.When i am dressed female i always sit down to pee.

  18. Sylvia 7 years ago

    Yes, whenever possible! Partly cleanliness, but partly to be Ladylike. I am thinking I might “tuck” every day, to combine with Knickers, tights, etc. Can anyone offer advice on “Feminine Hygeine” products, please?

    • Giuseppeshu 6 years ago

      Douching to me is a huge turn-on. I enjoy vinegar-water especially. The smell is arousing. I use a douche bag whenever, I need to feel fresh.-Josie

  19. Stephanie Knight 7 years ago

    I sit down whether I’m enfemme or not, mostly because it’s cleaner but I’ve also found that it’s just easier to help get my flow going sitting down unless I REALLY have to go. I also was trained sitting down when I was a kid, so I guess it really just comes natural to me. I wouldn’t say, however, it’s easy for us to sit down and pee on most toilets because, frankly, most toilets don’t really seem designed for men to pee sitting down and I have to usually aim for the water even when I’m sitting. Anybody got any good tips for making it easier for us to sit down to pee?

  20. Elizabeth 7 years ago

    Stephanie –
    If, when you sit down to pee, you tuck your penis and testicles downward, and keep your legs together, that will aim everything downwards, rather than forward toward the rim. The only problem with this is, if like me, you have BPH (enlarged prostate – one of the vagaries of ageing), sometimes the extra pressure on the prostate makes it a little harder to get the stream started.

    • Stephanie Knight 7 years ago

      Hey, thanks for responding. I didn't notice that anybody had responded to me because I hadn't looked at the article again for awhile. I tried your suggestion but found it kind of difficult to tuck my penis and and testicles. Sometimes when I really have to go (or maybe it's just when I'm cold), my penis and testicles shrink up to the point that it's difficult for me to "tuck" them underneath me. Do you have any good resources/links for "tucking techniques"? Thanks again for writing back.

  21. guset 7 years ago

    i do when im tired or dressed up

  22. Hishanna 6 years ago

    Yes I do sit. dress as male or female I was train to sit went going wee wee.I always did and still do. I am a tom girl. I think it is  disgusted   to stand and wee wee. I hate going t0 the little  boy room.

  23. Robinloves1 6 years ago

     I always sitwearther i’m dressas lady or not.  An I love to duche too

  24. Jeff 5 years ago

    I’m not a crossdresser, but, I have been sitting to pee for over 5 years. I have wanted to feel more feminine so this is one thing I do that helps. I have also shaved a large portion of my body hair and trim the rest. I use body lotion and face lotion. It does make me feel more feminine. The most recent thing is I purchased mens nylon underwear. Just another feminine touch.

  25. Katie Anne McCloskey 5 years ago

    As I nearly always wear skirts and the appropriate undergarments I have just learned to sit or “hover” if the seat is dirty. I squat if I am force to relieve myself outside and sit at home when I am alone. Now it is just natural.

  26. Briana 5 years ago

    I generally sit to pee. Think about it if you wear panties 24/7 then its a must to sit and pee as well as wipe when you are done. Failure to wipe will cause dripping into your panties and cause a smell to occur especially with silk panties as well as lace and no one wants that male or female. Everyone regardless should sit to pee for hygiene purposes whether your a cross dresser or not its a good practice.

  27. Debbie 4 years ago

    I nowadays always sit to pee. The seat is always clean and there is no splash back.
    It is also a good way of expressing my feminine side. This is just as well as I am strictly not allowed to wear trousers with flys and they must either be with elasticated waist or side zip fastening and I have to wear tights underneath. I also wear skirts when at home and again I have to wear tights. Sitting is the only option.

  28. Alicia 4 years ago

    since I been dressing I sit when I pee I feel being a woman I need to sit I even wipe off so I don’t get my panties all pee I love being clean you never you might a guy and you need to be clean Alicia

  29. helinha 4 years ago

    Nowadays I piss more sitting than standing. Makes me feel more feminine!

  30. cdvickie 3 years ago

    Hi well i have been a cross dresser since 5 yrs old and have always sat down to pee as far back as i can remember so both cross dressing and sitting down is a way of life for me. Not a sexual thing at all, just how things are for me

  31. Candy 2 years ago

    Hi always sit to pee.

  32. rfs2808 2 years ago

    I always sit and pee, because I don’t like the splash back when standing at the urinal. The only problem is that men are pigs, they pee on the seat and floor, you always have to clean up after them before sit to pee. No hovering for me.

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    Ashley 1 year ago

    Hey Vanessa. Love your website. Tons of great advice.
    I always sit down to pee now. Growing up I would sit down if I was wearing panties or dressed up. But now since I have grown up and am trying to embrace my cross dressing, I always do. Plus I only wear panties now and am trying to slowly start letting my inner girl come out.

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    Sheryl Johnstone 1 year ago

    Over the last few years, as I spend more time out fully dressed and using the ladies loo on a regular basis, I now feel great discomfort even entering a public men’s rest room when dressed in drab.
    I have been sitting to pee for so long that it feels totally unnatural to stand. Besides, it is very difficult to re-tuck while standing at a urinal and only having an open fly for access.
    When the use of the ‘men’s is unavoidable, the seat always needs a thorough wipe and sometimes even that is not enough. The use of toilet paper to wipe, is essential for personal hygiene and the ladies usually smells far nicer than the men’s.

