i think that this is a great question and one that i always debate in my own head. i answered other as if out in public, that is not at a CDTS event, i usually try to wait until i am back at a private location (hotel or home). At a CDTS event i always use the ladies toilet and chat away with the other girls. Out in the wild if i have to go i will try to find a single occupant ladies toilet or a coed toilet (more and more of those these days). i will usually be confident enough when dressed to always use the ladies toilet and think it is less awkward anyway than going into the Men’s in a dress and heels.