Crossdressing and God's enduring love

Vicki brings us another inspiration for crossdressing Christians inspired by the devastation in Haiti, and the outpouring of love from around the world. Truly, God is there when it is darkest, even though His instrument may look to you and me like a caring person and not a flash of lightening from the sky.

Now there are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit; and there are varieties of services, but the same Lord; and there are varieties of activities, but it is the same God who activates all of them in everyone. ! Corinthians 12: 4-6

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The events in Haiti and some of the negative comments from certain religious and political figures here in the US and elsewhere certainly made me a little uncomfortable with sharing the label Christian. I’ll admit, at the beginning of this crisis, I tried to avoid the images. We’d just finished the season of Christmas and all of a sudden the sick stark reality of the world was trying to rumble back into my conscious. But Pat Robertson’s and Rush Limbaugh’s comments put me in a fighting mood and now I am riveted by the stories, and images emerging from the devastation. A local woman, Molly Hightower, a Catholic woman died in Haiti, trying to help a people already beset by poverty, disease, and suffering. Yet despite this and despite stories from people who have fled, they all seem united in one common thought. Let us catch our breath and then we are going back to help, to rebuild, and to affect lives in a loving and positive way. These people live the message of God. This morning I saw a news clip about how an Israeli rescue team had freed a man trapped since the quake nearly two weeks ago.  What The  rescuer said, when asked about the man’s condition was, “I don’t care, he’s alive.”

People from different walks of life, people with different talents and abilities, all are working to ease the hurt. That is God’s response, not one of turning His back, or rendering the destruction in the first place to punish an evil people and nation. So, where is the connection to this, and cross dressing life? Sisters, God gave us a gift. Though many may see it as sinful or an aberration, it is a gift that God gave and if we approach it that way, and live our lives that way, then the fruits of that gift can blossom with the aid of the Spirit. Those who look on us as sick or aberrant are missing the point that, for me at least, when I embrace my feminine side and let go of the macho mask I try to put up, my creative spirit, my empathetic spirit, my loving spirit is strengthened. But most importantly, I find myself actually coming closer to God. Rather than God turning from me because I like to express a feminine side of my personality, He seems to be celebrating with me that I have discovered He made me this way, and He has a plan to use me in the world.

At 54, I am still trying to discover exactly what God has in mind for me. But for the first time, I feel like I am finally on a path to discovering what it is. My heart aches for the people of Haiti right now, I want to do something other than sit with tears in my eyes as the images continue to play on my tv screen. A donation however small does not seem to be enough. Then I realize that perhaps it is enough, that there are talented people who DO belong at the side of the Haitian people. Their skills and spirit are well suited to the task at hand. Maybe it is enough to pray and do what little I can; God has something else in mind for me. God has something in mind for you too. God made you this way for a very good reason. Knowing that at this point may be enough, but be open to God’s call when it does come. And if it be in a skirt and blouse that He asks you to employ your talents, then know that it was always a part of His plan.

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Anne

Good words Vicki. As long as we are reaching out to those in need, does it really matter what we are wearing? In fact I may feel more empowered to reach out if I am living as God created me to be.

Paula
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Paula

I always find that events such as the Haiti Earthquake act as a huge wake-up call. It certainly makes me count my blessing and stop complaining about all those trivial things that don’t even matter. We have our fair share of challenges as crossdressers and it’s easy to get wrapped up in our own little worlds. But looking at the devastation that these people are facing certainly helps to put things into perspective. Life’s too short to be battling with ourselves . We are the way God created us. So instead of trying to become something we’re not, we should… Read more »

Racquel Lynn
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Racquel Lynn

You left out an option “We buy lingerie for eachother”. I have not been dating for a few years, but I still have female friends that will give me gifts on Valentines day or other occasions, and often those gifts are feminine items and sometimes lingerie. When I have been in relationships, depending on who I am with and what I would think they would really like, sometimes I purchase lingerie for them, sometimes other things, but I almost always would get lingerie from whoever I was with. I think it is interesting sometimes to see how other people view… Read more »

MELONY
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MELONY

WHAT AN INTERESTING QUESTION, I WISH MY FEMININE FRIENDS WOULD BUY ME LINGERIE, I’D SIMPLY ADORE IT, BUT MOST EITHER CONDONE ME DRESSING AND JUST PUT UP WITH IT, OR DONT KNOW I DO, SO NEEDLESS TO SAY, I BUY MY OWN LINGERIE. MELONY

Dianna Rose
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Dianna Rose

Vicki, you so clearly state what I’ve been feeling for some time now. I know God made me the way I am, I know my female side is the compassionate, loving, understanding side, and that because of her I am a better person all around.

This is the side that cries over the loss of life and again at the sight of the amazingly compassionate souls I see every day. This is the side that wants to hold every suddenly parentless child.

