I have read through some the responses and I don’t know if there are others with my trigger for cross dressing though I suspect there are others. Seven years ago my wife of 35 years and lover of 40, died suddenly. In an attempt to remain close to her I wore her nightgowns and lingerie until my daughter returned from school for the summer. I did put her nightgown over a pillow and slept in the nude holding it. Things stayed this way for about three years. Online dating was not going well so eventually to reconnect with my wife and the feel of a woman, I began wearing items I had saved and slowly added attire she once had or I wish she had had. I joined several sex sites and had a couple of meetings with other cross dressers but they felt more like encounters between two teenagers the back of a car than intimate. I’ve backed off to dressing privately, to enjoy the feel of satin, lace, and stockings, and masturbating. I have been exploring bi-sexuality and have enjoyed the company of men and women, but have avoided bringing up cross dressing. I hope to find folks who care about enjoying intimate dressing and sex vs creating a porno movie.
Denise, my condolences to you on the loss of your wife. I lost my wife to cancer 3+ years ago and I’ve gotten so much comfort from crossdressing. It’s a private thing for me and I love wearing vintage slips (Van Raalte and Vanity Fair slips are my favorites!) and retro lingerie around my apartment and I also love wearing slips and negligees when I sleep!
I’ve been CDing since I was a little kid, just something I’m “wired” for and now that I’m retired, I’m very comfortable with it and I have my own place and I can CD whenever I want, it’s so nice! It’s also a huge turn on for me CDing, just the way it is!