Interesting topic. I find most men get very uncomfortable about the whole CD spectrum, and automatically assume CDs are gay and trying to hit on men. I did say absolutely not (though nothing wrong with gays!), it is about an inner femininity and calm and try to explain “don’t knock it ’til you’ve tried it”, and saw a small glimmer I think with one or two.
I have had discussions like yours and Stephanie’s with women, all of them sympathetic especially when I explain (like Steph did) that I am sharing what they feel and think when wearing something nice, soft and well fitting…and maybe just a little flirty. I explain it is not the clothing alone, it is the whole feeling of being a woman which I experience, the clothing just goes with it. I explain that once I’m really content with my appearance I no longer feel male, I am female, I behave and think as a woman. When I go out I want to see how the world behaves towards women (some really positive things, a few really negative too though) rather than men. When I am out en femme it really doesn’t occur to me that I’m biologically male, though I do take care to present as a female as in how I walk, sit, get into a car and so on.
I wear feminine things to align with what I feel at that time, and also what I wish to experience: being a woman. It brings a calm and a wholeness, a peace. Most GGs I speak to understand when I tell it, and we then have a conversation about make-up, clothing fashions and so on as equals. It is really nice, I can compliment their appearance and not have them feel I was “hitting” on them, it was just two friends chatting. And to have a GG tell you she likes your skirt is really special.
And it was a GG who told me that many women wear something quite sexy under plain office clothes because it makes them buzz a little, that “if only you know what is under this plain white blouse and dark skirt…”.