Crossdressing and the Bible

Almost every crossdresser, who is also a Christian, knows in their heart that God made them the way they are. Yet when actions run contrary to beliefs, there is internal conflict which manifests as guilt or shame. So, a crossdresser who has been told that God is against crossdressing because it says so in the Bible gets confused. Those who say this, do not realize that the Bible and especially Jesus Christ actually say nothing about crossdressing except in one passage of the Scripture in Deuteronomy 22.

I myself, a practicing Christian, was perplexed by this one and only reference in the Bible to wearing clothes of the opposite sex: Deuteronomy 22 verse 5. “A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man; nor shall a man put on a woman´s garment, for all who do so are an abomination to the Lord your God”

For me, the Old Testament is partly a book with archaic strictures as Vicky says, but it also contains the Ten Commandments, which are still valid today and which are the basis of our Legislature.

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To understand this verse we have to read it within the context in which it was written. At this particular time in the history of Israel during the Mosaic covenant, some pagans were involved in idolatrous worship, or the worship of idols, where they put their idol in the place of God. Men wore the colorful dress of women while they presented themselves before the Star of Venus, and women wore men´s armor when presenting themselves before the Star of Mars. So, with an understanding of what this passage is referring to it is clear that the crossdressing to which it refers pertains to the worshipping of idols and the practice of how it was being done in that days. Understandable, that this practice is an abomination to God.

Second. If we read this verse 5 in the context of the chapter, we find various unrelated laws with which the Israelites were to comply. For example, in verse 11 it says: “Don´t wear clothing woven from two kinds of thread: for instance, wool and linen together.” Why isn´t there a great disturbance about wearing shirts and blouses made of polyester and cotton today?

Imagine putting into practice the following (verse 12): “You must sow tassels on the four corners of your cloaks.” Nobody would do so today.

There are other practices which are not to be found today. I will mention a last one in verse 9. “You shall not sow your vineyard with different kinds of seed, lest the yield of the seed  which you have sown and the fruit of your vineyard be defiled.” For ecological reasons, many farmers and gardeners sow and plant mixed crops in their fields. Why are we not condemning this practice?

As you can see, if verse 5 is taken literally then we must also take the rest of the chapter literally as well. When viewing the chapter as a whole, one can readily see that these miscellaneous laws must be understood within the context of the culture and practices of that particular period.

For me, only the Ten Commandments are still valid which culminate in the two commandments which Jesus gives in the New Testament when he was asked: “Which is the greatest Commandment in the law.” Jesus said: “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it. Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.”

With all these thoughts in mind, I am a cheerful and thankful Christian Crossdresser, who has been crossdressing for 45 years now. I enjoy the days when I go out en femme without a sense of shame and guilt.

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Stella Friedrich

I am Stella from Frankfurt in Germany. I am married to an understanding wife, who has known about Stella for about 20 years now. She is not really delighted about my crossdressing and wishes it were different. Which wives say: "Hurrah, my husband is a crossdresser!" So far I have met none.

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  1. Ashleigh 3 months ago

    I am also a Christian cross dresser. What I am not is a Bible scholar. My understanding of the meaning of being a Christian is that we are saved by the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross for our sins. And, as such, we are covered by and live under His grace, no longer bound by the laws of the Old Testament. As you mentioned, so many of the laws they were common to the day, are no longer relevant. Many people choose the buffet version of the Bible which allows them to pick and choose the Scriptures they feel will get their point across.
    Thanks for sharing these thoughts.

  2. janedon 4 months ago

    fun Fact—in old Hebrew—abomination translated —to Not of our custom–
    The bible says we can just kill those who work sundays–
    I find religion confusing–
    The bible & other religious texts were supposedly written with GODs guidance–
    They say God is All knowing & wise beyond humans capacity–
    One would think that anything wriiten with Gods help–
    would be Cristal clear & leave No room for Questioning or misinterpretation–

  3. Jaime 4 months ago

    I told a friend the other day. I much rather walk into a dark alley knowing there is a street gang hanging out there, than walk into a church. Simply put, there is no guarantee that the street gang would attack me. In a church, I am pretty sure I would be surrounded by close-minded bigots using their faith to justify hating me.

    I am cool with people believing in religion. Just as long they are not using their faith to be a jerk to other people.

  4. Shannon Fox 5 months ago

    Hi Stella thanks for making a bit clear I believing god myself and was worried this was wrong in the eyes of the lord but your points are valid and have me a lot more peace of mind thank you hugs and kisses

  5. Ilona 5 months ago

    Men and women wore robes in biblical times. Women tended to wear longer robes and often wore a head covering and it seems that the Bible didn’t want men to wear a head covering and a long robe. Men didn’t wear shirts and trousers in Biblical times, so the Bible tends to support the idea of men wearing short, wrap around dresses, as did Jesus.