    And finally
    A woman does not stand to pee!
    Hugs to all.

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    Sallysim 1 year ago

    Yes I always sit it’s the only way for a lady, always use the ladies room when dressed

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    Sunny 1 year ago

    I started wearing panties 3 1/2 years ago on a daily basis. Two years ago I started to set down when peeing. I do this 99% of the time. Some men’s public restrooms are so disgusting that I use the urinal to get out as quick as possible. On the rare occasion the men’s room is occupied in a small restaurant, I jump at the opportunity to use the women’s restroom. The look I get when I walk out if a woman is now waiting is precious.

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    DawnOday 12 months ago

    I sit to pee. Have for a long time. Got tired of mom telling me to put the lid down. It also keeps me from peeing on my leg or collecting splashes on my shins.

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      Lisa norman 5 months ago

      Exactly the same here. Being small and foreskin. Much easier to sit and slip foreskin over my clitoris or it goes everywhere !
      It’s hard being out and using urinals. The size makes me have to lean in all way in urinal plus out in means jeans easier to un zip jeans and my panties show in back!!! I don’t care anymore…. I have had very few comments

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    Simone 11 months ago

    I sit down 90% of the time. I am still fighting it, and falling back on the ease and convenience of standing, especially at work. Inevitably when I do fall back, I wish I didn’t as invariably I get splashback, and a close to an uncontrolled stream. I have little to no penis and scrotum left (from hormones), and this makes it very hard to pee standing up with any control, especially in panties and most woman’s jeans or shorts. I need to resolve to only pee sitting down.

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    Rosalind Christine 4 months ago

    Reserved for when en femme. Contributes to enhancing the feminine experience as well as maintaining feminine decorum.

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    Stacycd75 Hart 4 months ago

    Hi stacycd75 here
    I forgot that I’m meant to stand an pee.
    I roll down my undies sqot and pee all the time.
    Its awesome

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    Terrie 4 months ago

    I squat all the time I just feel like it’s the femme side coming out of me just seems natural to me

  42. Stacycd75 4 months ago

    Me too. I feel better when I sit and pee.
    My panties by my knees it’s awesome 😉

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    Leslee Lace 3 months ago

    I try to most of the time. It is becoming more of a habit.

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    Rebecca Smith 3 months ago

    When I’m dressed I certainly do. While at work, with a duty belt on, it’s not practical as there’s a lot of things to undo and equipment to remove.

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    Jamies time 3 months ago

    I love to sit to pee it just seems so natural I love my feminine side

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    georgina 3 months ago

    I do, its such a habit I don’t think off it. I do love seeing my tights and knickers around my knees and then pulling them up again so sexy and sensual.

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    Jenny 3 months ago

    While I don’t know when it started I have been sitting to pee for a very long time now. Even and mostly In Guy mode . Wife always made a comment a out it but I said it seemed easier, or that I am lazy. Maybe all along it was Jenny trying to come out. Who k owe!

  48. Char 3 months ago

    The lie’s I tell myself struck me deep down for I have been doing a lot of the same things while being married for 46 years. I travel a lot but packing two suitcases one for work and and one for play is a real bitch sometimes. I have the greatest admiration for girls that can balance everything and still get time to dress up and have (fun) he he. I enjoy what men have to offer and really like to get undressed by them but I have been to open and have wound up with HIV + but it still does not detour me from my wants and needs of a CD. It all started when I was 8 and has been in the back ground for many years but now it seems my needs are much greater in the last 10 years. I love to dress up and go out to see what and who I can fool. It is so much fun to have women come up to me and say I had to look for a long time but I did figure it out. Then they ask if I am gay or Bi. I am Bi and enjoy walking on both sides of the street at the same time. I like to be fooled by other CD’s and trans girls.

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    rhondagurl 3 months ago

    As I’m mostly me all the time now I always sit to pee. At home,out and about I always use the ladies restroom,and if taken short outside I squat.
    I find it feels natural to me to do so

  50. Robert 7 years ago

    I personally think that ALL MALES, myself included should SIT DOWN
    to urinate. Why you ask, well first of all it is better then standing. When a male urinates when standing there is a back splash, whether yo do it in the water or spray on the porcelain. The spray also creates a mist that goes back on your clothing. The other fault is the dribble afterward usually winds up either on the toilet seat or the bowl rim if the seat and lid is lifted.
    I was raised, as well as my brothers that we sit when using the toilet, this is irregardless of what we are doing. I never saw a urinal til I was an adult, which is even nastier then a traditional toilet. The sprayback is even worse, especially if they contain the urinal odorant cakes inside them. I also think the design of the seat could be improved. It should have a guard that slips inside the rim of the bowl similar to boys potty chairs. DON”T YOU AGREE. This would stop some the mess from accumulating.
    Mothers should teach ALL of their sons to sit while urinating.

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