Find acceptance for being transgender

Dear Readers,

There are few things about our community that bring me as much joy as seeing others blossom into who they were meant to be. Whether it is small steps of progress, or giant leaps of triumph, my heart over flows as I read their words. Some are tear soaked with joy barely peaking through around the edges, and others are brimming with smiles. All are beautiful.

You can read more crossdressing success stories, or you can share one of your own. I think many can relate to Daniella’s story of courage and coming out.

Danielle Finds Acceptance

My birth name is Dillon but lately I have been going by Daniella because I finally got to come out to my wife. My wife and I have been together for almost two years now and I have been a crossdresser all my life – even when I was a little boy. It was not easy to get this far, it was a long and scary road. [Ed: Ain’t that the truth ladies!] I am young but I know what I like who I like and who I am. For now this what I can tell you…

When I was a teenager I always had my mom buy me pink clothes and tight jeans so I can at least get close to who I wanted to be. Because I know she would never accept me dressing, but as time went on I got more adventurous. I had girl friends who would throw away clothes, but I would say its a waste and I would wear them instead. I got through those years that was.

Danielle's Crossdressing Success Story

Danielle Finds Acceptance & Herself

As time progressed I became an adult,  and went away to college in a big city. I felt like I could dress freely, which I did  only in the confines of my house. But I was happy being me. Then I turned 19 and I met my wife. I threw away everything because I could not bear her to know [Ed: How many have tried to hide who we are from those we love so dearly?]. It went on normally for almost a year and then it happened.

One day she went to work so I went and dressed up in her clothes and make up that I bought myself and sat around the house doing my own thing. She she walked in and caught me in the act of dress up, so I immediately showered and changed and we had a long talk about what was going on. I explained myself, I told her that I was not homosexual but I was just a transvestite . She took some time getting used to it but she was bisexual so i think that helped out the situation. Since then things have worked out well and she encourages me to dress up , because she wants me to be happy so some nights we have a girls night where I dress up we go to a movie or dinner.

There is the catch – it has to only be at night so no one can really recognize us because we live in a small town and rumors travel fast. She cant let her parents know but that’s for the best anyhow. The moral of the story is sometimes just talking things out until every one can agree can work out for the best me. My wife and I are still married and still have relations all the time and that will never change she loves me for me even with my flaw. Thanks for reading,

– Daniella

How Has Acceptance Changed Your Life?

Ladies, who in your life showed you acceptance? How did their acceptance change your life?

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I’m passionate about creating a safe space for everyone in the transgender community to find laughter and friendship on their journey. I completed my physical transition in 2011 and through it I lost everything, and gained everything. I am blessed that I was forced to gaze inward and embark on the journey to discover and live my authentic self. My deepest wish is that all who wander here may find peace, happiness and freedom.
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5 years ago

Hi Vanessa. I loved Daniella’s story and featured this post on T-Central.


Unlicensed Mommy
5 years ago

My heart is happy for your joy! But PLEASE don’t consider your gift a “flaw”. I understand being respectful of your family and friends and the anxiety of “being careful”…but what you are is a gift. Native Americans call it having “two spirits”. Moving fluidly between the two is much less stressful than denying one of them, don’t you think?

5 years ago

I’m so happy for you and your wife you go girl

Linda H.
Linda H.
5 years ago

I call myself Linda. I am a bit older at 68, but I also am 6 ft. tall. I have been wearing a dress on and off since I was in my early teens. I was an Army brat. (That means that my step-father was in the Army and as such, we traveled quite a bit with the Army moving us about every three years.) I had lived in Germany and seen a lot of Europe before I was 12. When we transferred back from Germany he was stationed in San Antonio. We rented a house outside the city to… Read more »

PY Marshall
2 years ago
Reply to  Vanessa Law

Lovely stories. My story seemed to start when i was about 22 ,i can remember vividly the fear i felt that fear will never leave me.( But it is not a fear anymore ) I look back and now smile.The fear of walking down the stairs in our first home I knelt down on the carpet in front of the fire she had the wee one and was rolling her back and forward in her nappy she said . what’s wrong, tears were running down my face and i said their is something terribly wrong with me dear !and i… Read more »

5 years ago

My dream would be to live in an area where Cross Dressers are the majority.

Warren (Wanda) shirkey
Warren (Wanda) shirkey
5 years ago

Vanessa I am so glad to be getting emails from you again. It makes my heart feel good when I read all these success stories.

Patty Phose
Patty Phose
5 years ago

Great story. When you have an accepting, and supportive significant other, dressing can be such fun.

5 years ago

Great story and a great outcome – a lesson for all!

Linda Shirley
5 years ago

I loved Danella’s story except for the part where he thought that being a transvestite was a “flaw.” Not a flaw in my book but a enhancement. I am glad that his wife is so accepting and wants his happiness. What fun they must have going out on the town together as two girlfriends.

Linda H.
Linda H.
5 years ago

If you feel that it is okay, then by all means. I got lucky with how it turned out, but it does offer that speaking about ones desires can have a positive outcome. Email is also welcome.

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