As the world continues to face one of its biggest challenges, I felt compelled to write something encouraging. So many things weigh heavily on us all-not just the COVID virus itself. The medical and health risks-especially among the older members of society (and the CDH community) skews a bit towards the older cohort. Throw in the financial worries as the whole world is shutting down for a time, and there is a real concern as to the lasting effects on the economy.

There are the feelings of isolation that occur because of the social distancing and lock-downs being implemented throughout so much of the world. This is even truer for the CD/TG community, which by its nature is already isolated by much of society. Thankfully though, that is changing for the better, albeit far too slowly. Those of us in the US and Canada were SO looking forward to the Keystone Conference in PA (that would have been next week) or the others such as Diva Las Vegas and Esprit that have either been postponed or cancelled. The timing of this pandemic is particularly hard hitting.

But while we cannot ignore the difficulties we are facing, we CAN choose how we respond to it. The fact that this is happening NOW in today’s perpetually-connected times is a blessing. While we may not be able to get together in person, as we had planned, we still have the virtual connections through this site to allow us to maintain a human touch. In previous decades, the isolation would have been much more painful. I know that for me, the friends I have made over the last four years here are reaching out with love and encouraging words. We can support each other in these challenging times. I encourage each of you to reach out through chat and PMs to those you’ve grown close to, and also reach out to the newer folks, let them know you are thinking about them as well. This is how a community thrives in troubled times.

In the same breath, family has never been more important. We owe so much to our parents and grandparents, and due to the much higher risks they face from the virus, along with the necessary isolation to safeguard their health, many of them are probably feeling forgotten. If you are fortunate enough to still have them around, call, email, or write to them. It’s so important to let them know how much they are loved. Do the same for folks you know in the healthcare and emergency services who must continue their jobs in spite of the increased risks they face. If you are blessed financially, consider reaching out and offering assistance to those less fortunate. It is at times like these, when basic human decency and kindness are needed most, where our actions have the greatest impact on peoples’ lives.

On a more personal level, realizing that none of us are promised a tomorrow, commit yourself to living and being as true to yourself as possible. For those who are wanting and able (given their situation), take the opportunity to let your hidden self show. Though I am always at least in stealth Cyn mode in normal times, I am taking advantage of this time (I’m required to work from home) to be in full Cyn mode 24/7. I’m aware that not everyone CAN or even necessarily wants to go that far, but whatever your goals are, take this chance to seize the day. Over the last several years, I have begun to worry less about what others think of me, and instead concentrate more on what I see in myself.

Not everything will always turn out perfectly, I HAVE to face the world as an optimist and be hopeful. Doing otherwise would mean resigning myself to the view that things can’t get better, and I refuse to live that way. Positive change in the world doesn’t come from the top down; it starts within each of us, spreading outward to others as we share it. I’m committing myself to making a positive difference. Will you join me? Together we CAN change the world!



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skippy1965 Cynthia

The Original Cyn, or OC for short. Cynthia is from Richmond Virginia, she crossdresses every day (lucky gal!) and has a knack for tracking down niggling technical issues so we can fix them. She is also on a journey of self-examination to figure out where her feminine journey will lead her, and is always willing to talk with others about their feelings and questions or her own. Update January 2023- the above was written by Vanessa on my behalf back when I joined in 2015. So much has happened on my journey since then. From a shy CD who had hardly been outside as herself to being pretty much full time Cyn 24/7 now. I told work about me and started HRT last year. Everyone knows about me in my life now too. I've socially transitioned for the most part but not sure if I will do anything regarding legal name or any surgeries at all. It's taken mea long time to accept myself for who I am but the site has helped me reach that level of self-awareness. I say dating below but that's just the best status I can say. I have a friend who is very special to me that I HOPE will be more a life companion as time goes forward.

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Michelle Nails
4 years ago

Hi Cynthia, very inspirational writing indeed, the whole idea of tomorrows and health being a given has been rather put into turmoil in recent months. As a CD who is getting older the social ideas of what we should be and how we should be perceived seem at odds about how I feel inside sometimes. Whilst I do not have the opportunity to express my feminine side as much as I like during these times, my little bits of dressing will see me through. Being part of this community gives me strength and hope, and being able to read other… Read more »

Sarah Daniels TG
Sarah Daniels TG
4 years ago

Thanks Cyn.

On point as usual.

Stay fab hun.

Sarah Daniels TG
Sarah Daniels TG
4 years ago

Thx, just raw me.

Not hiding as much now

Julia Morton
Julia Morton
4 years ago

Will someone please tell me how to add a profile pix.
Trivia question – has anyone had experience with magnetic eye lashes? Contemplating trying them.

Stephanie Wood
3 years ago

Thanks for reminding everyone to reach out friends, family and elder people in our circle. A quick call, text or call to offer assistance or a friendly voice is key to get through this troubling time!

Trusted Member
3 years ago

Together we ARE changing the world beautiful Cyn; thank for this article dear. Its not the incidents of life that change us but rather the way we choose to respond to them as you have said. I love one line of a papa Gandhi speech, we will not use violence as they do, and we simply will not comply! I Am being seen and heard. If we don’t take a stand for “something" we get pushed around and into everything someone once said hehe I stand for freedom!! or as wilie said, Freeeeeedoooooom!! hahaha Namaste’ sweet soul, Thanks for being… Read more »

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