IMO, your former counselor was a quack, who many have contributed to the negative feelings you are having. If you can, you both need to follow Kristen’s suggestion to find a counselor experienced in this subject. Yes, your husband needs to respect your boundaries; total acceptance and support of our Dressing is something we all dream of, but it is not something we can reasonably expect to come about. And would you please consider this: Apart from the possible expense burden, cross dressing is a safe and harmless activity, as compared to other possibilities, such as gambling, drugs, porn, alcohol or a sports addiction, to name a few. And his effort to temporarily “be a woman” is an area in which you are already expert – an endless source of advice and tips, should you choose to be. This will require some attitude adjustment from you, and I do hope you can manage it. Every marriage is worth saving, if at all possible. My best to you both.