As the world continues to face one of its biggest challenges, I felt compelled to write something encouraging. So many things weigh heavily on us all-not just the COVID virus itself. The medical and health risks-especially among the older members of society (and the CDH community) skews a bit towards the older cohort. Throw in the financial worries as the whole world is shutting down for a time, and there is a real concern as to the lasting effects on the economy.
There are the feelings of isolation that occur because of the social distancing and lock-downs being implemented throughout so much of the world. This is even truer for the CD/TG community, which by its nature is already isolated by much of society. Thankfully though, that is changing for the better, albeit far too slowly. Those of us in the US and Canada were SO looking forward to the Keystone Conference in PA (that would have been next week) or the others such as Diva Las Vegas and Esprit that have either been postponed or cancelled. The timing of this pandemic is particularly hard hitting.
But while we cannot ignore the difficulties we are facing, we CAN choose how we respond to it. The fact that this is happening NOW in today’s perpetually-connected times is a blessing. While we may not be able to get together in person, as we had planned, we still have the virtual connections through this site to allow us to maintain a human touch. In previous decades, the isolation would have been much more painful. I know that for me, the friends I have made over the last four years here are reaching out with love and encouraging words. We can support each other in these challenging times. I encourage each of you to reach out through chat and PMs to those you’ve grown close to, and also reach out to the newer folks, let them know you are thinking about them as well. This is how a community thrives in troubled times.
In the same breath, family has never been more important. We owe so much to our parents and grandparents, and due to the much higher risks they face from the virus, along with the necessary isolation to safeguard their health, many of them are probably feeling forgotten. If you are fortunate enough to still have them around, call, email, or write to them. It’s so important to let them know how much they are loved. Do the same for folks you know in the healthcare and emergency services who must continue their jobs in spite of the increased risks they face. If you are blessed financially, consider reaching out and offering assistance to those less fortunate. It is at times like these, when basic human decency and kindness are needed most, where our actions have the greatest impact on peoples’ lives.
On a more personal level, realizing that none of us are promised a tomorrow, commit yourself to living and being as true to yourself as possible. For those who are wanting and able (given their situation), take the opportunity to let your hidden self show. Though I am always at least in stealth Cyn mode in normal times, I am taking advantage of this time (I’m required to work from home) to be in full Cyn mode 24/7. I’m aware that not everyone CAN or even necessarily wants to go that far, but whatever your goals are, take this chance to seize the day. Over the last several years, I have begun to worry less about what others think of me, and instead concentrate more on what I see in myself.
Not everything will always turn out perfectly, I HAVE to face the world as an optimist and be hopeful. Doing otherwise would mean resigning myself to the view that things can’t get better, and I refuse to live that way. Positive change in the world doesn’t come from the top down; it starts within each of us, spreading outward to others as we share it. I’m committing myself to making a positive difference. Will you join me? Together we CAN change the world!
Cyn
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Cynthia, beautifully put. You are a God send to this site, it’s members, and all those you touch. The warmth of your heart spreads through us all. Take care, feel our love, and always be beautiful, Holly
You write so very well! Thank you for sharing your thoughts at some length at this most difficult time. I will comment in particular on the last two paragraphs of your essay: The thoughts you conveyed in your last paragraph provide some genuine help. I have been so stressed out that it has been difficult to sleep. I have tried lately to not listen to or view the news. But avoiding it does not eliminate my anxiety because I then imagine what bad news I might be missing. Classical music has proved to be the worst as I keep thinking… Read more »
Beautiful Eve!!! I asked myself, what have I got to gain? Confidence, independence of the good opinion of others, self-assurance, and courage were a few of my answers,,,so far, I’m gaining them all in spades as I expand hehe The easiest way I have found to take my mind of any negative is to consciously and intentionally focus it on something else that feels empowering and strengthening for me. The more I focus on that positive, the less my mind can cling to the fear thoughts. Make sense dear? I wish you all things wonderful Eve 🙂 Namaste’ n huggles… Read more »
Thanks for the nurturing thoughts!
Ooooh Cyn Goose bumps!! Each of us can chose to be part of the problem or part of the solution and commit to making as much of a difference as possible: I’m in!! If there is one thing this situation has shown me its that life is as fragile as the wings of the butterfly,,,and equally as strong and powerful in creating global change for the betterment of all. Yes! we can chose how we respond and I choose to use this time of self isolation (physically) to seriously expand my reach and up my game in support of our… Read more »
Hey Cyn, I am glad you wrote this article, especially at this time, it’s more important than ever to be reminded that being true to yourself, because who knows what tomorrow will bring. It is necessary to remain positive and look forward to the future, as hard as that might be right now to see. <3 Gwenn
Thank you, Cyn, for this hopeful vision. It’s inspiring. At CDH there are very important people for me and I have you in my mind during these hard times. Everybody please take care. Together we will change the world!
Cinnamon kisses,
Gisela
That’s a cool closing. I like cinnamon
Well said Cynthia. One of the things about CDH is that we are all sisters. Some express it well. Some keep themselves hidden. Others are the outward representation of who we are or who we want to be or who we wish beyond all things that we could. You all as my sisters let me live through your adventures and experiences and I always glad to know these fazes of you all. We all need each other and I know there sre those here who will have my back if I need them. I feel you are one and I… Read more »
I am humbled by your reply-I am no one special- just try to help anyone I can
Cyn
Cyn – you may say you are nothing special but I will disagree. You have provided kind words and support on a number of occasions. To me and my various sisters, you are a voice of reason in the wilderness. Thank you for all you do.
You put some of what been going on in my head out there i will put the rest out soon for this pandemic is a wake Up call that everyone needs to see and also listen to.
Thank you for the inspiring words.
“…While we cannot ignore the difficulties we are facing, we CAN choose how we respond to it."
Completely nailed it, Cynthia!
Love Laura
I’m a big believer in choosing positivity and optimism. ill I occasionally get hurt by that? yes but will I avoid wallowing in despair? yes also and that far outweighs the few times I’ve been hurt. Control what you can control and don’t stress over things beyond our control.
Cyn
Thanks so much, Cyn. Amazing words for a troubled time. We are very fortunate to have you in CDH as an ambassador. I struggle daily with identity and find your thoughts comforting and enlightening. Great having a sister like you. I hope to get closer to everyone here as I think this group was one of my most rewarding discoveries.
Hugs,
Krysti
Thank you for your kind words. am humbled that they had a comforting effect for you and others.
Cyn