As far as my experience, it started off in a different place than where it’s heading now. I think there are stages in this journey. For me, it started on Halloween, and I LIKED it. Maybe I fetishized it at first, but came to realize that Heather was the empathic, sensuous part of me. Once I realized that, it changed over time. I now know that it is an integral part of my being. I’m still trying to sort this out, but I recognize that part of me needs to come out and play more.
I realize that there are so many labels to what we do, which I find a bit confusing, but the bottom line, for me, is if I don’t understand my motivations, how can someone else.