Congratulations, Jessica. That’s absolutely fabulous that you had the courage to reveal all. Sounds like your SO was already suspicious, as we find out later many are. Positive from this she hasn’t packed her bags and fled, or even asked you to leave. Now talking and honesty is a major player from now on. My best advice would be to move forward at her pace of acceptance, the more she see its not a treat and gets to understand your need to CD. She may very well accept it within the relationship. This acceptance and what’s acceptable is a level only known to her, once she has found that level, it’s something you are going to have adapt your dressing too, and would pushing it further result in a fracture of the relationship. I wish you both the best and good luck. Keep the communication going.