I talked to my mom last weekend and she reluctantly confirmed that my dad was CD when they were married. She felt so guilty about sharing his secret with me (but of course we were in a safe space and it was just me and her). I told her the reason I was so curious is that my husband is a CD too. She seemed, maybe, relieved. Maybe because she didn’t just give up a secret but she also got another one in exchange?
Anyway, she shared some of their experiences with me. She was SO supportive! They would drop off us kids and “go out” but really they were just home playing board games with my dad en femme. I’m so grateful for my mom. And I’m so grateful she shared this with me. It really makes me think hard about how I’m accepting (or not accepting) my husband’s cross dressing. I’m also so glad to have an ally. Someone who TRULY understands what it’s like and who I can talk to and actually am close with. What a relief.