Thank you, my loving Parent, for making me who I am.

Patti
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Patti

Beautiful words, Vicki.

I would like to bring up something though… We have people just as needy in our own country who are starving, who have children, people who cannot get a job. Katrina should have been a wake up call also.

We are blinded to our own natural disaster of helpless people, but willing to help anyone else in the world.

We all know that God helps those who help themselves, something this country has lost sight of.

It is a good thing that we are helping Haiti, but lets not forget our very own people too.

Lori
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Lori

Guess what people? There is NO god! This is 2011 and I still can’t believe there are people that still believe in mythology as the truth! Wake up people! Think logically! People should be moving forward not backward! Religion was formed as a way to explain our environment. It was used as the answer to why things happen and why things are the way they are. We now know the answers. The REAL answers. We know why lightning strikes. We know why the sun rises and sets. We know what the moon is. We know about evolution. All these and… Read more »

Staci
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Staci

I must say I really appreciate such bold people. I wish I were so bold before I started getting old. I would like to use this moment to tell why I have such an issue with religion: When I was in my mid twenties, I discovered my feminine self and my bisexuality. My name sometimes comes up on here as Staci25. The 25 part was my age at this revelation, but I also had drug problems and started trying to fix it in Christian churches. I’m now in my mid 40s and looking back, I realize they wasted my time.… Read more »

Vicki
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Vicki

Thanks Anne, I suppose skirts and heels would be impractical when working in an earthquake stricken area. But not in a soup line helping to serve, or in corresponding with prisoners about God’s love for them, or just greeting someone at a church entrance as an usher. Stacy I can pray that people’s minds change someday, or for me personally I can try and do more to change people’s thoughts about us, by this column hopefully, but also by action. Your response makes me think about what I should be doing next. Thank you Paula, I appreciate you putting the… Read more »

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Amber

Hi Vicki I understand your frustration with people such as Robertson and Rush “whats-is-name.” Those folks are always going to be there. They both stand in that group of self-serviing individuals. And if you don’t mind, I would guess they are both lonely. Somehow, they do not understand the concept of community, nor have learned how to enter into a community. Until, they change, neither one deserves much of our emotional energy. The major thing now is to focus on the compassion we can shower on the survivors of Haiti. They do need our support. And we the people who… Read more »

Vicki
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Vicki

Hi Patti, I hope that my call for attention to Haiti did not seem like I was asking us to ignore problems in our own country. If anything it should be a time to look inside too. But honestly, Christ knows no boundaries, and we are, after all is said and done, the richest nation on earth and we should be able to help in Haiti and elsewhere. The Good Samaritan did not look at nationalities, he only looked at the need. He didn’t say I have trouble enough at home, a brother is hurting here in front of me.… Read more »

Ragina
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Ragina

Dearest Vicki and others, I really loved your piece today. Yes, we should look inward to our own afairs, but we are more and more a global community and we should act as such. Just an aside, the Episcopal Diocese of Georgia recently concecrated a new Bishop. As is his place, he has a discretionary fund. He chose to send the offering that day to the Episcopal Relief Fund to go to Haite. This is a wonderful charity as it benifits all people, regardless of thier faith. Our new Bishop really earned some cool points with that. Anyway, please keep… Read more »

Debbie
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Debbie

Vicki, Well put… and I appreciate your words. So many people who profess to be Christians seems to forget that God is love and not to judge others. We must use our talents and not hide them. And it was Jesus himself who had so many harsh things to say about religious leader of his day who were failing the the flock under there care. History seems to be repeating itself in my view. I believe we are an eternal spirit living living our life inside the this body of gender. I seem to remember in my reading that there… Read more »

Lori
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Lori

I am so happy to see there are people that have seen the light! I so enjoyed reading your comment Staci! I wish there were more people like you in the world! Thank-you!

Staci66
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Staci66

Hey Vicki. I noticed how there are Christians out there who crossdress and love it, and see no problem with it. I am a Christian too, and I’m trying to live the way God wants me too, but I feel like crossdressing is a sexual sin. How do you feel about this?

Ragina
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Ragina

Staci, I too am a christian crossdresser, although I haven’t come out in my own church. I have done much study and reading about just that question and rteally cannot find anywhere that states that crossdressing is a sin. Sure,sure you can quote me the scripture in Deuteronomy, but I doubt that the sord, being quoted out of context by fundamentalists, refers exactly to cressdressing. You may study for yourself, but please do so prayerfuly.

Staci66
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Staci66

Thanks for the reply. I understand about the Deuteronomy verse, and I know that the act of crossdressing it self isn’t wrong. But pretty much everytime I crossdress, I sin sexually, and that’s where the problem occurs.

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