An unusual crossdressing success story

Dear readers,

Today’s crossdressing success story is a heart warming story of a lady that finds an unusual twist on the road while she’s out and about as her femme self. There’s something about the peace of being who you are that changes everything. If you’d like to submit your story to be featured on Crossdresser Heaven, please send 500-700 words of your own sincere awakening – whether large or small – to Crossdresser Heaven. If you’re comfortable sharing pictures, that would inspire others.

An usual success story

My story is quite typical of a cross dresser in some respects but then goes off on a tangent. I first fully cross dressed in 1990 and was as afraid and paranoid as they come to step out in public but I did it with the help of Virginia Prince herself. Shirley was born when I saw the woman in the mirror. She was me and I had to give her a name. I went out as Shirley once or twice a month from then until 1997 when suddenly it wasn’t good enough anymore. I wanted to be a real woman as in genetically complete but that isn’t currently possible so I withdrew resigned to my fate in deep depression. I locked Shirley away for 13 years but in 2010 a change came. My spirit started to lift for what reason I still don’t know but I started to feel more and more girly and by May of 2011 I got Shirley together and she was free again. This time however it was with a different attitude. I no longer cared if I passed or not or if anyone liked it or not. I am to this day defiant. Just try and stop me and I’ll make you pay.

So I started going out as Shirley again once or twice a month but suddenly there came a day I’ve feared for 22 years. I was out as Shirley 6 weeks ago and felt so comfortable as a woman and happy as my natural self and so warmly accepted by everyone suddenly I didn’t want to go back to being Gordon the actor, the clown, so sad, miserable and depressed on masculine island. I’m happy for you boys here having a ball and I hate to leave in what might seem like an undignified rush but that person you see out on the water madly rowing away to the opposite shore is me.

Something magic has happened contrary to what most would expect. I go out as my very friendly, upbeat, humorous loving self and everybody loves me back whether they read me or not and is happy to see me as Shirley. Is it just my personal charm or is it just that no cares anymore? I think it’s a combination of both but mostly my personal charm. I think I could sell bikinis to Eskimos and charm the socks off almost anyone. It works for me and I love it. I can either build my own computer business or go back into computer programming. I’m still thinking about it.

So I’m successfully transgendered and living like or as a woman could and probably will the rest of my life. I am so happy and comfortable in the feminine role my life would’ve been better if I had done it long ago. I was miserable as a man.

So I’ve pulled a Virginia Prince. I’m living as a woman but will not transition like a transsexual. I suppose that makes me a pretty rare bird but it doesn’t really matter in a world where everyone is absolutely unique.

That’s my success story. It was supposed to be impossible or at least very impractical but here I am living my dream. Freedom is priceless.

Shirley xoxo

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I’m passionate about creating a safe space for everyone in the transgender community to find laughter and friendship on their journey. I completed my physical transition in 2011 and through it I lost everything, and gained everything. I am blessed that I was forced to gaze inward and embark on the journey to discover and live my authentic self. My deepest wish is that all who wander here may find peace, happiness and freedom.

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Johnny
Johnny
11 years ago

Your being a rare bird is true! I dressed with my wife;s help and it was wonderful. But we couldn’t bring “Priscilla" out due to job restrictions. (military).
I am SO happy that you finally found yourself! Many CD’s / TG have found and lost everything due to depression. Enjoy!!

Shirley Corning
Shirley Corning
11 years ago
Reply to  Johnny

Thank you Johnny for sharing your thoughts with me. Oh yes, depression almost did me in but it’s history now thank God. I’m a happy girl everyday and it tickles me. I’m so delighted to just be one of the girls at last that my joy and energy overflows like a flood washing over everyone I meet and like magic, a spell is cast over them. They cheer up and warm up giving me happy smiling faces in return, friendly and helpful. I hope you get some more time as Priscilla and those job restrictions wont last forever. You and… Read more »

Tonya Renee
Tonya Renee
11 years ago

I am happy for you Shirley,I dress female every day don’t own male clothes any more. People look but I don’t care I am me an thats all that counts.

Shirley Corning
Shirley Corning
11 years ago
Reply to  Tonya Renee

I’m happy for you too Tonya. Way to go girl. You’re absolutely right. You get a big hug too. :)<<

Marty
Marty
11 years ago

You are truly a success story Shirley! I’m very happy for you. I too was living full time as my female self. I have bipolar disorder and part of that is laziness (or an excuse, LOL) so when I go out I wear a wig if I feel like it or just a baseball cap most of the time. Didn’t always wear makeup either. Wore jewelry and dressed the part though. I too felt very comfortable in my own skin and am happy. I just finished school May 2nd and now am looking for an internship in computer programming (have… Read more »

