So Jamie, I want to through my 2 cents in on this. When I decided to take my CDing seriously it did several things for me. I had an event to shoot (I am a Photographer) that was an lgbtq event in Atlanta. The previous year I shot in the standard black shirt black pants black shoes. When I got to the event every one was in amazing costumes of all colors and descriptions. I met a CDer that was dressed as Marilyn Monroe and she was beautiful in every way. She was very tall and I would say big boned. But she was so so beautiful and I told her so. I thought about that exchange with her and I decided that I was going next year en Femme. I was so committed to looking good, I lost 40 lbs. I shaved my body I was terrible at makeup and my SO hated what I was doing but I did not care. I got dressed up and went to Sephora. They did my makeup. I went to the event and had the time of my life!!! For me it was the goal of an event to get me to really take care of myself. I just turned 62 and feel better than I have outside and inside my whole life.
Giant encouraging Hugs Hun