I’m in the exact same situation. My SO does not approve and although she does not like it, I keep my body smooth all over. It comes with consequences. Like no intimate activities between us.
Over 2 years ago now I decided I had deprived myself and bowed to others for too long. I started going to second hand stores and buying womans jeans. Pretty generic looking at first, but then graduated to more obviously woman’s styles, and now capri length pants too. I started wearing them around the house. My SO never said a word, until one day she noticed I had amassed quite a collection! I graduated to buying woman’s boots and some flats, that look pretty generic, and now that is how I dress at home and in public. Oh and I shave my legs and everything else.
My advise to you is;
– Don’t deprive yourself (life is too short)
– Start slow, an gradually progress
– You may have to settle for a little less than what you really want to do
– Be ready to accept and live with the consequences. (Like me, no intimacy in my marriage)
I hope you find your way, and happiness!