Shirley Corning
Shirley Corning
11 years ago
Reply to  Marty

What a coincidence Marty, I am a Senior Programmer Analyst experienced on the IBM iSeries machines programming in ILE RPG and CL for business and government applications. The last job I had lasted 7 years and paid $104,000.00 a year. I worked there as Gordon but it was obvious the whole time I was gender bent wearing low heel women’s shoes, two pair of one inch gold hoop earrings, simple blouses, one inch acrylic nails with bright metallic colors like pink, raspberry, lavender and even bright red. Used to compare nail colors with my manager, Doris. Add an occasional A… Read more »

Marty
Marty
11 years ago

Thanks Shirley! However, I waited until I was 48/49 to start dressing full time. Now I find myself indecisive about how to dress when going to interviews. I have been going as my male self, but haven’t got an internship yet. I guess that from here out I go as my true, female self. At this point, what do I have to loose? I think the potential employers can tell sense something isn’t true about me as a male. Maybe they will read me more honest and comfortable as a woman. Plus, starting off interviewing as a female means I… Read more »

Shirley Corning
Shirley Corning
11 years ago

Me alegro por su éxito Stephanie y su poder para hacer esto. Bien por ti. Sí. Soy alto también, y poco más de 6 pies 4 pulgadas. Por supuesto, eso no es lo suficientemente alto como para la mayoría de mis zapatos de tacón con 2 pulgadas. Yo camino a través de tiendas como Wal-Mart ocupados y Costco, donde hay mucha gente y nadie se molesta o le presta una atención especial. Muy bueno. Me hace tan feliz que a nadie le importa. Espero que tengas muchos días buenos y bendiciones. Shirley.

elisa michelle
elisa michelle
11 years ago

Hi! read these comments with excitement and trepidation!I have to realize that more and more i want to spend my time as a woman,however reality is that i share a house with an older brother and sister,whoi am sure would never accept me as elisa michelle,indeed think they would make my life difficult!However taken the first step,and meet this weekend witha girl named Linda,who runs a transformation service in Phioladelphia.the reason for this is i have a deep and burning desire to bring out my feminine self Elisa Michelle,out into the public view as much as possible!and want to fully… Read more »

Shirley Corning
Shirley Corning
11 years ago
Reply to  elisa michelle

Hi Elisa, I’ll be darned if there isn’t always a price to pay to jump that gender fence and no one seems to be able make it cost more than family. Expect the unexpected. Have a good counselor to help you through it. I have only one brother and currently he doesn’t want to see me as Shirley and I’m not planning to see him until he does yet he has no problem talking to me on the phone as if nothing had changed. Go figure. I was living with my daughter when I suddenly went full time and we… Read more »

Antome
Antome
10 years ago

Sorry, i mean very nice, and interesting story, but, not to cathegorize, this is more transexualism and feeling or even being a woman, not crossdressing and feeling outside gender boundaries or more girly from time to time.
You are not transitioning, but are you operated through surgery?

Shirley Corning
Shirley Corning
10 years ago
Reply to  Antome

Hi Antome. If I understand what you’re saying correctly I can see why you might think I’m a transsexual but really I’m not. I have not undergone sexual reassignment surgery (SRS) and am unwilling to do so. For me SRS would be a pointless waste. I will keep the organs I was born with. I have no plans to get hormone replacement therapy (HRT). The feminizing effects of HRT would be nice but it also causes chemical castration and again I am unwilling to pay that price. I am transgendered, not transsexual, and there is a big difference. So yes… Read more »

Antome
Antome
10 years ago

I have to say I dig all people expression, from clothing to sexuality, crossdressing as well as transgenders etc, and I can’t understand how some people want to dictate normality and are so concerned for the “wandering" of customs. Probably they have no more compass of their own and need to stick to trivial and superficial “certainties" and cathegories. But sorry I meant transgender, not transexuals and now I’m seeing I wrongly put it under “transsexualism" assuming it was a form of it, when you said “So I’m successfully transgendered and living like or as a woman could and probably… Read more »

Shirley
Shirley
8 years ago

It’s 8/16/2015 and still going strong. Changed my legal name and gender over a year ago. Attended conferences and events all over the country. I’ve been president of the Simi Valley Pflag chapter since last May and I’m happy to report that the parents of trans children have been reaching out to us for support like never before. Trans youth and their parents are a subject very dear to my heart and I’m happy to help in any way I can. Being 6’4″ and fairly easy to read I had anticipated getting some occasional static from people but much to… Read more »

Vanessa Law
Vanessa Law
8 years ago
Reply to  Shirley

Hey Shirley, So wonderful to hear an update from you hon!!
Thanks for giving back to the community, it’s a blessing to have members of the transgender community like you.

If you’re interested in sharing an update to your story I’d love to post something to Crossdresser Heaven – head over here: https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/contact-vanessa/submit-your-crossdressing-success-story/

Shirley
Shirley
8 years ago
Reply to  Vanessa Law

Thanks Vanessa. I’m not sure when I can but I’d certainly like to. It’s crazy busy in this corner but I’ll add it to my never ending to do list and squeeze it in between things. You definitely get a big hug and a high five. : )<<

Vanessa Law
Vanessa Law
8 years ago
Reply to  Shirley

Thanks hon 🙂 *hugs!*

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