I’ve been going out quite often this past year. Mostly walks through my neighborhood. People recognize “Alison” as I always go out en femme. Sometimes people will say hello as we pass. The other day a woman was commenting to me that although it was cooler, the humidity was still up.
I have also been known to go to stores en femme, and since the pandemic have been doing it most of the time. Only in places where I am known do I go en homme.
Although your voice may be a giveaway, people don’t care. I have been plenty of times to restaurants with some of my CD friends who don’t even try to feminize their voice. The waiter or waitress doesn’t even give a second look. I try to feminize my voice but not always with the same level of success. So what if they figure out you are really male? They are still getting your business.
Before Dress Barn closed, I would go in often, mostly in male mode. It was 1/4 mile from home, so it was convenient. Sometimes I would shop, sometimes I would pick up packages that I had shipped there to save on shipping costs. On two occasions, I stopped in there while dressed. A sales associate looked at me, said “Oh, hi!” with a clear indication that she recognized me. And then went about her business. No consequences.
So while working on your voice can make you feel better about going out, don’t let it hamper you.