  6. Rose Turner 5 months ago

    No, We are not abominations. We are sinning, yes. but not abominations. The passage in the bible states if you wear the clothes of the opposite sex you have sinned before god. It doesn’t say anything about being an abomination. If you lie down with the same sex THEN you are an abomination.

    • Bobbi 2 months ago

      I don’t buy that for a second!
      I’m not an Atheist, I’m Agnostic. I want to believe, but there are too many unanswered questions. I think the bible was written by man to control people, or at the very least, it was “re-written” by man to control people.
      I think it is quite pretentious for anybody to say they know what god wants or expects of people.
      People who dress are NOT sinners! Who gets to say “who wears what”??

      I want that job! You know what I would say? I’d say wear whatever the f*ck you want!

      As far as what constitutes an abomination, one needs to look no further than the current state of the US government!

      I’m not knocking religion. If it works for you, great! I require proof of existence .

      So far, nobody has proven the existence of god. I believe religion is a “state of mind”.

  7. Hope Clark 5 months ago

    Sorry this is long … Here are some other questions to consider …

    Beyond the simple act of wearing clothes, I do think it biblical scripture gives lots of helpful guidance around how to analyze our heart and our indulgences around any act (including crossdressing).

    * Is our CD hobby SEPARATING ourselves from those we love or INTEGRATING us closer with them? In psychology, they use the terms “disassociating” or “dis-integrating” vs “integrating.”

    * Are we getting into habits of HIDING behaviors? Any time we start hiding behaviors from our spouses, we begin entering danger zone. This breeds shame and only increases the disconnect. It also encourages dis-integrating into separate lives. Are we hiding friends? Spending habits? Does this lead to lying to them about where we’re going or what we’re doing? All of this is unhealthy and counter to the wisdom in scripture about becoming one with our spouses to the point we can be naked and unashamed … physically, relationally, and spiritually (Genesis 2:25).

    * Is our body ADDICTED to the chemical endorphines we get doing something that society deems illicit? We’d all agree addictive behaviors aren’t helpful. Sort out those addictive tendencies. This means paying attention to WHEN we feel the need to crossdress. Are we feeling the need for positive chemicals in our blood because we had a fight with our wife or because we’re feeling depressed? Going to get a drug fix (even if it’s endorphines) can be potentially dangerous and in the short term, make us feel good, but in the long term create an unhealthy addiction.

    * What parts of our crossdressing is caused by hiding from our COWARDICE to really know our manhood and how God made us and wanted us to freely live? Genesis 1:27 says “God created mankind in his image … male and female” … it doesn’t say “male or female” … I looked in the original Hebrew wording. It says AND. And some believe this shows the unique mix of male and female in every human. So we shouldn’t be afraid to openly integrate feminine-leaning behaviors into our openly male lives. Any fear isn’t from God and doesn’t allow us to live our unique maleness.

    * What parts of our crossdressing is out of the desire of ENVY about the creativity, diversity, fabric, freedom, etc. of modern female wardrobe options? There’s nothing wrong with wanting to try things others have and like them. But it’s about our heart … if there’s envy in there, let’s look at the root of it.

    * What parts of our crossdressing is out of LUST? The biblical original word for lust is “epithymia,” which means “desire, craving, longing, desire for what is forbidden.” (Luke 22:15, 1 John 2:16, James 1:14-15, Matthew 5:28, Colossians 3:5) If we’ve attached any part of our CD to sexual patterns hidden from our spouse, then we’ve got lust involved. If we’re being drawn toward sexual patterns with people outside our marriage, we’re in unhealthy lust. If we’re demanding sexual patterns from our spouse, we’re in unhealthy lust.

    * The lust question is connected to SENSUALITY. The biblical original word for sensuality is “aselgia” (Mark 7:22) which means “unbridled lust.” So the question might not be whether or not we’re having lust, but whether or not we’re letting it get out of control and letting it own our hearts, behaviors, relationships, and time.

    * How might our crossdressing actions cause ANOTHER PERSON to stumble into unhealthy patterns? (Romans 14:13-23) The Apostle Paul was convinced that some actions are not wrong in themselves, but if we do them and they somehow “destroy the work of God” (v20), then we’re in an unhealthy pattern. So while still trying to avoid any heart of hiding and secrecy, there are times we have to display much prudence and discernment about how we enjoy our freedom to crossdress.

    * What parts of our crossdressing is caused from broken or insignificant male RELATIONSHIPS throughout life? How could we meet the real need of deep male friendship instead of this secondary desire for crossdressing?

    * What parts of our crossdressing is caused from a lack of real FEMALE conversation or non-sexual friendships? Often out of a heart of protecting us from love affairs, the church gets in the practice of prohibiting female relationships. But some of us desire female friendships and conversation much more than others and need that as a healthy balance for us.

  8. Hope Clark 5 months ago

    After reading the Bible a few times, I grew up under the Deuteronomy 22:5 burden. It wasn’t until a few months ago I did a little deeper research into that scripture. It’s interesting that the American/Christian commentators all discuss it straightforward … no wearing their clothes.

