Something very similar happen to me a week ago.
Mary Ann, my “Lee Ann” time is in the early morning. Maybe an hour during the week and two hours on the weekend. I know my wife’s sleep habits and “Lee Ann’s quarters” are my office and the guest bathroom and bedroom.
Last Monday I thought I heard a cough, so I go into the hallway and lo and behold there is my wife. She appeared to turn and look at me before getting water out of the refrigerator. She had to have seen me! But no!
I have not had “the talk” with her, and while I have no plans to do so ,I know there will come a day when I will have to.
I am mentally prepared to do so.
I’m not expecting her to support dressing, but to at least understand my reasons for pursuing it. She knows my history of stress and anxiety and I am hopeful she will understand and accept that Lee Ann is a friend and not a threat.
Thank you, Mary Ann.