Is it just me or do we, us girls, seem to focus on the negative aspects and emotions of crossdressing? I say crossdressing should be, no must, be fun..otherwise why do it?
Okay I know immediately I’ll get thirty posts saying ‘yes but I have to dress in secret’….’my wife/girlfriend/boyfriend will never accept it’….’I feel so alone/depressed/rejected…(add in your own words)’. …and yes if your circumstances conflict with your desire to express as a woman, I agree crossdressing can seem like anything but fun.
However consider these alternate views.
Crossdressing opens up new ways of appreciating the world allowing us to see the feminine perspectives that most men just cannot understand. We can empathise, sympathise and appreciate being a woman.
Crossdressing allows us to become somebody else, just for while, relieving the social stresses associated with being male. It can change and soften our posture, voice and behaviour….which are often appealing to our partners.
Crossdressing should be fun, enjoyable, satisfying and if possible shared. As adults we often lose the ability to play….crossdressing must incorporate that sense of play.
Women’s clothes are just so much more interesting than most men’s fashions. We, as women can change our character by changing our clothes, smart business woman, sexy temptress, pretty princess….all are just a dress away.
Crossdressing creates a sense of ‘event’ in our lives, introduces risk balanced by excitement, missing from many of the grey suited commuters drifting home of an evening.
Crossdressing excites me as much today as my first time staring into the mirror in my sisters bedroom in 1969….the pink frilly pants, little tasseled cow girl skirt….and so each time retains some of that innocent excitement.
The objection of many partners is not the crossdressing, which can actually allow them to live out their own fantasies but it is the dishonesty and lies that often accompany the secretive nature of crossdressing which is the underlying problem.
Crossdressing is more widely understood today then ever before…NO we are not there yet but that’s as much because we, ourselves retain the secrecy.
So girls…come on lets be positive….put on that little black dress, the highest heels that you can safely walk in (always do a risk assessment first) and lets be proud that we are crossdressers….men who just love to wear a dress.