    I also found that the JEWISH commentators are different: They discuss that the point of that scripture is to keep people from sexual immorality, which is the abomination that is addressed. So, no crossdressing in order to sneak into the opposite gender area to have sex.

  9. Samantha Adams 5 months ago

    I’m a born again Christian and I have study the Bible for 3 years cover to cover the only time I took a break from reading hardcore of the Bible is when I took a shower and get some rest. I am aware that today AD 2018, IS REFERRING TO THE NEW TESTAMENT, the old testament doesn’t really apply today because my LORD and SAVIOR gave us just 2 commandments which Stella has said, love yourself and love your neighbor (paraphrase), just those 2 commandments we have to obey, God knows what we going to do before we do it that’s the best thing GOD allows us to have self-will, GOD doesn’t get in our way of our will (I wish he got my will out would saved me a lot of trouble), he allows us, you, me and Johnny down the road to do us until he let Satan direct us down the wrong road until he call on Jesus, to bring us back up and up on our two feet. Don’t get me wrong there will be a time for everything and GOD is at work with us, every human being, every living creature until we have no choice but to trust in HIM and HIS SON, what better place will we be then having JESUS on our side guiding us. Me I’m not guilty of CD’ING I would go on national television and announced what I am a, a CD and the most important part which is the beauty of it all believing in GOD and JESUS no one can’t dictate what we do and why we do what we do, because they’re not talking smack to you anymore they’re talking smack to GOD, not even the preachers who think just because they found JESUS that their dodo don’t stink! Guess what it really does because you accepted JESUS in your life and the preachers found JESUS but didn’t invite him into their lives.

  10. Christina 5 months ago

    Thank you. I was thinking about that verse the other day, but I didn’t remember where it was or what it meant. In the home that I was raised it was a detestable practice for a boy to dress as a girl. As you may have read, I was raised in a very legalistic, Christian home. It is so exhausting to live every day in sheer conflict between belief and need. I believe that I should have been born as a girl, but my body missed the memo. All I have are my secret and seldom moments of indulgence. It is nice to know that there is a chance that my childhood experiences may not reflect the true reality of God’s nature.

  11. *skippy1965(Cynthia) 5 months ago

    Very nice handling of a sensitive subject Stella! Thank you!

  12. Stella thank you so very much for putting this together it helps me in my mind and it will help in moving forward with others as well as my wife’s fears.

    Sara Marie

  13. Deety 5 months ago

    More poppycock is said in the name of religion than almost any other subject.

    A have my PhD in Theology and came to the conclusion many years ago that any system that deals with study (ology) and God (theo) and says ignore facts but only believe what we say is not only fundamentally flawed but also dangerous. There is a reason that we ban religious discussion on this site yet are more than happy to allow fantasies to be aired daily

  14. Dayle 5 months ago

    Galatians 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

  15. Charlene Victoria 5 months ago

    Greetings Stella. Thank you for your thoughts. I too am a born again Christian, but have not able to embrace my feminity with freedom. I would love to, but heretofore I can not do so without deep violation of conscience.
    I deeply sense my inner female self, would love to express that self and yet I can’t allow myself the freedom to be me.
    I am happy for you. I have seen your pictures. You are very pretty. . . and honestly, I am envious.

  16. Xeri Renee Alexia 5 months ago

    I am a practicing Catholic who has crossdressed since 2016. I feel no shame or guilt in dolling myself up and hanging out with the other girls. It is worth noting that several of the verses that appear in Leviticus (including the notorious passage about same-sex relations) were written in response to events that upset the elders of the day.

  17. Olivia 5 months ago

    I too am christian and have struggled with my faith. there is one verse in the new testament where paul lists different types of people, including effeminate, and then states and such were some of you, but now ye are saved by the grace of God through Jesus christ our lord. that’s parahrase, but thought I’d mention it. as it is now. I am journeying into this in a hope to learn more about myself and my desire. and every step of the way, I am asking God to guide me rightly.

    • Hope Clark 5 months ago

      The original Greek word there is “arsenokoitai.” This is a very rare word that doesn’t have a lot of usages outside the biblical literature. Sometimes it’s translated “homosexual” but that word didn’t enter translations until 1958, for the main reason that society didn’t have that word until a short while earlier.

      The best translation I’ve heard for this word is one that seems much more consistent with other messages of warning in scripture.

      “Arseno” = man … “Koitai” = bed … that’s literally all it says … man bed.

      So some translators think a much better translation (which addresses your word “soft” or “effeminate”) is that Paul is condemning the kind of man who would lie around in bed all day eating food and not tackling the tough tasks of manhood of the day, which is really more about not caring for the needs around you and, rather, indulging your lusts of eating, sexual parties, and lavish wealthy living.

  18. Leonara 5 months ago

    Stella. Thank for that most informative article.
    I too am a Christian Crossdresser without guil or shame… at times it is who we are and dress when the opportunity presents itself. Be well and I am looking forward to your next article.

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