Crossdressing has made me more human

I don’t remember the day I first found a name to describe the desire I had to wear woman’s clothes. Yet even before I knew what it was called, I realized there was something forbidden about it. My subconscious kept telling me

Crossdressing is wrong

At not more than four or five years old I umpired the struggle within me between my desire to wear woman’s clothes and the feeling inside that kept telling me, ‘this is wrong’. Somehow I knew that I needed to hide what I was doing from others.

Over the years my understanding of who I was grew. I learnt that I was not alone, and discovered the difference between transgender and transsexual.

I also learnt that

En Femme Style

Crossdressing is not just a curse

many aspects of my personality were influenced by my desire to express the feminine inside of me. My wife tells me that she was attracted to me, in part because I’m a gentle, caring person. These traits I think come from the same place in me that longs for the feminine.

Yet to share this fact wasn’t why I decided to write the article. Many books on cross dressing, such as those by Peggy Rudd or Helen Boyd mention that crossdressers inherit some of the positive aspects of the feminine persona. Such as being more gentle.

Growing up I was a very absolute person. I had been taught in Sunday school that there was right and wrong, good and evil. One of the reasons I struggled so much with crossdressing early on, was because I felt it was morally wrong. You see, I had a fairly narrow definition of what was “acceptable” in a human being. If they didn’t meet the standard I’d set for them, then I judged them “unworthy” in some way. You don’t go to church? ‘unworthy’. You don’t show care for other people in the exact same way as I do? ‘unworthy’.

Coming to terms with my crossdressing made me realize that I, too, was unworthy. So my mind had given me a choice – either continue to judge other people harshly and reflect that same wrath onto myself, or learn to accept their differences. In my more recent vocabulary: Namaste.

Crossdressing has made me realize that we are all “flawed” in some way. Yet it is those very flaws which form the foundation for our beauty. Someone will always think we are too fat, too conservative, too old, too skinny, too liberal, too tall, too short, too loud, too quiet. What they are really saying is: “You are different from me. I haven’t yet accepted my differences, so I cannot accept yours.”

Wishing you a blessed week. Celebrate your differences!

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P.S. Celebrating your difference doesn’t mean you have to stand out. Learn how to cross dress and pass as a woman.

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Lynn Jones
Lynn Jones
15 years ago

> Growing up I was a very absolute person In the past I found absolutes easy to deal with. Right and wrong, with you or against you. As you meet more people and life throws you the odd curve ball, you re-evaluate your beliefs and personally, I think of most things now as a sliding scale. Sure, there are big bad things out there, but there are also minor blips of ‘badness’ that don’t amount to much in the great swing of things. When I was growing up, I struggled with the whole ‘cross-dressing is bad’ thing too. Now, I’m… Read more »

Joanna Maguire
Joanna Maguire
15 years ago

As a male I was shy a loner and nervous ! A sociophobic. But as Joanna I am talkative Love mixing with people at parties Fumble in my handbag Spend hours shopping in the ladies depts Not scared in public as I was as a male
Now I easily make friends with other womennLove to gospi with them especialy about the bad side of their boyfriends Fashion makeup and apperance
Ive been a CD since I was 7rs old I am now retired and live enfemme after over 50yrs as a CD
Joanna

Cici Kitten
Cici Kitten
15 years ago

I have loved sharing my experiences aboout coming out, dressing, photo shoots, fashion and interviews with some fab t-girl celebrities.

Please come share in my experience at my blog which is crossdresserphotblog.com

I hope to share, inform and move our cause ahead!

Terri
Terri
14 years ago

I wish I could get the help I need

Ragina
Ragina
14 years ago
Reply to  Terri

Terri, Hi hon, I’m Ragina. What help do you need? Honestly, coming out can be a most stressful time in a crossdresser’s life. Is it really necessary for you to “come out"? If you have a girlfriend, wife, family members, etc. , Then maybe you do. If not, then you should consider waiting to be open about crossdressing. Perhaps you are in a place where you really can’t be totally open, such as work. In that case, you can always crossdress “under cover" . Wear a pretty pair of panties and pantyhose under your regular work attire. And , of… Read more »

jamme mac
Lady
6 years ago
Reply to  Terri

Terri, I hope you have since this comment was posted. I also feel the same and do not know where locally to find help or guidance. it seems as if once you make the cross-over, you forget there are others still waiting to make the journey.

victoria
victoria
14 years ago

am i a crossdresser if i only wear panties? and do you think ill ever wear more than panties?

carla
carla
13 years ago
Reply to  victoria

Hi Victoria I'm pretty much the way you are….I wear panties all the time….I started out wearing only panties but gradually tried other articles of clothing and found it to be very exciting….I am now wearing stockings and bras whenever possible…..so in answer to your questions….yes you are a crossdresser and you will feel much better by admitting it to yourself…..I am sure you will progress to wearing other feminine clothing

Josephine Shaffer
Josephine Shaffer
13 years ago

I don't give a damn where she was tought against crossdressing if i was born a girl in the first place i wouldn't bother crossdressing period.

Robert13
Robert13
13 years ago

Your question is DOES CROSSDRESSING MAKE YOU MORE HUMAN?. Th answer is yes and no. In the no part is just the physical structure, you are human with all the body parts, being male or female. you are structurally the same as any other human on this planet, unless you have a third arm or something. In the yes part. The human brain, their DNA, and the variable hormonal make-up aids in determining our GENDER ORIENTATION. If a male has an unbalance hormone level (estrogens & testosterone) then it plays heavily in gender recognition. Those with higher testosterone levels are… Read more »

Janine
Lady
Member
8 years ago

I was terrified to go out dressed for years until one day I told myself that today is the day It took most of the day to get myself ready so I thought that I looked good enough to pass. My first time out I went to a Macy’s in the local mall The walk from my car to the entrance to the store was a walk of wonder. I couldn’t believe that I was actually going into a store as a female. I almost turned around when I got to the door but a lady was leaving and she… Read more »

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Tinaky
8 years ago

I am out to my wife but want to come out to others

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